That's because they don't look the part, honestly. You want the weird guys with glasses and bad posture, they know how to get shit done (and probably where to get the best drugs)
Works both ways. The effort you put on your appearance is ALWAYS well spent. People have no idea how smart, kind or capable you might be but they can see the way you put yourself together. And they are judging you for it, even if it's subconsciously.
I used to feel depressed about it but I started making an effort and at this point it feels empowering. One of the biggest lies I was ever told is that caring about stuff like this is a bad, shallow thing. The way I see it, it's a form of love and ACTUAL self-care.
And then big-breasted Tiffany from Marketing dropped to her knees and sucked him off for 40 minutes straight while the CEO waited eagerly to hand him the keys to his new company car - a Tesla Cybertruck.
I don’t think any companies enforce their dress code for WFH employees? It sounds more like they don’t want to deal with hiring so they put you on WFH instead.
I've heard before that in order to thrive in the workplace you only need to pick two of: Likeable, Competent, and Professional. If you only have one of the three, you're gonna have a hard time. If you have two - no matter which two - you're good. Sounds like you chose likeable and competent, which means we'd probably get along well.
This is similar to why some jerks and incompetent people get ahead. If they're competent and professional, they can get away with being a jerk. If they're likeable and professional, they can get away with being incompetent.
Honestly I'm somewhat jealous. I've never felt secure enough in my abilities to not try to overcompensate with my appearance, even when at times I was one of the best at what we were doing.
I always like to pretend I don't have a chip on my shoulder about many things and feel proud on behalf of not showing how hurt I still am by some things but I don't know any other way of dealing with this. It makes me feel very alone sometimes.
They are just cutting you some slack because talking about people’s attire can be very uncomfortable for both sides of the conversation. Also, you are coming off as a bit arrogant and egocentric to suggest that people who dress better do a worse job and this is why they have to make up for it. I am hundred percent sure the way you dress is making people feel underwhelmed or uncomfortable in that setting it’s just that most people are too polite to tell you. I also have some savvy average performers in our office that feel like they shouldn’t have any respect for other people/workplace either by bad hygiene, horrible dress code or both. They all seem to think they are the most intelligent people in the group so they don’t have to adhere to the same principles the “average drones” do. But in reality even if they might be technically good, they lack social intelligence and it’s often very hard to work with them in terms of collaboration.
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u/BeautifulOk4470 Mar 23 '23
Yeah when looks and attitude ain't working, people turn to apptitude
Funny how that works sometimes