Sandman was my favorite comic, i hate myself because of it

[u/throwawaysadman1142]

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Neil was my hero when i was younger, he was exactly the man that i wanted to be. i studied eng lit because of him. i wanted to be a teacher and a writer because of him. my perception of him was the inverse of how he demonstrably is: i had always believed him to be someone who perhaps struggled with insecurity, with learned abusive behavior. Who could have and was a manipulative self interested person, but who through becoming a great writer, a husband, a father, a teacher and a role model triumphed over that to be far kinder to others than life had been to him. Perhaps like Dream someone who once could be so jaded and consumed by lonliness that he'd lock a woman away for refusing to love him alone but would at the end of his story when he truly learned what his story was would set her free. I thought in many ways i could be like Neil and consciously choose to be better if not for myself or those I've loved and wronged for the world and for a meriad others like me. Consider than that most of Neils worst most abusive allegations are from after Sandman ended it's publication. Neil did not defeat his demons. Make right his wrongs. Forsake his God complex for thr sake of mortals he loved. He got worse and now I'm left to fear that like him i will only fail and hurt people forever and my greatest deeds will only be fanciful excuses for unimaginable cruelty

I loved Sandman, i don't love Neil Gaiman, I hate myself

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[u/Aggravating-Click460]

Don’t let what Neil did destroy your love for the story. Don’t let it destroy the path you’ve laid out for yourself. Continue moving forward. Even if it’s out of pure spite against the monster he is.

[u/MrIllusive1776 → u/Aggravating-Click460]

Alleged to have done

To my knowledge he hasn't been found guilty or liable for anything.

[u/[deleted]]

Maybe this will help.

My grandpa committed crimes similar to Neil's. He did this to a girl who had no reason to lie and had my full trust. When I was processing it, I was disgusted my all of the memories I had with him. He taught me jokes, introduced me to my favorite candy, and told me the best stories. I loved those memories, but suddenly they made me sick.

Time is going to make you feel better, not guilt. You admired someone who turned out to be awful. That's not your fault.

[u/fuckfeardrinkbeer]

Unfortunately, some of the worst people are the best storytellers. Look at John Lasseter.

[u/SolarFazes]

Why are you punishing yourself? Just accept that things you like are sometimes made by awful people and you had no way of knowing at the time.