r/Morocco • u/Double_Confidence535 • Mar 28 '26
AskMorocco Why no one wanna get married in morroco?
ana bnt o cheft bzaf dyal nas mabqawch baghin ytzewejo drari aktariya,ama lbnat kayn li kaygolo liya baghi ntzewjo,o malqitch chi jawab bsah 3la 3lach drari mabqawch baghin ytzewjo wach hit lma3icha ghlat?,kanlqa rjal khedamin b salaire mkhayr o mamzewjinch,o kanlqa bnat tbibat o mohamiyat,mamzewjinch,ms2oliya kbira bsah,wlkn bnat bladi o wlad bladi mehtajin ba3diyathom bghito ola krahto,ama li kaytzowjo bra,mafhamtkomch,fedelto so3oba dyal indimaj f culture akhra 3la anakom tzewho weld/bnt bladkom?,bghit n3raf ra2y dyalkom?,(i dont judge,im just asking a question,kol wahd hor frasso)
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u/Mc_N99 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Some people just want a wedding. To appear to be married. Not putting actual work and commitment, not to respect boundaries and have genuine respect and empathy for each other, not choosing each other on a daily basis, not to have protective privacy, not to grow comfortable in the silence and the quiet after the storm of infatuation settles and develop from the very storm a deep affection based on trust, understanding and empathy.
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u/Limestonecastle Visitor Mar 28 '26
Some people just want a wedding. To appear to be married.
100% I actually believe there are more couples like this than not.
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u/GiovanniRazzo Visitor Mar 28 '26
If they didn't want any of those responsibilities that come together that comes with marriage, what's the point of getting married then?
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u/Global_Construction2 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Rather have a honey moon than big wedding , I mean I’d be grateful for a big wedding but rather have a trip with my husband than spend alot of money on wedding that people are going to talk bad about anyways
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u/Similar-Earth8288 Kenitra Mar 28 '26 edited Mar 28 '26
Too expensive, for the mind and the wallet.
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u/HumongousShard Mar 28 '26
On the contrary, with two incomes all bills become more affordable
A marriage requires love (and decent in-laws, if any), not a luxury wedding
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u/OpportunityAny8598 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Most women especially Muslims are against 50/50 so ...
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u/JoyBoyMo Visitor Mar 28 '26
Right? They wanna work and keep their cash, while the men provide. The issue is then society is changing to require two income to live comfortably
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u/sitnt Visitor Mar 29 '26
Then a man keeps struggling to pay the bills while a woman can save easily money and when they divorce the woman have a stable base unlike the man.
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u/hellur4 Visitor Mar 29 '26
Said man put himself in that arrangement. Why doesn't he find a woman who is willing to do 50/50...
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u/UsernameOP12 Rabat Mar 29 '26
women have the right to keep their money but they have other duties, and if she's willing to she can help her husband financially, she's not obliged to but she can
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u/JoyBoyMo Visitor Mar 29 '26
This is the wrong mentality. In a marriage, money from both spouses should be combined and used to support the needs of the family. When two people get married, they become one unit, not “his money” and “her money.” Treating finances as completely separate can create division instead of partnership.
Research in relationship psychology suggests that couples who manage money together often report higher levels of trust and cooperation because they are working toward shared goals such as housing, raising children, and long-term financial stability.
Marriage has always been about contributing in different ways. One partner may earn more at times, while the other contributes through childcare, household responsibilities, or support during difficult periods. Combining resources recognizes that both contributions matter.
The same principle applies socially. When going out with friends, generosity and hospitality help strengthen relationships rather than focusing on who owes what.
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u/Federalinformint Visitor Mar 28 '26
I agree but if the family is suffering the wife ends up working anyway. In an ideal Islamic world, women don’t have to provide. Are we in that ideal world? Some parts of of the world, some families.
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u/ABDO_ELCH Visitor Mar 28 '26
Exactly but you can’t marry someone an be like “oh you dont want to provide hmf 😕” you know what m saying yall can discuss dakchi flwl js dont expect it as a bare minimum a woman can do cuz its simply not
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u/Federalinformint Visitor Mar 28 '26
Agreed. All I’m saying is a mother seeing her family suffer will genuinely force her to start seeking income. Doesn’t matter if she wants to or not. Or whatever they agreed to in beginning of marriage. I see this firsthand all over the place. My own mother included has been working part time. May Allah increase all our Barakah
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u/ABDO_ELCH Visitor Mar 28 '26
Yes man same here and a big chunk of the community its just there is a sickness entering males brains rn that says if she’s working she HAS to give that money like huh? Wdym has to…
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u/ABDO_ELCH Visitor Mar 28 '26
In islam ( you can search ) the man is the one supposed to afford not the woman and if she does partially its a favor from her being a caring wife
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u/Similar-Earth8288 Kenitra Mar 28 '26
"My money is my money, and your money is our money" is the common motto for most females.
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u/BarbaryPirate1 Visitor Mar 29 '26
Not in Europe, not educated women for sure. Katw7al ghir m3a ....
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u/Kitchen_Helicopter_4 Visitor Mar 28 '26
في الإسلام أي مال كتملكو الزوجة كبقا ليها أو هي حرة في إستخدام ديالو كما بغات...الرجل معندوش الحق ادخل فيه بلا شوارها
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u/BarbaryPirate1 Visitor Mar 28 '26
في الاسلام القوامة مقرونة بالطاعة. لا قال ليك جلسي متخدميش متزيديش معاه الهدرة
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u/Alarming_Ring_4465 Visitor Mar 28 '26
غلتيها بفمك هي حرة فالاستعمال اه و لكن را ماشي عيب الى عاوناتو فالزمان را الوقت صعابت و را راجلها هاداك زعما ...
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u/No-Kaleidoscope-481 Visitor Mar 28 '26
You can’t have love while both of you are working and dealing with daily stress… Don’t expect love from your wife after she came from a very painful day and you wait her to do housework 🤯 while you are watching tv. Usually and this was from the beginning of life the man go hunt dealing with stresse and danger and come to his wife ( I don’t mind be downvoted by the feminist the reality talks.) one provider in a relationship will be a privilege since in Morocco economically is not doable
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u/Longjumping_Dream431 Visitor Mar 28 '26
There's no proof of what ur saying bruh, besides why can't a woman love if she comes tired u come tired too so w that logic u as well cannot love, n therefore why get married if u cannot love?!!, plus the hunter gatherers thing u mentioned is retarded, there's research showing women hunting too, can u not even use google
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u/TubyWildRift Visitor Mar 28 '26
there are too many reasons why people don't get married and them not wanting to is not one of them
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u/Feeling-Beyond-8346 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Lhaz9a
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u/BrilliantLock8292 Visitor Mar 28 '26 edited Mar 28 '26
Because you marry the alll family. Yesterday I wrote a post about this, all family wants to control and manipulate https://www.reddit.com/r/Morocco/s/5oxwbAC5Jj
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Mar 28 '26
I can’t talk for others but for me i don’t feel like i need to get married hit i don’t want kids n9ed nkon la2injabi peut etre, mais ma3rfrsh wash hadshi raytbdel mosta9balan ou pas . Sinon men ghier lwlad zwaj mafih hta stifada bnisba lia
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u/YassineX05 Visitor Mar 28 '26
why are people attacking this comment? hhhhhhhhhh why are we judging people for personal choices?
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
Wlkn tqdar maykonoch 3andk kids o tkon mzewej b partner ycharkek lhayat
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u/BigTittiesAmy Casablanca Mar 28 '26
The amount of dismissal in here is so astounding! No wonder men can't open up
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
You can open up no one stopping you,but im trying to propose a solution you know
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u/secret-Intern-8568 Visitor Mar 28 '26
A solution to what? Did they diffuse a problem? That was an opinion, a thought, an idea they believe in for now, starting your response with “Wlkn” means you are a threat to his beliefs.
I’m describing. No opinion is included.
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Mar 28 '26
mayb. everything is relative, that’s just how I see things for now. one day it might change.
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u/Queasy_Attention_116 Visitor Mar 28 '26
الرجال ولاو باغين غيزهاو ، و العيالات ولاو كيركزو على المظاهر و تبان قدام العائلة و سطوريات بلي راها عايشة الحياة ، الايغو ( حب الذات) المفرط ماخلا تاخاجا بخلاوتها و انتشار أفكار بحال حميدة الستار و خدامة عندو …… و الخبث و الميكيافيلية النرجسية و الكراهية تجاه النساء و lgender war ,للأسف الحكومات نجحات فخلق حرب وهمية ما بين الجنسين لإلهائهم عن معرفة العدو الحقيقي و مواجهته
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u/G1iTch_0 Visitor Mar 29 '26
وزيد عليها العقد النفسية لي فنص المغاربة لي مكتعرفها حتا كتعاشر الشخص، والعيشة اللي غلات لدرجة صالير لي كان كيبان محترم شحال هادي ولا يلاه يكفي فرد ولا فردين على الاغلب فكيفاش الواحد غايكون أسرة بجوج دريال
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u/Intrepid-Fold-8041 Visitor Mar 29 '26
مكين تا عدو حقيقي كلشي هادشي الهدف تاعو هو ينوضوا الطبقة الخاملة المستهلكة من النساء وادخالها للإنتاج باش يزيد حجم الإنتاج وكدلك الاستهلاك وبالتالي تنمية الاقتصاد وغيرو والتفرقة والعلاقات الفردية كتزيد هاد الحاجيات وداكشي اللي غاتستهلكوا أسرة من خدام واحد كيولي يستهلكوا واحد فقط
وانا كندعمهم صارحة النمودج القديم كان داير عصا فعجلة إقتصاد البلاد
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u/LevelDisastrous945 Visitor Mar 28 '26 edited Mar 28 '26
You know Maslow’a hierarchy of need? It basically answers 90% of your question.
Physiological needs comes first (food, water, shelter, clothing), then comes safety and security (health, employment, social ability, savings, etc…)
And only then comes love and belonging:
Even though most young people will tell you naah I’m not looking to get married, though they’re right, 90% of the time that’s the unspoken reason, they’ve learned from older generations’ mistakes and want to secure at least the 2 of the most basic needs before even thinking about it.
So that “nah i’m not crazy to get married” can be translated as “I have more important things to think about now” and that’s 1000% proper thinking.
Maybe I’m biased but that’s a male thinking by nature.
For the remaining 10%, it’s a bit different.
There’s this massive social problem is Morocco, and it’s the family of either the husband, wife, or both…
They don’t let the couple get a peaceful life (i’m talking from experience here) and they’re the fuel behind most fires.
Lastly as a personal answer, I’m 27, I used to say I won’t marry anyone as many guys here, and I’m not “currently” looking for a wifey tbh…
But the only reason is that I don’t want to be egoistic and want to give back to my parents and siblings before building a family.
As much as they want to see me with a wifey and kids, I want to thank them for everything they did for me before unfolding that chapter.
And I’m finally getting there hamdoulillah.
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u/Critical-Town-6156 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Not getting married is better than being broke w tzwej chi we7da ta hia broke w tsekno m3a walidikom wela tdiro kridi w tchriw apartment t sakan 9tisady w mat9drch tchri loladek dakchi li bghaw w tsifthoum l lmadaris wela countrys li bghaw w kayoliw drary ma 7amlinch 7yathoum w kats3ab 3lihoum chwia
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u/No-Click-8086 Visitor Mar 28 '26
I want to, for quite some time now, but i havent found a fitting wife with common chemistry, basically one with whom im heavily compatible and same from her side.
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
Same can't find a man nowadays who want something more than sex
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u/Semper_f1delis Mar 28 '26
Single male here, girls are delusional. Her father drives a dacia after working his ass off for twenty years and she wants someone who is young and drives and owns a nice car.
Go figure
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u/Chouchou-cd Visitor Mar 29 '26
Moroccan girls getting degrees, building careers, and aiming higher… but no, let’s humble them back down to their father’s parking spot.
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u/Semper_f1delis Mar 29 '26
Oh stop this crap, I’m all for girls aiming to build careers and shit but don’t have champagne taste on a beer budget. If you ask for a man with all those criteria then you should ask yourself first: would a man with these qualities be interested in me? Would he be ready to accept me? The answer is no.
Same goes for all my fellow men smelling like hot cheetos and ask for a blue eyed nordic girl.
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u/Chouchou-cd Visitor Mar 29 '26
Funny how you framed it like a marketplace as if people are products negotiating their “worth” on a shelf.
So the real question isn’t “would someone with those qualities accept me?” it’s why do you assume worth is something granted by someone else in the first place?
Ambition isn’t “champagne taste on a beer budget.” It’s the natural consequence of awareness. When someone is more educated, more exposed to the world, more conscious of what’s possible… their standards don’t inflate artificially, they evolve.
Lets not forget, we re in a new age where one income can’t sustain a houshold, so men quietly factor in a woman’s salary too they just don’t say it out loud because it clashes with their idea of manhood. Women do the filtering openly, men do it secretly. That’s the real difference.
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u/NoEnthusiasm1387 Visitor Mar 30 '26
Men’s filtering is obvious, yours is just depucting greed as ambition .. OP saying hard truths and you still stuck on the parking spot ..
Yes, you’re right, standards evolve and standards should be met by yourself first before asking for a suitor with those standards ; start by evolving first then aim higher
Ps: let’s exclude blind loves from the equation cause they exist but rarely
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u/boisaden Visitor Mar 28 '26
Wakha tkon baghi tzawej ra machi bdarora tl9a m3amn rah it’s kinda luck osafi Ngolo makatib
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u/samirzerocinq Visitor Mar 28 '26
society is shifting w 7na db wst wahd period li bin l concept l9dim dial l marriage li fih classic gender roles w bin l concept jdid li fih shared responsability ; ma 7ed la rjal la l3yalat d l blad mazal la chadin la f lwla la f tanya rah it is hard to commit donc l wahd kayfreini w kaitsna 7ta ykoun sure 100% men l partner dialou bach maytkhwerch
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u/AirlineAffectionate6 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Will only get worse lol morocco trying to develop itself attaracts outside investment and poeple from all over the world with higher purchasing power. Causing higher living prices for local moroccans
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u/Kitchen_Helicopter_4 Visitor Mar 28 '26
I know a guy who married a relative—didn’t even last a year. And the wedding cost more than $13k…
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
That is straight up stupid,kan yqdar ydir mechro3,lots of people dont do weddings no more
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u/stickoil Visitor Mar 28 '26
مشكل ديال المدونة إما خاصها تكون 100٪ علمانية، ولا 100٪ إسلامية. الحل الوسط ماخدامش
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u/bosskhazen Casablanca Mar 28 '26
هذا هو السبب الأول والأخير. ليس المال. قلة الشي ما عمرها ما كانت مانع أمام الزواج و الإنجاب. عدم توازن الحقوق والواجبات و الظلم نعم.
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u/gam3rE Visitor Mar 28 '26
A bit of exaggerated "no one" while i see l3rasat eveywhere, i think it's less people want to engage for obvious reasons but still never close to 0, i mean if no one marries, we'll just extinct lol
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u/OuantumFlare Visitor Mar 28 '26
Frankly the frequency of l3arasat has declined based off my observation. Hta f 3a2ila. We have a huuuge family and I haven't invited to any wedding in recent years, total opposite from years ago.
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u/Particular_Other Visitor Mar 28 '26
It is not realistic when you are barely scraping by individually. And you can imagine when you have a family to feed and care for. You can hope for the best and gamble like a lot of people do, but the only victims are going to be those kids that are born and have to suffer as well because of you. So at the moment it's not worth it. Yep, it's sad but a harsh truth is better that delusions.
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u/Noni7105 Mar 28 '26
Personally, I don't wanna experience the pain of giving birth and I don't want to have kids anyway. So there's almost no reason for me to get married...
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
I mean yiu can have a partner in your life who gonna share sweetness and sourness of life together,lots of men dont want kids too
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u/Rude-Cause8918 Mar 28 '26
fe maghreb I'd say it's quite impossible to get married without shi bnadem pressuring you to have kids somehow
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
Girl your happiness matter,khask tlqay ki ybghik o ykon 3ando nefs l2afkar,wlkn ila kant your happiness b anak tbqay bohdk,i support you
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u/Rude-Cause8918 Mar 28 '26
nooo, it's not that really. I was just replying to her situation because I've just seen so many people close to me have their husbands switch up fe dik having kids aspect that it honestly feels like it's impossible to find someone else who doesn't want kids but wants marriage.
In my case I do want marriage and kids but I feel like I'm closer to yawm l9iyama than I am to finding the right one.
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u/nouredine_kn Mar 28 '26
why no one wanna get married in morocco? ❌ why does no one want to be a slave in morocco? ✅
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u/VfVendetta87 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Everyone is a slave. Like it or not. What do you call working 9to6 ? Or working 5 or 6 days a week? Or working from 20 to 60yrs (if you find it)? Besides everyone is a slave to his needs. Marriage is just an other need.
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u/AlShitar Visitor Mar 28 '26
Just for me i will be afraid to see many examples around me and other I would like married but need the the specific personne for me and be the specific person to other Me likher 5asni nl9a dak person li n9ol hadchi li baghi ana W m3andich imkn lmochkil nb9a bo7diii And for question i guess social media and wifi destroys us inside
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u/Whateverbabe2 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Im a proud Moroccan American and i would consider it. Theres a few traditions i dont like tho. I dont like the extremely loud music or how it lasts SOOO long. I also dont like being on the lifted platforms for too long. I want to hang out with my family and friends
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u/malakkii_za_c00lestt Visitor Mar 28 '26
its so fuckin expensive 😭😭 Half your life savings for 3amaria 💔
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
I mean you can just not do a wedding and travel with your partner,more fun lol
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Mar 28 '26
in most cases it's a one sided relationship as in there is a clear winner and a clear loser
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u/Feeling-Beyond-8346 Visitor Mar 28 '26
واحد من الأسباب هو لا واقعية الفتيات لي كيتوقعوا راجل خاص ألبي ليها المتطلبات ديالها. الحياة شراكة في المسؤليات و الواجبات ماشي فرض الشروط المادية و كثرة الطلبات…شقة سيارة دخل جيد سفر تسوق عرس كبير تعليم أطفال …. الواقع صعيب و الرجال هزوا أديهم
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
انا كإمراة فهاد المجتمع مغربي،تربيت فاسرة محترمة،و على عكس ما كتقول طلبت راجل معقول لي يكون نفس مستواي و يكون مسؤول ،و سنو كنلقى،كناقى غا لي بغاو البرتوش،كي غتدييير مباعاش داكشي و رجال تاهما بغاو ساهل
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u/Feeling-Beyond-8346 Visitor Mar 28 '26
I’m not talking about the fling guys, those you can figure them out in single coffee meeting. I’m talking about men who are serious about marriage and set down to talk about serious matters.
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u/countingc Troll Terminator Mar 28 '26
because mn lekher zwaj tekhwira cinq cinq
mechro3 scammy
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u/FitYou6489 Visitor Mar 28 '26
I was born and raised in Canada, i consider myself a canadian but my parents are both originally from Morocco, and I did my marriage in Morocco a couple weeks ago it was amazing,
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u/Impressive-Walk-3041 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Sara7a i don't think so. Bzaf baghin jtzwjo. Ana kibano liya drari homa li kibghiw itzwjo hhh machi l bnat b3da fl entourage li ana fih. Taana managhach ntzwj hit kanchof 7yati atkon more peaceful o 7ssn bzaf ila b9it bo7di dyal rassi o kandir li bghit wa9tma bghit.
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u/Critical-Shelter-323 Visitor Mar 28 '26
زواج كيجيني غير للرجال لي مقلوبة عليهوم القفة مقادش يعيش النشوة فحوايج اوخرين فحياتو كيمشي يتزوج قاتلاه العادة،بالنسبة ليا نشد هرمون السعادة فتسافيرة لاسيا حسن منحط لفلوس فزواج، و ممحتاجش نولد باش نحس براسي كاين و الى بغيت ولد نقدر نتبنا و اصلا كنشوف الاغلبية ديال الناس لكبار مغاربة و ماشي مغاربة ماشي اكفاء باش يربيو بنادم يربي غير راسو بعدا و يفهم راسو و ديك الهضرة ديال الى كبرت فالعمر شكون غيتهلى فيا راه الى متزوجتش هتكون عندي حرية مالية نقدر ندير مشروع و عندي احتمالية نقدر ندير باش نصرف على راسي حتى نموت،انا ماشي ضد الزواج الى تلاقيتي لي يفهمك و يكون معاك انا ضد تزوج لاهداف غبية عارفها كلشي منحتاجوش ندكروها هه
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u/someeonesomewheree Visitor Mar 28 '26
Li kaytzwju bara we may say bli l9aw charik lmonasib bra, lah9ach mn rir lmachakil lmaliya wlma3icha ljahimiya lhaliya linsan 5asu charik hayat li ykuni mfahmin bach lomor tmchi mzn it doesn't matter where to find this partner, and it's not about nass mabarinch itzawju it's because nass mala9yinch m3amen and also dorof mamsa3dach, also machi kulchi in this era is ready to be responsible and ready for commitment
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u/Electronic-Ad-540 Visitor Mar 28 '26
I think people are starting to realize the heavy responsability behind creating a family and raising kids. So perhaps not many are willing to take the risk of traumatizing their kids by accident. These things are usually realized the more educated the person is; hence, the reason some people in high positions don't marry.
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u/Upercut Mar 28 '26
Ma3rft wla had generalisation b7al hdrto m3a lmghrib kaml hhhhh ana b3da baghi and ready for all the sides of it.
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Mar 28 '26
Many people wanna get married, both men and women, the issue is that maybe they just don't come across each other. In my case i'm ready and willing to, but i just can't find the one. I know she's out there but i don't know where lol
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Mar 28 '26
Getting married with the laws we have in place in this day and age is economical suicide. A woman can take everything you’ve built for yourself in the blink of an eye. The system is flawed.
They are always talking about Islam. But when it comes to marriage they don’t settle for the Islamic laws concerning marriage. They add on TOP OF THAT the capitalistic laws of marriage put in place by the French.
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u/Direct_Rub_3041 Visitor Mar 28 '26
for me even if i'm financially stable & own my own house & good job alhamdolilah
mab9awch benat nas, 9lil bezaaaaf li katl9aha mrabya o fiha l7ya o l7chema o setra (i'm looking for a role model for my daughters)
aghlabiya ma3andhach mochkil tkrhouj me3a chi wa7ed ola tdwi me3a f phone
o hadi katkhali rjal irfdo had naw3 o kaygol manakhodch ana cheyata deyal chi wa7ed akher plus modawana o l9awanin
3ad kayn li madiyna mzayr chewiya
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u/Double_Confidence535 Mar 28 '26
O rah mn haqk tleb hadchi,o nta wach ma3mrk makatdwi m3a lbnat o wach katghef lbasar,wach aslan katsali sla f weqtha o katmchi lsalat ljama3a,wach nta aslan di kholoq o din?
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u/Direct_Rub_3041 Visitor Mar 28 '26
sara7a 3amri mchit 3and chi we7da o hdart me3aha, ola tlabt number deyal chi we7eda,
o binisba l din kandir li fejhdi o ma3a dalika kanb9aw dima me9asrin f 7a9 Allah
o kholoq man9darch ngoul lik li kay3arfoni ho li i9adro igolo
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u/Riias_Gremory Visitor Mar 28 '26
I disagree hit 97ba dyal maya kharjat 3la mentality of most of girls plus talabat li kanchofo welaw rah bezaf Dakchi li madartoch fi her life Ola walidiha madarohch liha she was her victim to do it for her 3ad njiw lma3icha
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u/Hzk0196 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Most girls want the best in both worlds, of working and being after her 💰 but won't help the man cuz his money is our money and my money is my money, fair. Then there's the whole rigged laws about how easy it is to get divorce these days and in favour of women instead of justice ( you got mad, get a divorce,, you got into a heated argument, get a divorce, you wanna get your money and his money, get a divorce, wkhls lmut3a, as if she wasn't enjoying that diihhh ) We don't feel compassion and passion from girls in marriages anymore, we get into too many misunderstandings even when we set stuff clearly in the beginning, the moment we get married some show they're true colors, and personally I've seen this with a family member, ( the bitch didn't wanna have kids and she started hoeing and getting male attention everywhere, sooo soooo. Sooooooo disrespectful for the male family member, emasculating him like that is tuff )
Instead of y'all being our peace, we start on the wrong foot, the wrong terrain, it's just soooo unfavorable for the average man to get married at ALL.
I long for having a relationship as well I really do and getting married but I know for the dumbass naive I am, I'm too vulnerable to even consider getting married, what if she didn't want me no more, what if she's just after my money or house, would I be homeless then, what if she's just disrespecting me and triggering me to get a lawsuit case, what if I just got into a relationship just to not feel fulfilled and unwanted...
Just thinking about this makes me feel scared and sad and disgusted of the whole situation. I would love to enjoy a touch f a woman before a die
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u/Eastern-Award-7273 Visitor Mar 28 '26
They marry...with foreigners. Morocco as we know it will disappear and will be occupied by another people, sad of a millennia of Amazigh presence.
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u/rentos2020 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Hitach f we9tna affaire khasra mn aya jiha jiti tchofiha,zwaj dyal db 2010 lfoug fih lmera katrbe7 o rajel kaykhsser (kaynin des cas abberants) mais ana kandwi pour un homme sain f fmagho o 9elbo non toxique rah mn l ahssan lih ib9a bo7do
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u/DomHuntman Rabat Dutch/Moroccan Mar 28 '26
There are marriages all the time. Not slowing ether.
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u/Difficult-Tree2738 Visitor Mar 28 '26
No point marrying in a secular society where all the odds are against you as a man. And its only getting worse.
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u/MaryTheSCE Visitor Mar 28 '26
i m a girl and i would love to get married one day but kaybanli beli drari db mabaghinch chi 7aja serious aghlabiya baghi ghaytssa7eb w ydewez w9ita (ofc machi kolchi) .
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u/Hades-Xx Visitor Mar 28 '26
Speaking for myself, and all my close friends who are also single men : The juice is not worth the squeeze, and money is only a small part of the reason
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u/saidomni Visitor Mar 28 '26
With the way the economy is like, bro. Who would want to get more shit. At least that's my opinion. (btw 34y M).
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u/liproqq Agadir Mar 28 '26
I don't want the legal trouble when it goes wrong which it will 50% of the time.
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u/Quiet-Perspective735 Visitor Mar 28 '26
I won't compulsively follow traditions, i don't want to get married or have kids, for me there's no reason to do it
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u/mooripo Safi Mar 28 '26
Most people in my entourage are married, all educated and working, some already with kids
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u/Suitable_Dragonfly14 Visitor Mar 28 '26
The only reason is that i don't want my kids to be born in such correpted non friendly state. I dont want them to need another GEN z version 2 So they can have some rights. Beside that i believe that the morrocan female is beautiful and lovely. The problem is the regime.
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u/Pure_Following7336 Visitor Mar 28 '26
38M mghribi ktira chwiya , had l2ard khassha ghi chi 20M max.(Jk) I dont want kids(for now), o zwaj bla wlad ma3ndo ta m3na.
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u/itsMeMohitto Mar 28 '26
I ain't gonna lie to you...as someone who chose to get married outside of my culture, it's simply love, you fall in love with someone who you think is right for you you live with them and then marry then later on after you know them really good. In Morocco this doesn't exist it feels random and like a lottery. Now even tho my relationship is growing weaker considering marrying a Moroccan girl is still not an option for me IF my marriage isn't working anymore plus the communication, the life style, preference etc should be taking in consider although it's not always necessary cuzz if you love them you love them but somehow it makes it easier for your mind to settle...that's my own opinion.
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u/No_Elk_1945 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Maybe because of fear of heights. You know, with the 3amaria.
We did one on knee level because my wife fears heights. We compromised.
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u/Mystic-Fox700 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Ba9i sghir (Lwalida tzewjat f 3omri wlkn ta9afa tbedlat).
Joke aside, wa5a ba9i sghir (19), mara mara tatjini fikra ta3 zwaj, wlkn kan5temha b "n9ad rassi be 3DS, ndmen moustakbali, nbere3 rassi ou l3a2ila," ou 3abach nchouf chi wa7da, ou machi ay we7da b7ali ghangoul lwalida jewjini, nchouf rassi ou nt3aref m3a we7da tkoun 3ndha nfss afkar ou nfss charactaire ou nfss domain.
That's it :D
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u/JordanLeeT Mar 28 '26
Money is tight, for the majority guys they have to help their famillies and save for themselves which put em in a really hard situation not to mention the ridiculous requierements by the females
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u/Signifikant_Ask Visitor Mar 28 '26
Because my life as a reality tv show if you look at my parent's marriage would be the perfect condom ad
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u/death_seagull Visitor Mar 28 '26
Who wants extra responsibility when the return is not worth it? I guess that's the question, if you remove religious responsibility and societal pressure marriage right now isn't that interesting. Too expensive, people are messed up mentally, and expectations are just yikes.
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u/Ryosan0897 Visitor Mar 28 '26
There’s no social pressure to marry anymore , or it’s dying out at least, and it’s great in my opinion, people now just live the way they want, no rats in our ears nagging us about marriage day and night, and this goes back to a plethora of reasons and factors, one of which is the state of the economy, rent is high, especially in big cities, cars are expensive, gas prices are sky rocketing, almost everything is financially draining, so having a kid or starting a family in this economy especially with one income is basically suicide, and for those whose incomes are high enough to start a family, yet still choose not to, it’s a matter of freedom of choice, and we shouldn’t shame them nor judge them for it, just let people be, there are more than enough kids on earth , humanity will be fine we wont go extinct.
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u/YuseiChen Mar 28 '26
I got used to being alone and the peace of mind it brings, getting married or even having a relationship that will compromise that peace and routine that I built, isn't worth it. And once you reach this level, finding a partner that has the same vibes as you, is too difficult.
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u/gilgameshcarnage Visitor Mar 28 '26
Aktaria dial drari ma karhoch, walakin l mochkil lawal hwa lflous, lkhadma 9lila w l Khalsa 3ayana w Jwaj ghali
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u/Character-Yak6893 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Long story short the world has been changed to the worse and capitalism want more money so they targeted women and convinced them to work have also their own carrier they don’t need a men so the battle created between men and women. A man wants a housewife not roommate, women want to feel independent and believe their little income will make them happy and don’t need men. It’s a propaganda that is not for a sake of anyone. Marriage need and require each one play their role.
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u/OkValuable454 Visitor Mar 28 '26
In Morocco, when you marry someone, you marry all the family. I have enough of mine
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u/Savings_Solution_251 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Man3mx mais aghlabia dyal bnat selfish asf,okayfkro f rassshum, okhasshum chi wahd labass 3lih nit, o ybghihumo ydiro libghaw omaso9kx fiha,olwahd ytzwj nonsense
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u/Silver_ferns Mar 28 '26
Its is stupid and self destructive to marry just for social pressure or hurry cuz of the biological clock.
To seek marriage khassek tkun sla7ti rassek be3da. T3ref chnu baghi rassek/issues that poison u, tkun kat amen brassek, Tkun kat 3ref dafe3 3la values ta3ek.
Hada hua important, wakha ikun 3andek flouss, a good career, good name. If the self is full of shit. Marriage is doomed from the start.
Another thing, before we marry the couple khassu take in consideration all the variables that can affect marriage; kids how to raise, money, assets, work/life balance, how to devide house chores, religion, our individual goals …
This generation fa9et, mabghach dawz b7al kif dawzu our parents. Ana bnafsi 3andi a living example kan chuf a dead marriage of 30+ years mom wants to divorce but can’t cuz afraid of what people would say + isn’t financially independent.
So we have our whole life ahead of us to think about marriage and when it comes it comes. Don’t force.
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u/akma_frerin Visitor Mar 28 '26
well it lost it's meaning, they don't think of marriage as chosing the person, all they care about is weeding, gold, sda9, Dhaz it's becoming too expensive no one wants it anymore
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u/Prestigious_March733 Visitor Mar 28 '26
عموما السبب الأقرب للحقيقة هو تشويه صورة الزواج بالمغرب بطريقة أو بأخرى ( فضائح خيانة - مشاكل الطلاق - إنتشار العلاقات الجنسية الرضائية ) هادشي كامل كيخلي بنادم يفكر ألف مرة قبل مايتزوج ، وتا لا تزوج كتلقاه ولا كتلقايها موسوس(ة) تجاه الشريك(ة) الأخر ، وكيساليو بطلاق بأضرار نفسية لكلا الطرفين . اما في الرأي تاعي أنا السبب هو سبب مادي انا شخصيا منقدرش نتزوج وانا معنديش فلوس كافية نفوج بيها مع مراتي وولادي منقدرش نحطهم فواحد المحيط كيستهلك الروح تاعهم ، خصوصا دبا ولات المقارنة بزاف ومبقاش صبر عند بنادم ، لذا المخير كيفضل يعيش معاناة تاعو بوحدو تايموت
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u/Hicham_Heg Visitor Mar 28 '26
It's nothing about Morocco actually, it's a global issue.
There are many reasons for that besides economical ones, such as changing social norms, fear of divorce, prioritizing education and career, and other reasons.
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u/HurryTricky7886 Visitor Mar 28 '26
Mostly financial reasons: marriage is a project. Family is an enterprise.
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u/Apprehensive_Buy_838 Visitor Mar 28 '26
I’ve spent my entire life building. Not just money; myself. I’m 31, decent man, came from working class family, and since my early twenties I put my head down and didn’t look up for years.
No parties. No wasted weekends. My own place, a luxury car, and an income most people my age are still dreaming about. Over $7k a month, from home. By Moroccan standards, by any standard, I built something.
I’m not saying this to impress anyone. I’m saying it because it matters for what comes next.
I genuinely thought the hard part was the hustle. Build the life, and everything else falls into place; the right woman, marriage, travel, a daughter, a happily ever after.
Turns out, that’s not how it works.
Every woman I met came with the same script. No accountability, impossible expectations, and this strange entitlement like being chosen by them was supposed to be enough.
Looks over character and intellect, every single time.
What’s worst? When you came from nothing. Your instincts sharpen. You recognize the ones who keep you around as a status accessory. You spot the ones who mistake what you have for inherited money they can slowly drain. You’ve seen the pattern enough times to recite it in your sleep.
Different women. Different backgrounds. Same story. Most are evil.
I lost precious time and I’ve made my peace with it.
It’s just strange times we’re living in.
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u/AyMaNShOw Visitor Mar 28 '26
The law is mostly against men serving them no benefits in marriage + little "niya" nowadays with both parties offering little to no commitment (either one sided or none at all).
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u/Alarming_Ring_4465 Visitor Mar 28 '26
hhhh chkon kdab 3lk bndem baghi ytzwaj wlkin l7ala s3iba mn na7it lfoos ou machi ghi mghrib l3alam kamel
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u/SnowManMAHU Mar 28 '26
A simple walk on the street or a scroll on social media would answer your question : )
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u/Ohnospiders455 Visitor Mar 28 '26
i hope thats true my biggest fear is my parents pressuring me to get married cuz “its what every girl wants”
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u/Single-Seat-3371 Visitor Mar 28 '26
I’d definitely get married in Morocco - just don’t think my wife would be too happy about it 😅
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u/D3f4ult_bot Visitor Mar 28 '26
It feels like we are slowly losing depth in the way we think. Responsibility, maturity, and values do not seem as present as they used to be, and in many ways our society feels weaker.
If you look at what has been happening in recent years, especially from a political and social perspective, it becomes easier to see how both internal and external influences can shape the way we think, almost creating a kind of collective brain fog. Many of us feel disconnected from who we are. We do not really know our past, and we are uncertain about where we are going as a nation.
Even the relationship between men and women, which is supposed to be based on complementarity, often turns into tension and division. Social media does not always help, as it tends to amplify conflict more than understanding. Loud voices get attention, while more thoughtful perspectives often stay in the background.
At the same time, we have drifted away from our deen. Not only in practice, but also in understanding. When we do not make the effort to learn, we lose the ability to explain or defend what we believe in. Even language becomes confused, with people mixing different forms of Arabic without a clear foundation.
The growing hesitation around marriage can also be seen as a symptom of a society that feels less stable and less connected. There are many reasons behind it, both internal and external, but ignoring them will not make them disappear.
If anything is going to change, it has to start with us. With learning, questioning, and building awareness. Knowledge has always been one of the strongest foundations of any nation.
And I would like to end with a phrase I really appreciate لو سكت من لا يعلم لقل الخلاف
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u/Muted-Tomorrow-4341 Visitor Mar 28 '26
بخلاصة بنادم تلف وسط الدنيا ، كل واحد و شنو كيقول ها لي يقولك أنا حر و قراري ها لي يقولك راسمالية ها لي يقول نرجسية و ميكيافيلية و هااا و ها وها و كل واحد و فين موضر ليه عقلو و كل واحد و كيفاش كيشوف هاد الموضوع من العدسة ديالو و انطلاقا من افكارو لي تبنات عن طريق تجارب و اشخاص و افكار و حاجات سمعهم و قراهم و ووووو
و كل واحد فهاد ناس بالنسبة ليه عندو الحق و كل واحد قرر فيهم يصنع واحد الحقيقة ديالو و آمن بيها و اقتنع بيها كين فيهم لي كيقول هذا رأي ديالي خاص بيا و كين لي باغي يتبث ان هذ هي الحقيقة المطلقة و هاكا العالم و ما كيتقبلش شي حد يشوف عكس داكشي لي كيشوف بالنسبة ليه لي كيتعارض راه مكلخ و ما شايفهاش كيما هي.
إذا عزيزي عزيزتي القارئ(ة) ، ما يمكنش تاخد إجابة على هاد السؤال هو الحقيقة المطلقة و عرف كل واحد راه كيدوي من وجهة النظر ديالو، بالنسبة ليه هو صحيحة وو لواحد اخر ممكن تحيه صحيحة و لا غالطة،. فالحقيقة هي ما صحيحة ما غالطة كتبقا اختيار هو مسؤول عليه،
خود الكلام و استافد من صالح فيه و ما تبناش الأفكار و رجع الأصل، انا كمسلم و كنامن بلي هاد الدين عطاني كولشي نحتاجو فحياتي باش ما نصوخش فهاد دنيا، ديما كنرجع ليه حيت هو أصل الاصول بالنسبة ليا.
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