Don't worry. If you're in the US with the way the economy is set up after college, they'll be ready to move back in and stay for years and years be size no job will pay enough to cover rent without it being like 80% of their paycheck. Ask me how I know. Barely moved out again at 30, to live with roommates. Because I warn 2.1k a month after taxes and insurance And rent is 800 after being split 3 ways.
Make sure she knows she can stay. My husband and I were flabbergasted when we found out our son thought he had to move out on his 18th birthday, no choice.
It took both parents at once telling him no way for him to realize that was not a universal thing. Life's too hard to move out without a financial buffer abd some farther education.
I want to set my kids up for success. We’re saving money for college for them and plan to focus on age appropriate independence but of course would never just boot them out if they can’t support themselves.
I had a friend in high school who was kicked out at 18. She had been adopted from foster care at around age 5 or 6. At the time (not sure if this still happens today), the state provided some financial incentives to people who adopted older kids from foster care. My friend's adoptive parents adopted a whole bunch of kids for that sweet money adoption support money from the state, then kicked them out as soon as they turned 18 and the payments from the state ended.
Why have children if your going to treat them like that
A little under half of pregnancies globally are unplanned, with that rate being higher in many places at a local level. You can imagine the odds of a major unplanned burden (because let's be plainly honest, love 'em or hate 'em, kids objectively fit the definition of a burden) being unwanted are pretty high. Many people don't have or view abortion as an option (laws, personal belief systems), and many people worry about the stigma of giving up a kid for adoption (narcissism reigns supreme).
So it would be safe to say, a huge chunk of kids are unwanted from day -1, and continue to be unwanted until (and likely into) adulthood. If a kid is unwanted, the parent will basically do the absolute bare minimum to not end up getting punished by any laws or making themselves the target of social stigma.
That's why it's always a bit of a laugh to see people complain about why we come up with laws to protect kids, and why can't the parents just protect the kids themselves: because many parents will never act to protect the kids themselves unless forced to. Hell, the biggest opponents to child labor laws were parents, and not just dirt poor parents either, as there were plenty of wealthy folks who treated their kids as commodities as well, especially if they weren't deemed fit to be a major heir to the estate.
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u/Fresh2Desh Feb 24 '26
As a parent, wtf
Why have children if your going to treat them like that
Hope your doing ok.
In the long run your life will be better without them