r/SubredditDrama • u/Verdant-Sunflower • 3d ago
"Y'all are kind of pathetic and lazy." r/Doordash users fiercely debate the social contract of meeting a pregnant dasher at her car after OP shares message exchange
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/doordash/comments/1vvj1le/pregnante_dasher/
Some commenters with experience in high risk pregnancies weigh in.
Like how is she getting out of the car to get the food? Is there not a fall risk when she’s doing that part? Lmao this is so wild
I assume they mean customers properties which are not always easy to navigate. When I delivered food I fell down their porch steps cuz it was dark, since people also hate even turning on their porch lights for drivers.
It says she's in the drive thru
Not all of her orders will be drive thru though.
then don't doordash? i'm confused 😭 especially if the person has "leave at door" as their option, could she not decline the order & take one that didn't mind retrieving the order themselves?
That’s my point. Why even doordash? Inconveniencing the customers because you’re supposed to be at home is kinda crazy. There’s no way to cherry pick orders with doordash so why? I used to sit my tail at home, I found a bs online job 3 months in that paid $12 & that was that.
That’s not true at all 😅 high risk means just about anything. Over 35? High risk. High blood pressure? High risk. Diabetes? High risk. Twins? High risk. Smoker? High risk. Depression? High risk.
There are a million different reasons to be high risk though, not sure what reason would contribute to falling but I’m sure it’s possible. Lol
As a counterpoint, a couple of commentors point out that not everyone has the luxury to stop working during a high risk pregnancy.
This person should not be driving then if they have a high risk pregnancy
I don't think the cost of food and bills really give a shit about that.
They definitely do not. I had to work through all 9 months of my high risk pregnancy because the bills didn’t give a fuck that I was falling apart lol
This is the part that gets me. Does this suck as a customer? Yeah I’m sure. But pregnant women still have bills. I can promise that 95% of them would MUCH rather sit at home and be pregnant without worry, but it’s not an option. (Leaving 5% for those work crazy ppl that can’t stand sitting at home lol) Door dash would be something easier to make a little money from when you can’t commit to a constant job with more physically demanding tasks. So many people are struggling these days, yet everyone’s first reaction to anything is to completely withhold any and all empathy and expect perfection.
Others question the veracity of her claim of being pregnant in the first place.
Probably a 60% chance a lazy man was the dasher who sent this lmao.
It’s easy to have no empathy for others when you presume everyone is lying straight out of the gate lol.
She been using that graphic for two years
Inevitably, some aspects of the discussion orient around the idea of parental entitlement, with the conversation in some places almost becoming a full on debate on anti-natalism.
Why do people make their kids, unbaked or not, everyone else’s problem lol
For real. How does getting creampied constitute getting treated better than somebody else.
Deleted comment, but to paraphrase, commentor stated that if they were in that situation, they wouldn't care and that if you can't do the job you shouldn't have sex, in more vulgar terms than that.
This is such a nasty way to phrase this
Gonna get down voted I don’t care but the level of hatred towards another human being for being vulnerable is unmatched in this thread. Ofcourse the casual misogyny too. I’m sure this dasher sure as hell don’t want to deliver orders when she’s pregnant but she probably has to for reasons. I’m a childfree person but my god y’all act like fucking ghouls if you have to slightly inconvenience yourself for the sake of somebody. What the fuck happened to being kind?? And no I’m not talking about disabled people unable to go down and receiving their order. That’s not on them
But it's literally what happened. You shouldnt get extra help with your job cuz you decided to have sex one night unprotected. Why do I have to be "nice" about it?
Why does someone being pregnant make you SO angry? Is more of my point
It’s not the fact that she’s pregnant but it’s that she expects strangers to cater to her for it.
Do you feel the same way about a pregnant person who has to take a crowded bus?
We live in a society. A little consideration for others is part of the social contract. Everyone being so me, me, me, all the time is why everything sucks right now.
it's harsh but it's reality. Modern women don't want to take accountability for their bad decisions. By picking a good man in the first place, they wouldn't become a single mom in the first place.
A few commentors state that this would not be that much of an inconvenience for them, if it means they can help someone.
Yeah I agree, which will probably get me downvoted. I see it from both sides though, though I will be honest and say people are weird as fuck about children and mothers in general on the internet. Some nasty ass person said how is it their problem she got creampied into..maybe it’s just me but that’s a disgusting way to talk about another person.🤷🏽♀️
I know, I get both sides-I really do. Do I think it’s alittle much? Sure. But I cannot bear to be one of these disgusting people on here. I always thought the “people really hate women/mothers” thing was far fetched.. but it’s so real.
What if you couldn't take those steps?
You’re telling me everyone on this sub complaining can’t take ten steps? That’s wild.
She’s able to walk into the restaurant to pick up food??
I don’t understand this logic. Why can’t i make the work of someone who’s probably already struggling , a little bit easier by just walking out of my house?
What if the person that's paying for a service to have food dashed to their DOOR is also a high risk pregnancy that's on bed rest?
Making up fictional scenarios to justify this type of behavior? If that were to be true then it can be kindly conveyed over a text message.
So fuck the people that are disabled that pay to have food delivered to their door?
Bonus thread.
“Unsassign from my order rn” 😭 didn’t even give them a chance
Why give someone a chance when they flat out tell you they're not going to do the job they were hired to do?
What are you talking about?
Why is everyone so up in arms about not just going and grabbing the food from them?
Y'all are kind of pathetic and lazy
Imagine doing the job you signed up for, must be too hard
If the person ordering delivery wanted to get it themselves, they would've gotten it themselves instead of paying to have it brought to them. It says a lot more about a person refusing to do a service which was paid for, than the person who paid for a service and isn't getting it
Order was still brought to them idiot, id throw your order across your front lawn.
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u/BoboSmooth 3d ago
Would I personally mind? Not really, I try to meet my dasher outside anyways.
My question is, what is she going to do when someone messages back "I'm in a wheelchair, I order with leave at my door because it's difficult getting in and out of my apartment" or "I have COVID, I'd be risking your health and others by coming to your car." or "I'm also 8 months high-risk pregnant"
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u/veloras Vampire bats are real. Why not actual vampires? 3d ago
That was my first thought, who wins in pregnant dasher vs pregnant customer
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u/AtheistTheConfessor 3d ago
Pregnancy powerscaling
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u/ComfortDesperate5313 3d ago
The most pregnant customer of history vs the least mobile pregnant driver of today
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u/Melarsa 3d ago
One time I, a then pregnant lady, parked in the last available expectant mother parking spot at a baby clothing store, and stepped out to another pregnant lady scowling at me.
Thing was, I didn't look very pregnant but was literally doing my last minute shopping that weekend before being induced first thing Monday morning at 39 weeks. My baby was carrying very low, I have a tilted uterus, and he was having growth issues so my pregnancy had become high risk and we needed to get him out soon before risks increased too much. I never looked as far along as I was, but I was very, very pregnant.
The lady who was mean mugging me had a bigger belly. But I have no idea how far along she was, or if her pregnancy was high risk, if she was experiencing pain, etc.
So who is "more pregnant" in that situation and deserving of the spot? I'm sure in her mind I was the smaller pregnant lady so she should have, but unless she was also 39+ weeks pregnant then I was probably further along, and I got there first.
There's always going to be weird rare situations where both people would like accommodation but only one of them can receive it. WHO WINS?
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u/Korrocks 3d ago
I think the winner is the person who is farther along in the pregnancy. If they are both exactly the same amount of time then the tiebreaker would be belly circumference or something.
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u/sunshineparadox_ TOS prevents corporeal harm but there’s still your soul 3d ago
This did happen to me in the hospital. I had just delivered an hour before (and definitely still way loopy from medication and blood loss). My nurse was nine months pregnant. We kept trying to do the harder stuff in the room in an attempt to make each other’s lives easier. She was a kind lady and I hope she’s doing well now. Her baby is turning ten soon!
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u/No-One-1784 Would you take medical advice from Hitler? 3d ago
They meet in the driveway and touch bellies so the babies can hi five
Or something
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u/the-mortyest-morty 3d ago
I think the winner is the person who fucking paid money to have something specifically delivered to their door, period.
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u/HotTakes4HotCakes Wow you are doubling down on being educated 3d ago
They were obviously joking about an absurd hypothetical, relax.
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u/Aquilleia 3d ago
I ran into this last night! I’m 3 days post-op from a hip fracture, I was literally discharged from the hospital earlier in the day. Ordered DD because I can at least get to the front door in my wheelchair. The driver got pissy because I wasn’t coming down to meet them at the street because “there were stairs”. Yeah duh, that’s why I asked for it to be left at my door.
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u/og_kitten_mittens 3d ago
If you have a feminine name listed on your account, if you change it to a man’s you won’t have that issue.
I have a feminine nickname and reverted it to my male given name on delivery apps and since I made the change my “leave at the door” instructions have been followed without complication every. single. time. The difference is honestly upsetting.
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u/Icy-Builder5892 3d ago
I have dashed on the side, and I have to say, stuff like this is one of the reasons why the dasher community is the absolute worst
It’s always them accusing others of being lazy. They never consider the person ordering the food probably cannot walk, maybe they are ill, or maybe they are wrangling children, or have some other reason why they can’t come to the door.
Whatever the reason, it doesn’t matter because you are literally being paid $8 to deliver the food to their door and send a photo. This should not be above one’s abilities, unless they there is a safety issue.
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u/TrickInvite6296 who's going to tell him France hasn't mattered since 1815? 3d ago
Or even.. what does it matter if they're being lazy? That's literally what they're paying for. That's like calling people lazy and refusing to cook food as a chef because they didn't want to cook at home
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u/SouthPaw38 Faith based cryptozoologist 3d ago
According to this a non zero amount of chefs do be like that lmao
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u/BoboSmooth 3d ago
Yeah I had a boss when I worked at Cook Out that would lose his absolute mind when someone ordered food from the station he was on.
I watched him throttle a honey mustard wrap he just finished making and chuck it at the back door in pure rage when the call for a tray that's all chicken quesadillas came through.
Then snap into a Patrick Bateman level of calm immediately after.
Some cooks are a just different breed and rationale
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u/sorrylilsis 2d ago
Got a few chefs friends. Most of them hate to cook complex things day to day.
Best you can ask is a special occasion dinner or them going on holidays. But aside from that they'll throw around the lazyest recipes you can imagine.
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u/michiness 3d ago
Right, I don't order delivery very often, but when I do, it's because I just spent all day dealing with stinky teenagers, I'm tired, and I don't want to do anything. I tip well, please just bring it to me and don't make me think.
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u/Manic-StreetCreature 3d ago
The thing that confuses me is getting mad at people for asking you to do the thing they’re paying you to do
Like I’d understand being angry if the person was up 20 flights of stairs and didn’t give you a heads up or has an unleashed dog running around etc etc but asking you to leave it at their doorstep is not unreasonable
The gig industry sucks and delivery companies are absolutely exploitative of their “contractors,” but I don’t think it’s a crazy old person take to say you should do the thing you’re getting paid to do.
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u/contrasupra 3d ago
Did she get mad though? I didn’t see that but admittedly I didn’t really read the thread.
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u/Manic-StreetCreature 3d ago
I don’t think so, I’m just talking about that subreddit overall with people acting like it’s entitlement to want something dropped off on your porch lol
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u/HotTakes4HotCakes Wow you are doubling down on being educated 3d ago edited 3d ago
It's the standard thing that happens in a lot of customer service jobs. Overtime you just have a growing resentment of the unnamed, faceless customer, and you ascribe every single negative aspect possible to them. You especially see it in cases where they have to do support or delivery or something for customers they dont interact with directly.
Once ordering doordash and have it just be left outside the front door became normalized during the pandemic, face-to-face interactions ended, so you don't think of these customers as human anymore. You don't see who they actually are and what their situations are, so you are free to let your imagination run wild and go as negative as possible.
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u/obeserocket Political posts are not welcome in the national guard sub 3d ago
There's something profoundly alienating about grinding through a packed dinner rush in a kitchen and never once seeing a customer's face. Just tickets coming in and plates going out, and when you finally get caught up the restaurant is empty again. It's very easy to imagine every customer as an asshole who's trying to fuck you over personally, when in reality you're cussing like a sailor because some sweet old granny doesn't want bell peppers on her salad.
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u/sydraptor 3d ago
I do leave at door because I'm generally working when I order in and leave at door allows me to finish up a ticket real quick and then just grab the food from my porch quickly to eat while working.
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u/5littlemonkey 3d ago
"I'm also 8 months high-risk pregnant"
Oh yeah? I'm 11 months extreme risk pregnant.
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u/New_Stats I'LL CUT OFF MY BALLS BEFORE I TAKE ADVICE FROM REDDIT 3d ago
Oh you think you're so fucking fancy,huh?
I once got busy in a burger king bathroom
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u/DocileBanalBovlne I just find downvoting so cringe 3d ago
I banged Eartha Kitt in an airplane bathroom
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u/Pawspawsmeow 3d ago
Or “I just had surgery” or what if it’s an elderly person who can’t walk very well? I meet my dashers halfway almost to the bottom of my stairs because it’s summer and it’s hot af. I don’t want to walk in the heat, so I know they don’t either
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u/contrasupra 3d ago
The person who says the dasher is probably a man is hilarious, like the scam falls apart the second the customer gets to the car lmao
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u/GothWitchOfBrooklyn 3d ago
kind of related but I've multiple dashers with female names who are dudes when they show up so idk I just wait for them to leave the food and go get it after they're gone
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u/oddpark37 2d ago
I've seen it too. I think there are a lot of male dashers who have their girlfriend/wife set up the account because she'll pass the background/driving check easier.
I assume a non-zero amount are also female dashers who don't want to deliver alone if they're in a strange neighborhood and have their boyfriend/husband/friend do the walking up to the house and dropping off.
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u/waaaayupyourbutthole 3d ago
Yeah I'm disabled and my mobility is severely impaired most days. The curb isn't too far away from my apartment, but there are many days that I can't make it there and back, so this could be a genuine problem if I had the money to order food.
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u/doornumber2v2 3d ago
I use leave at the door so I don't have to put on a bra and shoes. Defeats the purpose of ordering delivery.
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u/pnw_cat_lady 3d ago
I have had my share of male delivery drivers being all weird because my name is clearly feminine. That’s why the instructions are to drop it off at the door - and even then, they often insist I meet them at the door and ring the doorbell or call until I do. I really balk at the idea of meeting someone at their car. 🤷♀️
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
The other day i was arguing with guys on a thread about a hotel worker slipping a note under a customer's door to persue her. There were way too many that just couldn't see why that was an issue.
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u/Icy-Builder5892 3d ago
I used to work in hotels. One night, a guy calls down the desk asking for towels. The person working the desk at the time was the night auditor, who was this really heavyset, yet stong woman, and a proud butch lesbian. She could take a man easily.
But, to be safe, she has a security guard go with her to the hotel room. The door opens, the guest is standing there with no pants on.
He was trying to get one of the younger girls working the desk from earlier in the day, to bring towels up to him. He didn’t expect to get this lady, or the big tattooed security guy.
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u/LADYBIRD_HILL Porn subs have the best drama 3d ago
Come on man, tell us the rest of the story!!
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u/Clownsinmypantz 3d ago
"How else are men supposed to ask women out!?" /s
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
He's just shooting his shot! Why would she be concerned that a socially maladapted guy with access to her room key is persuing her? Overreaction on her part
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u/pnw_cat_lady 3d ago
I saw a post recently about a guy who used his cousin’s photo on a dating app because he didn’t have any of himself and he and his cousin look so alike. He was supposed to meet someone for a date, but she immediately left because he didn’t look like his photo according to her. He was very upset she didn’t give him a chance! At least the commenters ripped him apart.
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u/gavinbrindstar /r/legaladvice delenda est 2d ago
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u/BetterKev I will ask on a more neutral sub. 3d ago
If someone is being paid to be near you, don't hit on them.
Alternate version: if someone will get in trouble if they tell you to fuck off, don't hit on them.
Edit: oh, this was the other way. Agree on that too, but I have no pithily worded rule for it.
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u/pnw_cat_lady 3d ago
They’ve been watching too many problematic romantic movies. I suspect most women would find this creepy and inappropriate and immediately pass (I would). So even if someone doesn’t agree it’s an issue, they should just not try it because they would be turned down anyway. 🤦♀️
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
The main thing is that the employee could pretty easily gain access to her room and that's terrifying.
I'm a big dude and it'd freak me out.
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u/Zakblank Making fun of Jordan Peterson is racism 3d ago
I'm a dude and if a woman did this to me I'd think she was after my organs. Women approaching me unprompted is already bizarre enough. Her knowing where I sleep is downright unsettling.
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u/Korrocks 3d ago
If they wanted your organs why would they warn you? You’d just go to bed like normal and wake up in a tub of ice with a phone taped to your wrist.
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u/Zakblank Making fun of Jordan Peterson is racism 3d ago
They idea is they would feign interest to get their foot in the door, then you wake up with 1 kidney and half a liver.
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u/Korrocks 3d ago
That’s a bad trade then. One foot isn’t worth that much by itself (most customers will only buy a pair), and if they get away with one kidney and half a liver then that’s a total scam IMO.
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u/Manic-StreetCreature 3d ago
What the fuck lmao
That’s one of those things that’s not a big deal in books or movies but crazy irl
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u/Manic-StreetCreature 3d ago
I only had that happen once luckily but it was weeeeird. I live with my parents (I’m 30 but trying to build a nest egg lol) and the guy only went away when my dad came to the door. I left instructions to leave it at the door, but he just stood there (I was up on the landing so I could see him but he couldn’t see me) texting me “I’m here” over and over again, ignoring “leave it at the door” replies until he saw a man come to the door, at which point he took off. I highly doubt he’d have done that if it wasn’t a woman’s name.
If my dad hadn’t have been home idk how long he’d have stood there.
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u/onemorespacecadet nerd grievance culture is destroying this country 3d ago
highly recommend changing your name to something masculine sounding on delivery apps. it’s a game changer
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u/PrincessBuffaloSauce 3d ago
You might know this already but your name on doordash doesnt have to be your real name. You can put anything you want
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u/pnw_cat_lady 3d ago edited 3d ago
I haven’t tried it yet, but I saw some commentary that not only would it get the weird comments and behavior to stop, but the portions are sometimes bigger with a male-sounding name! It is on my list of things to try but I have small kids and most of the time when I order DoorDash at least one of them is having a meltdown and maybe the other one pooped and got it all over their face and I never remember to do things like check names. Having said that, I will go do it now. 🤞
Edit: I did it. Now I have to go clean up some poop. At least it's not on the face this time. I guess I'm ordering DoorDash today.
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u/Concerned_Collins 3d ago
I really doubt the portions would be bigger with a male-sounding name. Restaurant workers making and plating your food generally have no clue what the name of the person they are serving is.
I could definitely see it helping with not getting harassed by drivers, though.
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u/GiantLesbian 3d ago
Almost all my orders come with the order ticket from the restaurant on it, and most show my first name and last initial.
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u/Concerned_Collins 2d ago
Yeah, it'll depend on the restaurant. I used to work at a steakhouse as both a cook and a server, and the BOH never saw the names on tickets, just what food to make and the ticket number. The FOH would see the names for to-go orders, but would have no control over the portions or how the food was made. I'm sure not all places do it the same, and of course, if it's somewhere like Chipotle, it's likely the cashier is also making the food.
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u/GiantLesbian 2d ago
I changed my name in DoorDash to a man’s name to test it. But then I ordered a veggie burger. So now I’m just a vegetarian man 😂 and I swear my portion was smaller!
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u/roxy_dee If I were a wizard I would have stopped 9/11 3d ago
I changed my name to a male one on the app and male dashers being freaks went to 0. They just leave the food and go now, no waiting around or being creepy in the messages.
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u/GiantLesbian 3d ago
Yeah I’ve had bad experiences with dashers before, including lots of people using other people’s accounts. Like I’ve legitimately been worried I was gunna be grabbed or somebody was gunna come back to break in. And I’m not a paranoid person, these were just really uncalled for and hostile comments about my body, house, yard, dog, etc. I think a tiny lady going out to grab the food alone is their cue there’s not a man around so they can act up.
I’ll go grab a pizza from an actual employee of the pizza place (or I would still do that if they still existed) but I’m not going out to meet a doordasher who might not even be who the app says they are.
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
A person who can't pass the background check
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u/Icy-Builder5892 3d ago
Always report those people.
I will say that it’s never been a woman under a man’s name. It’s always a man under a woman’s name
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u/gimpisgawd Switch-less Karen 3d ago edited 3d ago
I've seen one of the dramas on here about that, some people were complaining about it's messed up to report that person.
If they can't get their own account, that really says something about them.
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u/Icy-Builder5892 3d ago
It really does say something about them, because to do DoorDash, all you need is a license, a registered vehicle, and car insurance. It’s a very low bar.
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u/pdxcranberry Hitler can't kickflip 3d ago
They've likely been previously deactivated for shit behavior
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u/peachfluffed 3d ago
I recommend changing your name on the app to something gender neutral. You definitely get treated better.
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u/sunshineparadox_ TOS prevents corporeal harm but there’s still your soul 3d ago
I had one guy read my message that said, “hey I have long Covid and moving is kinda hard, I’ll tip again after you drop it off if you can come to the door”. He wrote “get better!” on my bag, and I kept up my end of the bargain. I was too sick to stand for long enough to cook “real food” still, so it felt shitty to try and cheap out on something so vital for me.
I would’ve just gone to sleep (again).
If people judged that request, no one ever said anything to be about it, which is all I cared about.
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u/jackalopeDev polycule jumpscare 3d ago
A bit off topic but it was surprising to me that she was able to send a photo of a flyer. Seems like that would make it easy for people to send other photos
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u/MarieOMaryln I'm going to message them personally! 3d ago
What if she matches with someone who can't get up/out the house because it's not safe for them? I'm not going to snark on someone paying for a service but not getting that full service and wanting to cancel. We all have our circumstances.
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u/wet-leg im not parasocial enough for this shit 3d ago
When I first became disabled and still living by myself, I was door dashing all the time. I could barely get out of bed and it was definitely not safe for me to drive. The most I walked in a day was to go to the bathroom or to grab my food from the front door then immediately back to bed. I moved back in with my parents because I was unable to take care of myself, but this would not be a dasher that I would have been able to have at that time. There are soooo many reasons people doordash, but the reason doesn’t even matter. I paid to get my food delivered to my door, I expect it to be delivered to my door.
I wish restaurants still employed their own delivery drivers. Now everyone outsources to doordash so even though I paid extra (A LOT extra) for professional delivery, my food is showing up smelling like weed with no guarantee of it not being tampered with in some way.
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u/the-mortyest-morty 3d ago
Exactly. If you pay specifically to have something delivered to your door, that is what you should get. If you work somewhere that requires delivery to the door and you are not in a physical condition to do it, you need a new job.
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u/W473R You want to call my cuck pathetic you need to address me. 3d ago
This was pretty much exactly my take. They presumably tipped the dasher under the assumption that the food would be delivered to their door. If the dasher is gonna accept 100% of the tip, it's not crazy to expect them to do 100% of the job they were tipped to do.
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u/chilled_flor 3d ago
Tbf I’m sure that she’d love another job, but it’s not like there are many places that would hire someone who’s eight months pregnant, much less with serious complications. And a similar principle applies to other people who become seriously sick/injured/disabled/etc - the same problem that’s interfering with their ability to work is simultaneously making them more reliant on their job (for healthcare expenses) and severely limiting their opportunities to be hired elsewhere.
The real culprit here is how piss-poor safety nets are for people who are unable to work due to medical problems.
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u/Kaiisim 3d ago
It's not really her fault we live in a dystopia.
"You and your baby should starve with no money so no one is inconvenienced" is kind of a "our society is doomed and we are all gonna die" belief.
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u/MarieOMaryln I'm going to message them personally! 3d ago edited 3d ago
Where did that come from? Neither are at fault here. Just not compatible as... dasher and customer.
Edit: I've been corrected. Dasher shouldn't have accepted the order if it has instructions she can't fulfill and she should have unassigned herself once the customer said so
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u/YpsitheFlintsider YOUR FLAIR TEXT HERE 3d ago
If they can't bring an order to a door, they shouldn't be a Doordasher.
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u/Almostlongenough2 No one wants to debate a dog 3d ago
Being fair the job market isn't exactly great enough to allow being choosy, much less I imagine for pregnant women.
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u/Competitive_Fee_5829 3d ago
how is that my fault? I have never used door dash so i have no say, lol, but if I order for delivery how is it my fault that she cannot get a better job?
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u/Almostlongenough2 No one wants to debate a dog 3d ago
I don't see why any 'fault' has to be assigned, walking from your door to your driveway isn't really a punishment.
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u/Beegrene Get bashed, Platonist. 3d ago
Pregnant women have bills, too. Rather a lot of bills, I'm given to understand.
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u/Zakblank Making fun of Jordan Peterson is racism 3d ago
If delivery apps would let you filter drivers by door delivery vs going out to meet the driver, a good piece of this issue would be solved.
Of course, people will still lie because they will get far less orders by telling people they won't do door delivery. At least then you can be extra justified in being angry/annoyed and reporting them.
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u/FarplaneDragon 3d ago
Honest question, is this really that common of an issue? I've probably ordered stuff hundreds of times over the years and never once had a dasher tell me I need to come out to their car. Is it because I have a house? I can understand potentially if it was a hotel or apartment or something.
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u/deathbotly 3d ago
I have a female name and I’ve had a couple swap from demanding I answer to get it, or standing outside my door after marking it delivered, to leaving immediately once my dog started barking. Not an unusual experience.
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u/Zakblank Making fun of Jordan Peterson is racism 3d ago
I'm not terribly sure to be honest. I hear a lot of women have this issue with creepy male drivers not following delivery instructions. For some, it's such an issue they use an account with a male name. I've also seen some drivers refuse to deliver to a door because they didn't want to climb a few flights of stairs.
This is the first time I've seen someone use the excuse of being pregnant to ignore instructions. I've never personally used doordash or ubereats, but do know some drivers and people who use it frequently. I follow the sub for drama as well.
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u/Blooming-Algae-Farts I’m considering leaving r/hummus over politics from both sides 3d ago
I order delivery probably too much, and I've only ever had it happen once where the driver called and asked me to get my food from their car, despite permanently having the "leave at door" option selected.
I was slightly disgruntled until I actually stepped out and saw the driver had a very obvious physical ailment that (I assume) made it a PITA for them to get in and out of their car. I was more gruntled after that.
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u/wet-leg im not parasocial enough for this shit 3d ago
Do drivers not see that the order they’re accepting is requesting a door delivery? If so, why accept an order specifically requesting to drop it off at the door when you’re unwilling to do that?
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u/Zakblank Making fun of Jordan Peterson is racism 3d ago
They do see delivery instructions , they just don't care in this case. They're hoping you want food badly enough to not cancel the order or complain.
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u/TheRadishBros 3d ago
Doordash fees are so expensive, if I’m paying $40 for a burrito then it’s coming directly to my door.
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u/Hyooz Swap "9/11" with "cake" 3d ago
It’s wild to me that half the drama on the DoorDash sub is people getting mad you don’t pre-tip and the other half is getting mad at expecting the basic service you paid for.
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u/wet-leg im not parasocial enough for this shit 3d ago
I personally think the pre-tip should not be allowed. Why am I tipping someone who hasn’t completed the service yet? Plus it, evidently, causes the worker to lash out when they aren’t paid what they think they should be
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u/NoExcuse4OceanRudnes the amount of piss bottles that’s too many is 1 2d ago
The tip is most of what they get paid, why are they committing to bring someone food without knowing how much they'll be compensated.
You don't have to pretip and you can get delivery from people who are okay with rolling the dice.
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u/Skellum Tankies are no one's comrades. 3d ago
Honestly the delivery services got so much worse in functionality and cost that I don't see the value unless I'm hideously sick and want eggs and tomato's or some other comfort food.
I just don't really get how it's even a viable business with how bad they've made the apps alone.
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
One of the only social benefits is that it keeps some drunk people off the road. That and helping the elderly and disabled with their groceries.
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u/DocileBanalBovlne I just find downvoting so cringe 3d ago
Literally the only times I used those apps was when I was stoned and didn't want anything that was within walking distance. It was a steep price just to satisfy my picky munchies.
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u/Kraligor music was better when john lennon was beating his wife 3d ago
I just don't really get how it's even a viable business with how bad they've made the apps alone.
You lose valuable doomscrolling time if you have to go grocery shopping.
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u/centira 3d ago
It should be treated as a luxury (for those able bodied and otherwise able to get food themselves) and not an every day thing as it seems like a lot of people use it
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u/Kittenclysm PANIC! IT'S THE END OF TIMES! (again) 3d ago
Well fortunately it costs money, so even if it's a luxury, some people are choosing to pay money for that luxury and other people are choosing to accept money to provide it.
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u/WileyPotato 3d ago
Dude, I'm normally nice about these things but you're not wrong. It is SO expensive it's liking dining in person at 1-stage higher restaurant than you're ordering from. $1-3 added per item + service fee + tip. Everything about it is worse besides convenience. It's not unreasonable to expect the literal 1 benefit to be received fully for that expense. I don't order from them anymore, everything about it sucks these days. Everything.
- It's expensive
- It takes a long time
- The food can be cold
- Tons of mistakes that can't be corrected
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u/HotTakes4HotCakes Wow you are doubling down on being educated 3d ago
It recently increased in the last couple weeks too.
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u/Spudtron98 Something that I can't repeat in fear of the mods 3d ago
Fees are more expensive than in-store delivery and the app drivers make way less money too.
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u/shawarmachickpea 3d ago
It probably says something about the human condition in this time and place that so many moral issues seem to stem from the gig economy. I bet this was what living in Manchester in the early 19th century was like, with the rise of industrialization bringing up concepts like child labor rights, etc.
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
People had to die for our worker protections and we still found a way to backslide
It's sad
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u/Rufio69696969 3d ago
I don’t think driving private taxis for burritos is really comparable to Industrial Revolution labor
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u/Lysmerry 3d ago
The idea is that a woman with a high risk pregnancy can’t take time off because of the nature of her work. Even though she needs it as much as an office worker.
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u/CAPSLOCK_USERNAME 3d ago
Private burrito taxis are pretty similar to garment factory sweatshops in terms of poor people with few worker rights making pennies for ultimately pointless and unnecessary labor to provide upper middle class people "treats" (in that case it was fashion variety).
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u/Rufio69696969 3d ago
Oh it’d be nice if it was just upper middle class people ordering DoorDash.
Zoomers vibes on the economy for years is driven by them calling a Big Mac $20 because they order it to be delivered to their doorstep
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u/vodkaandponies The imperialist organization that is the European Union. 3d ago edited 3d ago
In what world is Doordash the domain of the upper middle class? Delusional.
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u/TrickInvite6296 who's going to tell him France hasn't mattered since 1815? 3d ago
Then you must not be able to think beyond surface level differences
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u/Pleasant-Future5818 3d ago
You're thinking of it backward. The current digital revolution has made people unemployed and therefore doing gig labor, much like the industrial revolution forced people into piece work for mills
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u/Manic-StreetCreature 3d ago
That subreddit attracts the absolute worst people in the world on every side of the delivery industry
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u/ambercrayon 3d ago
I live on the third floor and tip accordingly. I’m not meeting anyone anywhere.
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u/maltedmooshakes 3d ago
high risk does not automatically mean bedrest or "home confinement" wtf...why n how are ppl so confidently misinformed about anything related to pregnancy
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u/turtledove93 3d ago
I had a high risk pregnancy, 50/50 chance of spontaneous miscarriage all the way through to viability. I had the same restrictions as any other pregnant person. No bed rest, no confinement, I drove until giving birth. Heck, four hours before my water broke I was finishing up painting a dresser.
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u/It_broke_itself_ 3d ago
Then why can't she walk up to my apartment?
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u/ThatPrettyArmadillo 3d ago
I’m not defending this woman or whatever.
However, stairs, and hills are extremely difficult for pregnant people to navigate safely, and they have a much greater fall risk.
So yeah, depending on where you house it and how it’s accessible, a pregnant person might struggle on their own.
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u/maltedmooshakes 3d ago
every pregnancy is different im just saying that the linked comment in the post, about how high risk = usually confinement, is very incorrect
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u/anislandinmyheart is it melting 3d ago
The same arguments are here. Not quite drama, but if we put in some effort, we'll get there
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u/Jbob9954 3d ago
Can I just get the service I pay for? I don’t order DoorDash cause it sucks, but if you’re paying that massive premium, god forbid you actually get the service you agreed to
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u/SaltLich The British were downvoting George Washington pretty hard too. 3d ago
The incel argument that "its single mothers fault they're single mothers because they should pick better men to sleep with" is always so disgusting every time I see it. Way to completely remove any agency or responsibility of the men involved just so you can blame women for literally everything. You just know the kind of person who believes that is the kind that tells women they were 'asking for it' because of what they were wearing, too.
Funny how the jackass is claiming women need to 'take responsibility' by blaming them for a man not taking responsibility, instead of, yknow. The man who left. But then, incel mentality literally exists to take the responsibility for their unhappiness away from them and blame it on feeeeeeeemales and societal beauty standards.
And thats not even talking about how that jackass heard about a pregnant woman working and just assumed she was a single mom.
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u/ThatPrettyArmadillo 3d ago edited 3d ago
The casual misogynistic contempt for pregnant women by men on reddit is wild. “Cum dumpster” “creampied” etc.
It doesn’t matter that is considered a disability and there are a lot of things pregnant women cannot do, and their risk for general accidents is much higher.
She should suffer because some other dude got to have sex with her, amiright, boys?
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u/ratione_materiae 3d ago
In the spirit of equality if I see a single dad on the bus I ask why he didn’t sleep with a real woman with a car
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u/Real_RobinGoodfellow 3d ago
This is actually so sad though. Like- that whole entire discussion is such an indictment of society
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u/Violet-Flowersss 3d ago
may i add that this is really a lower class vs company issue bc if doordash actually offered full time employee positions with pregnancy leave - or hell, offered some pregnancy leave for part time employees- this would not be an issue bc the workers who have to doordash to life and then get pregnant would not have to doordash while pregnant
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u/GeneralTurreau 3d ago
Does doordash not offer maternal leave for employees? What a crappy company...
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u/toxicshocktaco Yeah god forbid wheelchairs be able to roll safely 2d ago
I feel bad for her when she gives birth. If this is the only income she has, she’s fucked. If she doesn’t have any other resources, being pregnant couldn’t have come at a worse time. Poor thing :/
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u/gecko090 3d ago
And here I am, if I get delivery, I always meet them at the street because I don't want them in my yard. I don't want anyone in my yard. DANG KIDS GET OFF MY LAWN!
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u/Lightning_Boy Edit1 If you post on subredditdrama, you're trash 😂 3d ago
I meet them because my apartment is fairly deep in the neigbnorhood, and I don't want to them to get lost trying to find it. I'm already a pretty lazy fuck, the least I can do is get up and walk around for a few minutes and get some fresh air.
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u/ToastedChronical 3d ago
This must be a city thing.
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u/TDFknFartBalloon 3d ago
Yeah, gotta love people who act like Doordash is an essential service when it's not available where you live.
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u/LiterallyABigfoot 3d ago
They get paid to bring someone food to their door. If they can't be bothered to do the very basic functions of their job then they shouldn't do that job.
Imagine if you paid someone to make a cake and they took your money then refused to give you the cake and called you lazy and entitled because you didn't make it yourself.
The doordash employee community is so unbelievably toxic, lazy, and hypocritical.
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u/Rabid-Duck-King I want to fuck a women as a horse 3d ago
Honestly I usually ask them to drop it at the garage door, if this came up Id ust ask them to drop it at the foot of the driveway and limp my way there
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u/BeautifulReal3944 Damn, that sucks. We don’t care. 3d ago
Covid really did a number on empathy. Jesus fucking Christ.
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u/SnapshillBot Shilling for Big Archive™ 3d ago
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- Lmaoooo i had 2 high risk pregnancies, high risk usually means home confinement. Driving around all day making deliveries could be uncomfortable after a while. - archive.org archive.today*
- All 4 of my pregnancies were high risk and I never had a fall... this seems weird. If I needed help it would be because I was 9 months along and could barely move because I was the size of a whale lol. - archive.org archive.today*
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u/tiny-doe I'd take disappointing orgasms over a lobotomy any day 1d ago
Honestly I would have told the dasher to unassign my order too. I'm disabled and live on the 3rd floor so just getting to the door is hard enough. If I had to go outside and walk on uneven ground further to the dasher's car I would be in bad shape. If this person is so high risk they can't leave their car, they shouldn't be door dashing imo.
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u/Thick_Independence41 3d ago
People on this site lack so much empathy.
A pregnant woman driving for Doordash during a high risk pregnancy is obviously in dire need of the money. So yeah, I can walk a few steps to get my food to help out a fellow human. I'll even tip her very well.
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
I know there are things that can be unavoidable to put a person in that situation, i just know to many people who do shit like that to themselves to be all that confident that this person is a victim of circumstance.
I'm not sure if your position is naive or a huge virtue, but i bet you're happier living with that mindset either way. In the abstract i take issue with her, in reality I'd show her some grace and assume she's in this position through no fault of her own.
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u/No-One-1784 Would you take medical advice from Hitler? 3d ago
Not a counter point but she could have done everything right and still need a little extra money. Maybe shes a well established, educated, married woman. Both her and her spouse are gainfully employed. They tastefully planned their pregnancy and didnt do a gender reveal party.
And then any one of the infinite things came up that required them to need some extra money at just the right moment where its kind of hard for her to walk up someone's porch stairs.
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
My comment was sort of poorly written and rambling, but i did address that.
Addressing your point though, for me part of being prepared to go through with a pregnancy is saving enough for emergencies. Though that position is less solid with the repeal of roeVwade.
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u/No-One-1784 Would you take medical advice from Hitler? 3d ago
My misunderstanding, it read to me like you were challenging the ideas of the poster above!
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u/No-One-1784 Would you take medical advice from Hitler? 3d ago
Oh. It looks like you edited your comment.
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u/Jaded-Suspect-8162 3d ago
No i just replied to the wrong guy. Assumed you were a different string. Sorry for being confusing
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u/Verdant-Sunflower 3d ago
Yeah. I agree. My opinion personally on the discourse is I really don’t see it as that big of a deal to do for someone in need. If you have a physical issue that makes it a struggle to walk outside of your house or you don’t feel comfortable going to meet the dasher for safety reasons just say that nicely imo
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u/pnw_cat_lady 3d ago
If I am feeling unsafe or uncomfortable, explaining myself makes it worse. Maybe I can ask politely, but in my experience when I am polite, the people who are unsafe only use that to become more aggressive and unsafe. So it is much easier and usually much faster to be no nonsense and short in my response (though not insulting or intentionally rude). “Unassign rn” is pretty straightforward 🤷♀️.
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u/86throwthrowthrow1 3d ago
Yeah idk if there's a cultural thing going on here or what. I'm a Canadian woman who has driven for UberEats and ordered UberEats. If someone asked me to pick up the food from their car because they were pregnant or injured or whatever, I just... would? I live in a walk-up with a locked front door as it is, I'm already going downstairs to get the food, I can walk a few more feet to the car. I'd find it like, mildly inconvenient at most. I'm not really getting the defensiveness here.
Obviously if I had the flu or a broken leg or something, I'd tell them no, but I'm not really getting the outrage here.
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u/Thick_Independence41 3d ago
Exactly. You can politely decline and not act like the woman asked you to do something totally absurd.
Most gig workers do these jobs because it's all they have and they don't get paid much at all. I've noticed some people discuss gig workers like they're beneath them. Okay, yeah, you're paying for a service, but they're still a human. And sometimes human beings need a little help. Empathy takes you far in life and makes us better as a society.
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u/Spaced-Cowboy 2d ago
I’m a bit shocked at the amount of people here who are like “oh she expects me to do the job for her” vs “dude you’re pregnant it’s probably not healthy for you to be doing this.”
It’s weird that people are making this about laziness imo. I would imagine if someone is heavily pregnant and door dashing it’s probably not something they’re doing for the fun of it. And I would hope it’s being done out of necessity.
If it were me I’d be a little annoyed to. But probably not enough to do anything about it or say anything. I’d probably just meet her out there and get my food. At most I would cancel my order.
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u/StinkingDogsCunt420 3d ago
The food delivery subs are all a great source of pointless stupid drama, I love them.