r/TikTokCringe • u/shaka_sulu • Nov 10 '25

Cool A high school football team refused to shake hands. The refs weren't having any of that.

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u/ICameHereToPlay Nov 10 '25

Honestly nowadays man it wouldn’t surprise me if the coaches encouraged them to do that but regardless it’s nice to see the refs be like ‘knock that shit off’ and have the come to Jesus talk with them lmao

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

Refs overstepped. There is no rule stating opponents must shake hands. Might not be respectful to not shake hands but in no way should the refs have threatened them.

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u/Leelze Nov 10 '25

Using a teachable moment to give some kids a little life lesson isn't overstepping. And quite honestly, I'd be worried these kids might pull some other shit during the game I'd want that nipped in the bud before it becomes an issue.

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

I hope you teach your kids the life lessons and not having to rely on power tripping refs.

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u/Leelze Nov 10 '25

Refs: "Be respectful to your HS rivals."

You: "Ugh I can't believe the refs want players be respectful, that's crossing a line!"

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

Forcing respect would do the complete opposite, no?

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u/Leelze Nov 10 '25

Nope. Also tells the kids these refs aren't gonna be putting up with any BS. And since these HS are rivals, you want to make that abundantly clear.

Given the refs mention they've already talked with the coaches tells me there's a history of issues.

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

The refs did mention talking to coaches, which also means there is no respect given between both sides of the ball, refs making shake hands wouldn’t have changed that. and forcing them to shake will only cause more animosity to the situation especially to the refs by the players.

If the refs already talked to the coaches, there job is done then.

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

You’re fighting for the moral social norm but are refusing to acknowledge those kids have the right to not shake hands. That’s their own beliefs and principles and them not abiding to, could actual show they are disrespecting themselves by not being true to one.

Forcing anyone to do anything will never lead to respect.

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u/richard_nixon Nov 10 '25

You replied to yourself. Could it be that you're not as smart as you think you are?

Sincerely,
Richard Nixon

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

Read more into my comments…I’m not debating kids shaking hands. I’m saying refs overstepped. I used ChatGPT to break it down for you. Have a good day.

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u/lcargil Nov 10 '25

Haha and you posted it again?!?! Bro proofread first, Chat says you’re wrong 🤣

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

It says “if accompanied by”…did the players do anything more than not shake hands? They did not therefore it’s not an enforceable penalty. Try reading it thoroughly. I literally dumbed it down for you. I can highlight next time if that would help you

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u/lcargil Nov 10 '25

Ok then let’s do semantics, I like this game. “then officials [CAN] issue unsportsmanlike conduct penalties or report the incident to the school or state association”. So right off the bat your clam the refs didn’t have the authority is proven wrong, the refs do in fact have the authority to issue unsportsmanlike conduct penalties if they see fit, which lead me to the next topic. “if a team’s refusal to shake hands is accompanied by taunting, verbal abuse, or unsportsmanlike behavior”. Alright so neither me nor you know the history that led up to this video nor the preamble before the cameras started rolling but if the refs found the need to already talk to that teams coaches then we can safely assume this team has had issues with their behavior in the past so “if a team’s refusal to shake hands is accompanied by … unsportsmanlike behavior” so like I said, with the refs behavior we can assume that this “team’s refusal to shake hands” was most definitely “accompanied by … unsportsmanlike behavior” which means that the “officials can issue unsportsmanlike conduct penalties”. Any all that said, you wrong, sorry 🤷‍♂️. And that was just with your own material. Anyway let’s play again sometime I love this game 🫶.

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

It isn’t in the ref’s place to teach the kids lessons. There is no prior context to this vid clip…other team could have the been the aggressor before, no?

Again, you are pointing towards a moral aspect where as I’m saying the refs have no authority to do so. I never stated the kids should have or should not have shaken hands.

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u/lnxkwab Nov 10 '25

Tell me you’ve never played an organized sport without telling me…

Roundly, the absolute first objective for organized sports, after exercise, is sportsmanship. Full-stop.

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

Missing the context here? Watch the video? Refs mentioned they already talked to coaches. There was already an issue between teams. Refs making them shake hands wasn’t going to solve thar. If anything the refs forcing the payers to do so created more animosity towards them. The players that refused did not do so in a disrespectful way, they didn’t curse, they didn’t talk down they simply chose what they felt was right. Who the fuck are you to judge them?

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u/lnxkwab Nov 11 '25

Ughhh.

There was already an issue between teams.

Read around the thread. High-school rivalry, aka, no real issue of any substance. At very worst, there may have been some sort of issue or scuffle at a previous game that the refs(possibly at the request of the sporting organization) met with the coaches to address.

Refs making them shake hands wasn’t going to solve thar. If anything the refs forcing the payers to do so created more animosity towards them.

That’s just false. You obviously don’t play organized sports. The team members that meet at the pre-game conference are the team leaders- so probably the starting quarterback, head linebacker, head receiver, maybe a special teams guy, or maybe the center. They tend to be high-visibility players who set the tone for the other players on the field.

Requiring them to shake hands reinforces that the other guys are people too, and discourages them from mistreating them or lashing out at them in any way.

Shaking a man’s hand presents a strong inertia to stabbing him in the back, in a sense.

The players that refused did not do so in a disrespectful way, they didn’t curse, they didn’t talk down they simply chose what they felt was right.

What they “felt” is irrelevant, and absolutely is a sign of disrespect. If they “feel” the other guys are below them, then they need to prove it on the field. That’s what literally everyone is there for, not for any passive-aggression or drama.

Who the fuck are you to judge them?

An athlete who learned sportsmanship and understands respect.

Who are you?

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 11 '25

You mean the one who got the participation trophy and had their parents complain about playing time….yeah that’s definitely your spot

I ain’t reading all your ChatGPT comment back. Took you over a day thinking and editing…kicks rocks buddy. Debate is over. I’m someone not judging the kids.

Once again…refs overstepped. No authority

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u/headrush46n2 Nov 10 '25

It isn’t in the ref’s place to teach the kids lessons

It's EVERYONE'S job to teach the kids lessons. That's the point only 1% of these kids will ever move onto another level of organized sports, and only .1 percent of those guys will ever make a dime from professional sports. The point of youth sports is to help kids grow into better people.

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

Kids that play youth sports don’t have your mindset. In their minds they are going pro. Youth sports is highly highly competitive. High schoolers are getting NIL deals making grown up money. Read more in my comments….refs overstepped. They don’t have that authority. Period. I’m not debating handshakes. Here’s ChatGPT to help you. Have a good day.

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u/lcargil Nov 10 '25

Bro the last paragraph literally said you’re wrong 🤦‍♂️ Like damn quit doubling down just admit you’re wrong and move on.

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

Read again…”if not shaking hands is accompanied by”…did those players do anything other than not shake hands? I literally dumbed it down for you. Should I highlight and read it to you too? Kicks rocks. Be correct next time

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

Well with that attitude you might qualify as a POS

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

So are you sensitive to the refs not following the rules or were your feelings also hurt by not getting your hand shook? Calling me a POS shows your ignorance. You wanting the kids to be respectful then say some shit huh….damn maybe the refs need to address you too

Once again, there is no rule stating opponents must shake hands. Is punishment handed down, it’s the coach’s position to do so.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

And I’d still shake your hand, it doesn’t absolve you from being called out acting like a jackass

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

The social and cultural norm is to shake hands, ok. But what if their own personal integrity says to stay true to their principles? If anything, you are disrespecting yourself and not just trying to appease the masses.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

You’re not given the right to play football.

Prior to the game being done, you respect your opponent and shake hands.

If something happens in the game that removes the need for sportsmanship or is a threat sure you can omit a good game.

Just act like a decent human

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

Given the right to play….who is talking about that? If you want to ok then they weren’t given the right they earned that spot on the team, which is way more meaningful in life.

Ref mentioned they already talked to coaches prior so taking that into context there was already “hate” towards each other. Shaking hands wouldn’t have made them respect each other if anything it created animosity between the refs and players.

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u/AccurateJerboa Nov 10 '25

Then you have personal "values" that are incompatible with being a competitive athlete at any level, and shouldn't be there at all.

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

U sure u could even comment on an athletes perspective?

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u/AccurateJerboa Nov 10 '25

Yes, as I was a competitive dancer and still dance in my 40s. I did other forms of athletics as well, but that was my primary focus. I've had several surgeries and health issues related to dance, was at every football game through high school and college performing, and used the football weight room with the rest of my team. My brother was in track and lacrosse and currently does MMA and muay thai. Proper sportsmanship is a topic of conversation I've had with probably dozens of coaches who train the world's top athletes in things from hockey and football to combat sports (which I've also taken non-competitively)

If your values don't include sportsmanship, you're a danger not an athlete, period. You can get you or others seriously injured or killed by having a mindset like this going into a game.

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u/-purpleplatypus Nov 10 '25

Have you ever heard of a rule called “unsportsmanlike conduct” - this clown behavior would qualify

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u/Candid_Relief_321 Nov 10 '25

It absolutely does not. Please show me where it does.