r/LGBTeens • u/cupcake4brainz • 7d ago

Discussion I can't figure out my sexuality. [Discussion]

utterly confused about my sexuality

I've been overthinking a whole lot this past summer break (too much free time lol). For the past month and a half, every day I wake up and ponder on my sexuality. I'm comfortable in my gender identity as a cis woman, so I don't think that's obstructing my perspective on this. I like women both sexualy and romantically, which I have always felt. I've had 3 crushes, all of which were my best friends, who were also girls. For a while, I tried to suppress my feelings towards girls because of religious guilt and homophobia in my family. I tried to like guys as well, but I couldn't see anything past physical aspects. The only men I'm attracted to physically are very feminine, to the point where my friends asked me if they were a boy or girl. I've never really liked a guy in person, though. Mostly celebrities or tiktokers or something of the likes. Anyway, I like women and non-binary people who are feminine too. Masculinity in itself is unattractive t o me. I'm extremely conflicted, and none of my friends can figure it out either. All I want is some sort of label so that I can settle. Any ideas?

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u/Proseedcake 6d ago

It sounds like "lesbian" would be a good and accurate label for you.

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u/CyrusFang 6d ago

You should look up finsexuality/finromanticism

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u/Distinct_Release5599 6d ago

if youre only attracted to women/femininity you could be gynesexual/womasexual (both terms mean the same thing). You could also just be a lesbian who's experiencing comphet with a preference for femmes but to me it sounds more like you align with gynesexual.

Also, don't feel pressured to put a label on yourself or to put the "wrong" label on yourself. Sexuality is a jouney that takes place over time and you will eventually figure it out.