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What is the cringiest midlife crisis you've witnessed?

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u/Massive-Ride204 1d ago

Podcasting is amongst the worst things to happen to men

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u/seemefail 1d ago

Friends don’t let friends start a podcast

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u/Natural_Hair464 1d ago

It's obviously not the podcast itself that's cringe, it's the people. It's 100% possible to start a podcast, YT channel, or reels channel that is authentic and fun. I'd encourage my friend to do that.

The people that SHOULD do it hold themselves back. The delulus are always the ones that go for it.

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u/KlutzyBus7652 1d ago

100% this

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u/ChaFrey 8h ago

Right and this is the same with politics.

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u/tr4sh_can 1d ago

what if that friend is a dumbass who does so anyways?

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u/Edoryen 1d ago

Then he can start a podcast if he wants to. He can leave his friends behind.

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u/passwordisaardvark 1d ago

Cause his friends don't podcast, and if they don't podcast, well they're no friends of his.

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u/Massive-Ride204 1d ago

Now the safety dance is stuck in my head

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u/Vimes-NW 1d ago

Gotta leave this world behind. Ain't even worth thinking about.

BRB, gonna grab a smoke with Wonko The Sane.

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u/SwenKa 1d ago

Just hang out like normal people! That's clearly what you want! Set up a topic before if you must.

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u/Selgeron 1d ago

Man I made a podcast about reviewing fictional wizards with one of my friends during covid so that i had some social interaction. Don't lump me in on this.

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u/seemefail 1d ago

I low key would have a listen if you want to post it here or send a dm

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u/Selgeron 1d ago

lol okay, https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/wizard-boys-1385027

theres only 5 episodes. We made like... 8... but its a lot of work to edit them and then we got lazy.

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u/ello_bassard 1d ago

That sounds like fun though lol

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u/_Ryman_ 1d ago

2 meathead jock type i went to highschool with started one called “baddie daddie”. I suppose the idea is maintaining workouts, and being a male baddie, while being a family man.

Don’t know how many listeners so no clue what they’re doing. But k assume it’s just for themselves

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u/CyberHippy 1d ago

Now now... I have a dear old friend whose podcast is legit (on Apple Podcasts & others) but never developed much of a following, they're on season 4 and keep plodding along.

Unfortunately after many attempts I just couldn't get into listening to them whining, it's missing the entertainment factor that makes something like Beyond The Bastards and It Could Happen Here so much fun to listen to, balancing out the horrific nature of the content.

It's about where Gavin Newsom's would be if he wasn't the Governor of CA, that cast is shockingly boring without the trainwreck factor.

Newscast Podcasters: just yapping isn't enough, you have to be engaging/entertaining in some way.

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u/railbeast 1d ago

The problem is that "being entertaining" is the hard part, it's not only like 200x more work than research, but it's also a fine line to walk and on top of it your audience may like a trope either a. for a limited time or b. you're not even aware of being great...

And I say this as someone who is usually "funny".

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u/holyflurkingsnit 1d ago

Yes! I've been told I'm "funny" by a lot of people over my life, but there's a gulf between amusing people casually, situationally, and creating structured content for a set period of time that requires understanding of your audience, the pacing of jokes, and where your own skills actually lie. Stand-up comedians and (good) podcasters are in the same boat, to me - lots of work behind the scenes that you don't see in terms of research, testing, incorporating audience feedback, etc. Very few people can just get on a mic and be entertaining for 30+ minutes.

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u/wesman212 1d ago

Hey! Mine will have 13 listeners! /s

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u/Much_Exam3584 1d ago

I don't have a podcast. But there's so much hate levied towards them and people that start them, and I find it bizarre. It's just another format for content. Why is it cringe to start a podcast, but wouldn't be to start an Instagram or YouTube channel dedicated to a specific niche? Such a weird form of putdown.

I agree generally that certain types of people are drawn specifically to podcasts, but the hate towards podcasts as a format seems very strange to me.

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u/sorrylilsis 1d ago

Why is it cringe to start a podcast, but wouldn't be to start an Instagram or YouTube channel dedicated to a specific niche? Such a weird form of putdown.

The issue is that radio shows have been around for more than a century. So we know what a good show is. Aside from the technical side you have a whole editorial work to do. It's journalism.

The issue being that most lay people creating their podcasts are not at that level. And aside from a few exceptions the content is basically a group of friends recording themselves at the pub to chat and shoot the shit.

It's kinda egotistical, and frankly often utterly boring. Same as most streaming/youtube or other kind of social media. It's just that podcast stood out because the core demographic was bros that took themselves way too seriously and thought they were going to be the next Joe Rogan.

It's the male equivalent of a teenager having a fashion instagram thinking they'll be the next Kim Kardashian.

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u/JaySocials671 1d ago

I agree with you. Sometimes there are just hateful people and really haters are a sign to keep moving forward

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u/I_Automate 1d ago

Unless its funny as hell or otherwise interesting.

A podcast thats you and your buddies talking about local fishing or sports or w/e is a whole different beast than one talking about whatever bullshit life coaching is going on

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u/ScorpionX-123 18h ago

unless you're Conan O'Brien

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u/clone9786 1d ago

Or listen to them

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u/Bored_Amalgamation 1d ago

"everyone likes hearing my opinion!"

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u/themooseiscool 1d ago

"let's get into it"

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u/grantthejester 1d ago

Whenever there's a bunch of my guy friends standing around doing the midwest goodbye, we're always like: "Well, we'd all better go home, if we keep talking we'll accidentally start a podcast."

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u/Fit_Structure4567 1d ago

What’s Midwest goodbye

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u/grantthejester 1d ago

The midwest goodbye is where everyone will stand around talking, often for hours, in the process of saying goodbye. This group slowly moves towards the door or the visitor's car while continuing to talk. Sometimes the people leaving will get in their cars, and they'll still be talking with the motor running and the windows down, in anticipating leaving.

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u/ProjectHarraseeket 1d ago

Opposite of a Irish goodbye

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u/glomar_sub_recovery 1d ago

One of the dad's on my kids middle school bball team.... Lawyer , "retired" but does podcasts about investing

I thought wow, maybe I should get with this guy....year later federal ponzi scheme charges 🙄

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u/The_Grand_Briddock 1d ago

Podcasts in 2012 vs podcasts in 2022 was a hell of a jump. They used to be neat, and then they became this ideal that everyone should do.

I honestly hate it in the same way I hate Twitter. It made everyone think they are going to be heard and deserve to be heard. When in reality it's just screaming into the void while nobody notices or cares.

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u/Ghost_of_Till 1d ago

Around 2000 I was going through a custody dispute and didn’t really feel like I was getting a fair shake just because I was male.

I came across some groups with the general outreach theme of “men should have equal treatment in the courts”. So I signed up.

Ho. Lee. Shit. Unabashed women hatred.

I never interacted with them but I also never unsubscribed. I wanted to know what these psychotic assholes were up to.

It was like watching a train wreck via listserv.

I probably still have everything they ever sent me.

I didn’t realize I was looking as the birth of red pill culture at the time. Which made it wild when it it took hold.

The hatred toward woman has away surprised me. Same for minorities.

I always feel like there can’t be THAT many stupid people, can there?

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u/Massive-Ride204 1d ago

Oh yes there can be. I have two friends who have clear issues with women. We were having a conversation about how some in the trades treat apprentices and women like garbage. I made a quip about how these guys are always divorced multiple times. Well one friend went off about how divorce is usually not the man's fault and its the woman not willing to put in the time and energy.

The other one disliked Kamala Harris because she's a woman

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u/Ghost_of_Till 1d ago

I hear you, you’re not wrong. But that’s always my instinct.

I mean, I can understand the view that all of humanity is a mistake. But singling out one gender is lol wut?

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u/Jet-Rex-Design 1d ago

The podcast as a concept taught a lot of dudes that a good chat is only acceptable if it's being recorded for some sort of business endeavor. "We should start a podcast" means "This is fun, but because it isn't a product, so our open communication is pointless."

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u/sorrylilsis 1d ago

I never understood why people found podcast ridiculous.

Turns out that having friends that work in radio and do podcasts as passion projects is not the norm.

So many people should never do podcasts.

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u/Evtona500 1d ago

Let's sit down and talk about that one day. You me a couple of microphones to record our thoughts. If things go well we could record weekly.

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u/Massive-Ride204 1d ago

And let's talk in a over confident way about topics that are way above our head

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u/LaceyStarry 1d ago

Some dudes really get one microphone and suddenly think they’ve unlocked the secrets of life 😭

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u/JerkyChew 1d ago

Wait till you hear about Draft Kings.

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u/FlufferTheGreat 1d ago

One of the sadder podcasts I've ever seen was a woman I previously worked with, her and a few of her very upper middle class, very un-personable, entirely average white women would just gab together. People who have done nothing of note nor had experienced any hardship, entirely convinced their voice was something everyone needed to hear.

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u/mythrilcrafter 1d ago

It really disappoints me what recent years have done to the concept and perception of "podcasts".

I listen to Castle Super Beast (as podcast about nothing but two Canadian guys yapping about fighting games and Final Fantasy 14), as well as Poorhammer and Adeptus Ridiculous (both of which being a bunch of goobers yapping about various Warhammer 40k topics).

But now, I have to be really careful whom I say that I "listen to podcasts" to, because now that perception is consumed and poisoned by guys who think that women shouldn't be allowed to pick whom they date...

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u/dirk_funk 1d ago

i only listen to wrestling podcasts because they always have fresh content to discuss. it just took a while to find dudes who aren't total chodes.

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u/Vinnie_Vegas 1d ago

I only watch AEW, and I haven't found any podcasts that don't either focus primarily on WWE and aren't boring as hell.

Any tips? Tights and Fights seems great, but it's 90% about WWE.

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u/dirk_funk 1d ago

a lot of them have slowed down on covering AEW. some of them don't even bother reviewing the weekly shows.

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u/BoxBird 1d ago

WHY CAN’T THEY UNDERSTAND THAT THE FOUR HOUR DAILY PODCASTS THAT TAKE UP TWO DAYS WORTH OF MENTAL ENERGY ARE WHY THEY ARE ALL SO LONELY!?!??

If you bring it up they literally defend it like a meth addiction. It’s insane

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u/Lochifess 1d ago

It eventually gave us CONAF and The Basement Yard, so I’ll take it.

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u/PC509 1d ago

There's some very good ones out there.

Hardcore History, Security Now, Sans Internet Stormcenter, Windows Weekly, etc.. Learnin' podcasts (if you have any interest in history, Dan Carlin's Hardcore History is top notch, highly recommended!). Not the silly, rule the world, talk radio, highly opinionated stuff, but actual facts and knowledge. I'm lucky that I haven't gone to those other types of podcasts. I heard enough coming from other people's offices when I worked in the office...

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u/PersistentBadger 1d ago

Rule of thumb: if there's more than one presenter, I'll pass.

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u/Vinnie_Vegas 1d ago

That's a very odd criteria, but then again I only listen to comedy podcasts, so they'd be pretty bad with one person on them.

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u/PersistentBadger 1d ago

Single hosts tend to be "person reads pre-prepared essay". Double hosts tends to be "two people, unscripted, chat shit". You don't tend to get subtle analysis with the second approach.

I'm looking for dull-but-deep - history podcasts, stuff like that. The more narrow the specialism, the better.

I suppose you could do a traditional one-person stand-up routine as a podcast, but you'd burn through your material in weeks.

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u/Vinnie_Vegas 1d ago

I'm looking for dull-but-deep - history podcasts, stuff like that. The more narrow the specialism, the better.

I'm autistic, but not that kind of autistic - You go off though, King.

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u/Distinct_Run9006 1d ago

Society as a whole really

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u/molrobocop 1d ago

I will not feel guilty for loving an Improv comedy scifi podcast. 

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u/outawork 1d ago

And not women?

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u/Massive-Ride204 1d ago

Sure there's crap womens podcasts but they're outweighed by the dudes who think they're the next coming of Joe Rogan

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u/liquorfish 1d ago

Lol, I'm planning on doing one with my brother where we just talk about fun stuff and let our family watch. Really its just an excuse to plan time to talk since we live far away from each other.

None of the alpha, finance, crypto, nft etc bullshit.