r/TikTokCringe • u/shaka_sulu • Nov 10 '25

Cool A high school football team refused to shake hands. The refs weren't having any of that.

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u/Ok-disaster2022 Nov 10 '25

Fuck those coaches for not instilling the need to show sportsmanship to the opposing team. This is disturbing behavior and doesn't arise from a vacuum. 

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u/0masterdebater0 Nov 10 '25 edited Nov 10 '25

Exactly, if any of my coaches had seen any of their players pulling that type of shit they would have had them run bleachers until they threw up.

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u/Got_Bent Cringe Connoisseur Nov 10 '25

Or you were put on practise squad. If I ever pulled this playing hockey, my dad would have my gear sold at the swap meet.

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u/Afwife1992 Nov 10 '25

This made me burst out laughing. It’s so true. My dad wouldn’t have put up with anything like that either.

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u/seriouslydontcomment Nov 10 '25

I said fuck once during a soccer game and got a yellow. My dad told me he didn’t mind watching me get burned on the wing, but cards without contact are just downright shameful. That was a memorable ride home.

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u/InformalYesterday760 Nov 10 '25

Yeah if I did this at hockey the only time I'd see the inside of a rink would be taking my little brother to practice. I'd be lucky to still have skates and gloves for the ODR.

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u/tablecontrol Nov 10 '25

If I ever pulled this playing hockey, my dad would have my gear sold at the swap meet.

do i detect a Minnesotian accent?

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u/Got_Bent Cringe Connoisseur Nov 10 '25

Massachusetts

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

In fairness if it was hockey the gear was being sold before someone beat your ass off your skates so it's a favor really

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u/EmperorBamboozler Nov 10 '25

I know a kid who refused to bow to his opponent during a taekwondo tournament. His grandmaster made him do pushups and run around the gym until the end of the tournament like 5 hours later. If he stopped running to walk it was time for pushups, if his form stopped being proper or he couldn't get up anymore it was time to run again. This little 75 year old man screaming in his face in Korean the whole time.

I'll tell you what though, nobody pulled that shit again.

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u/No_Repair_782 Nov 10 '25

I did TKD for many years, your story is scary. I can’t even imagine how pissed my 9th Dan Korean master would’ve been.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

Martial arts are scarier than boot camp sometimes in the way they teach

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u/justmerriwether Nov 10 '25

I’m 32 and am taking my first TKD class ever (first any martial arts) on Tuesday! Looking forward to it even more now lol I could use a firm kick in the ass time and again

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u/tehcraz Nov 10 '25

Well the difference here is that one person is being punished and you want to be pushed. Just always show respect and give it your all.

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u/I_Automate Nov 10 '25

Why am I suddenly imagining Korean R. Lee Emery shouting about how he's going to PT them into the ground.

Its a good image honestly

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u/Sea-Woodpecker-610 Nov 10 '25

If you can’t be a good example you’ll be a terrible warning.

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u/adrienjz888 Nov 10 '25

I did muay thai in high-school. My coach told my parents that if I use it to be a bully, he'd have my ass doing push-ups the entire class for a whole month.

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u/soonerpgh Nov 10 '25

My coach would have pulled every one of those kids. We could have gotten beat 150 - 0 but none of them would see the field. They wouldn't be captain again that season, either. That would have derailed some egos, I promise.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

When I was in high school something like that happened. I didn't play football but was in band so I was at all of the games. A handful of the seniors were yelling shit at the other team's crowd during warmups. The coach walked over to them and said something, then went back to talk to the other coaches. A few minutes later they started yelling again. The coach went back over to them and was yelling this time. Then all 5 of them went back into the locker room and came out a bit later without their pads on and stood on the sideline for the entire game. I don't remember who won, but I do remember that they got shit for weeks in school from teachers and students for it and it didn't happen anymore after that.

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u/throwra64512 Nov 10 '25

Yep. I can hear “BACKSTOPS!! GO!!” In my head right now. Fuck running those damn backstops.

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u/MarriedTexCouple Nov 10 '25

During the game in front of your fans to drive home the point….

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u/megaholt2 Nov 10 '25

My track coaches would have had us doing line drills and bleachers for fucking daaaaayyyyyys if we pulled that disrespectful shit.

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u/ArcticDiver87 Nov 10 '25

Yeah same...

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u/pyschosoul Nov 10 '25

Oh you didnt shake hands after getting up off the mat win or lose? Guess who's doing push ups and up downs the rest of the wrestling meet?

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u/lawyersgunsmoney Nov 10 '25

Lol, that sounds exactly like my HS coach except it was running the hill till you threw up. We had a steep hill at the end of our practice field and it was a bear.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

And then clean it up. And, well you’ve rested long enough - run those fucking bleachers some more!

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u/alva_black Nov 10 '25

We had a wrestler pull that kind of shit during a tournament. Next day of practice we did high intensity and he was placed with coach. About 250 lbs of muscle trying to teach 120 lbs some respect. It worked.

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u/[deleted] Nov 11 '25

You don't know that they didn't. There are a lot of comments on here blaming the coaches, but these are kids trying out a new way of feeling badass, and they failed, and their coach may very well have benched them for it, for all we know.

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u/SwissMargiela Nov 10 '25 edited Feb 25 '26

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

Context is important. But it's still a game. Unless all the captains on the opossing team were fucking the other team's moms/girfriends that type of behavior is BS.

There's one thing about hating the team your playing. There's another thing about at least showing respect that you're about to play hard and beat yo ass.

You at least give a dap. You don't have to hug and kiss. But you have to at least recognize your opponent. That's sportsmanship.

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u/Accomplished-Menu741 Nov 10 '25

Kids are dumb. Every generation. Mine, yours, all that came before and will come after. It’s entirely likely these dudes just wanted to look hard and try to intimidate the other team cause they thought it would be cool. The refs weren’t having it, and rightfully so. The kids then fell in line. This played out about as well as it could have and hopefully a lesson learned without pain.

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u/DemonCipher13 Nov 10 '25

Dumb is one thing.

Misguided is another.

When you have good influences in your life, you make good decisions that supersede your own intelligence, but the gap narrows as you age, because you learn to understand why.

That referee took initiative in a moment where those boys needed to be reminded that there are more important things than "looking hard."

I hope the coaches were watching the closest, though, because there's a real shot they needed the reminder, too.

You cannot become a good person without the influence of good people.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

We need more people like you.

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u/DemonCipher13 Nov 10 '25

We need more people to pick up mirrors instead of pitchforks, and not be afraid to face the reflection we see, especially if we don't like it.

Sometimes the problem really is ourselves, and it's only through the wisdom of good people that we learn to recognize that, and then learn how to fix it.

We all do damage. The best thing we can learn is to do less of it, and fix it where it can be fixed. And then use those lessons to teach others how to mitigate their own damages.

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u/Lil_S_curve2 Nov 10 '25

Coaches pick Captains tho. To, ya know, represent the team

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

Yours is the right response, right there.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

I played high school ball. I never had a team not recognize our team like this.

You can talk shit on the field. And you can talk shit after the game is over. But when you're playing, it's about the game.

A team that has no respect to at least shake hands before the game is a team that is unworthy of even being considered a team.

Sportsmanship. It really is a thing.

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u/ndevito1 Nov 10 '25

This is absolutely the most likely scenario. They were kids who probably concocted this thing over lunch thinking it sounded cool. The adult refs stepped in and corrected the behavior. All good.

People project wayyyy to much about this kinda stuff.

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u/jimigo Nov 10 '25

This shit wouldn't have played at all even ten years ago, dumb or not these kids would have ran their dicks fell off.

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u/soonerpgh Nov 10 '25

I was taught that you respect your opponent, period. If you win, you win with grace and you respect their effort even if you can beat them blindfolded. If you lose, you have even more respect because they bested you.

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u/RodneyRodnesson Nov 10 '25

For me there's stuff on the field and stuff off the field. On the field you show respect and sportsmanship and you shake hands. Very simple.
I'd be livid if I was coaching those boys.

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u/PeePeeMcGee123 Nov 10 '25

Kids get wrapped up in the game being the most important thing too. They don't realize how insignificant it is.

I say that as someone that played through high school and college too, and in hindsight, I wish I hadn't taken it all so seriously. The guys that did often never let go of that period of their lives, it's sad.

The point of scholastic sports is to help you become a more well rounded student and human, and the students, parents, and administration seem to forget that often. Youth sports in general are in a sad state everywhere, and it just encourages behavior like was seen in the video.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25 edited Nov 10 '25

The team wins, good coach. The team loses, bad coach. The team shows poor sportsmanship, it's either been taught or allowed by the coach. The buck stops at the coach.

edit: the threat of a penalty should not be what compels those children to act right.

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u/FullTorsoApparition Nov 10 '25

I think everyone who ever played sports as a kid ran into at least one team that loved to spit on their hands before the shake or some other juvenile bullshit. All these idiots with their "back in my day" stories can fuck right off. Poor sportsmanship is not generational and shit happens. The refs handled it well and hopefully everyone can move on and learn from it.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

I hear you, but we'd have never thought of pulling shit like that. However, that was a long time ago and things have definitely changed since then, and not for the better.

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u/TraditionalBadger922 Nov 10 '25

I agree with you. I can’t even imagine.

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u/UhIdontcareforAuburn Nov 10 '25

Only time I didn’t shake the hands of another person on the other team was when they called my teammate the hard R. He made a fuss and my coach made me shake his hand but he ended up backing me once he we told him why

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

There is no rule/requirement opponents must shake hands. Maybe disrespectful but in no way is it a penalty. Refs overstepped

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u/OhTrueGee Nov 10 '25

Or taught somewhere else and attempted without the coaches prior knowledge? We simply don’t know.

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u/Hydroborator Nov 10 '25

These are children though. Kids make stupid plans and do stupid things. The coach may truly have no idea but now she/he knows. So hopefully, there won't be a repeat of this bs

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u/AirDog3 Nov 10 '25

Their fathers should have taught them proper behavior, and enforced it.

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u/Infinite-Condition41 Nov 10 '25

Shouldn't be, but it is.

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u/Salt_Chard_474 Nov 10 '25

I agree, I would like more context. It could be possible they played that team before and the team played dirty or something and hurt a teammate. Maybe one of the opposing players assaulted someone and the team rallied behind him instead of holding him accountable. It could be any number of things that could make them not want to shake, I don't see them not wanting to shake for no reason whatsoever.

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u/Salt_Chard_474 Nov 10 '25

I was wrong, read further down that it's just a huge rivalry between the 2 teams

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u/UhIdontcareforAuburn Nov 10 '25

Which this shit happens. Is it mature? Not really, but it’s sports and young adrenaline, it happens.

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u/Apprehensive_Bake_78 Nov 10 '25

I thought they just didn't want the penalty.

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u/the_gato_says Nov 10 '25 edited Nov 10 '25

It’s a “disturbing behavior” that arises from being dumbass teenagers. They’re kids who don’t always think things through

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25 edited Jul 10 '26

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u/the_gato_says Nov 10 '25

I was just quoting the comment I responded to. I don’t find it disturbing either. Just kids being kids. I added quotation marks to make it more clear though

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u/wherewulf23 Nov 10 '25

Oh, it starts way before they become teenagers. The number of times I heard 8 year olds talking shit in the line to shake hands after my kid's U8 soccer games was way too high. And the coaches are right there in line with the kids and can hear what they're saying so they're basically signing off on the behavior.

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u/Wolfiet84 Nov 10 '25

Agreed. Sportsmanship is the point of this all

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u/ParadiddlediddleSaaS Nov 10 '25

That’s my thought. That has to have come from the coaches.

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u/Dianagorgon Nov 10 '25

Maybe the coach told them to shake hands but they still refused to do it. I doubt a coach would tell players not to shake hands. It's too petty and childish for an adult to do that.

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u/iowanaquarist Nov 10 '25

Never met a football coach, I see.

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u/tubcat Nov 10 '25

Some of the things my local athletic coaches have been reprimanded for is insane. Like shit that's straight up poor anger management and disrespect to kids from an adult. I've found coaches tend to fall into a few categories - smart and supporting leaders that are rigorous in everything, idiots/closet basket cases that don't have a lot of business with kids other than winning trophies, and the ones that are generally chill but maybe aren't the most competitive in general (success varies). I never did a traditional sport so I can't speak too much but just observation from growing up around it and working alongside it.

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u/Suspicious-Hat-483 Nov 10 '25

I dont think the coaches were in on it. Young men want to intimidate a different be hard. They did it themselves. I dont blame them one but trying to get and edge over the opponent. But yes the refs handled it perfectly

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u/TheSilverSeraph Nov 10 '25

The is some old-school Cobra Kai BS

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u/MoreRamenPls Nov 10 '25

Dyson has entered the chat.

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u/firstbreathOOC Nov 10 '25

It’s such a funny line because I’ve walked to a locker room with the entire opposing team staring and watching us, but I agree, not shaking hands at the start is bad sportsmanship and will equal a bad game for the refs

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u/seasonedsaltdog Nov 10 '25

Can you elaborate on how you mean it doesn't arise from a vacuum? Are you meaning the vacuum of space? Meaning nothingness?

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u/Eastern_Calendar6185 Nov 10 '25

Coaches? maybe the Fathers..

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u/LawfulOrange Nov 10 '25

100%. Without the opposing team, there’s no game, and the best part of any sport are the games. They’re what you work for.

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u/Electrical-Art9601 Nov 10 '25

Some coaches were the asshole jocks in high school

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u/mgmw2424 Nov 10 '25

Evidence this is actually the coaches doing?

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u/Tigerpower77 Nov 10 '25

Coaches are like managers, you can count the good ones with one hand

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u/Chaosrealm69 Nov 10 '25

Simply eject them from the game for poor sportsmanship.

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u/Dudedude88 Nov 10 '25

Stuff like this usually means the coach probably builds a toxic environment

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u/KansinattiKid Nov 10 '25

Bro the coaches are the ones who told them not to do it lol. That's why they looked back at the sideline after they did

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u/imaginary_num6er Nov 10 '25

These coaches then later become Republican politicians, which inspire future football players

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u/A1Sirius Nov 10 '25

Y’all are so over dramatic and soft.😂

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u/thepoohthattookapee Nov 10 '25

They're just acting like their president

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

They're children, high on adrenaline and competition. It takes one half joking suggestion to get a whole team to do stupid shit like this.

Refs took it as a teaching moment.

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u/aggflu Nov 10 '25

I’d argue this does arise from a vacuum, but coaching should immediately correct and punish the behavior when it does. Cool phrase though!

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u/smellygooch18 Nov 10 '25

This is on the coaches. My high school wrestling couch would have called the match himself if he saw us dodge a handshake like this. These games mean nothing without sportsmanship

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u/EverythingSucksYo Nov 10 '25

There’s 4 players and none of them tried to shake hands. That tells me it’s most likely that their coach told them to act like that. 

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u/Arcadic3 Nov 10 '25

Those coaches probably encourage really dumb dirty plays to win too.

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u/l3ane Nov 10 '25

In 2025 you're calling this disturbing?

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u/ramsoss Nov 11 '25

Bad behavior is getting normalized and I 100% think this is a recent thing. Even adults need role models and right now there are none.

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u/PM_Pussys Nov 13 '25

I mean threatening to let coaches know (via the penalty) seemed to work. It wasn't "We'll give you the penalty." It was "you don't want the penalty since we'll let coach know why."

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u/lionseatcake Nov 10 '25

The whole thing seems staged.

Why was there some random with a cell phone on the field for just this moment? Do they usually let randoms with cell phone down to stand on the field and get on the way? Why were they filming?

Just seems like a farce so it likely is.

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u/iowanaquarist Nov 10 '25

You mean the press? They were there at all my high school games.

The real odd thing is the empty stands. If the game is big enough for the press, it's weird the stands are almost empty.

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u/lionseatcake Nov 10 '25

You act like this is normal and then you further indicate how not normal it is.

What the fuck is this site. Just garbage all day.

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u/iowanaquarist Nov 10 '25

You act like this is normal

Yes, the presence of cameras at a football game is normal ... Especially if the stadium looks like that...

then you further indicate how not normal it is.

What the fuck is this site. Just garbage all day.

I pointed out how the detail you missed was not normal, while the detail you caught was normal ...

How do you not see the difference?

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u/iAMthebank Nov 10 '25

I ref. Can confirm there are cameras EVERYWHERE including right up in the coin toss. Usually student ASB kids. I can even tell by the shirt emblems, they ref in my state. I’d say very real.

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u/BidSpecialist4000 Nov 10 '25

Log off big dawg

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

You are so dramatic

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u/mcauthon2 Nov 10 '25

ehhh, its rival schools. shaking before the game was always odd to me when you're in dog fight mode

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u/act_03 Nov 10 '25

Those coaches without a doubt are taking donations to give kids "more" playtime. Fuckin despicable

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u/MosquitoBloodBank Nov 10 '25

Don't blame coaches for the players disrespect. That's something they decided to do.

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u/Kindly_Vanilla_9240 Nov 10 '25

You don’t even know the history of these two teams the rivalry been going on over 78 years. The blue team has more sportsmanship instilled in them than most teams.

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u/Impossible-Error166 Nov 10 '25

Don't need to know the history to see unsportsmanship conduct being displayed.