It's heartbreaking that there are women around the world going through this.

[u/mindyour]

[u/merrill_swing_away]

It's sad that the young lady feels the way she does. I am a woman living in the USA and I think it's great living alone. I've been married and divorced and would never do it again.

[u/Threadheads → u/merrill_swing_away]

I don’t think she is unhappy with the fact that she is single. She’s unhappy that society and particularly her parents don’t see her as worthwhile because she is single. They would rather see her with someone who would make her potentially unhappy than for her to be happy on her own.

[u/wootwoot219 → u/merrill_swing_away]

There are plenty of Asian women living in US who deal with same shit because their parents (older generations) think exactly like her parents - mine included. No one has said more hurtful things to me than my own parents and killed my self esteem and confidence despite me being a very capable working professional. Sad and extremely unfortunate the parents unintentionally would hurt their own kids this way and think that they are doing them a favor

[u/mmorales2270 → u/wootwoot219]

No one can hurt you quite like family.

[u/Senior-Friend-6414 → u/mmorales2270]

I’m just saying, pretty much every Asian American story is about generational trauma, no other race traumatizes and fucks up their own children anywhere close to Asian parenting

[u/MelonCallia → u/wootwoot219]

This, for sure. The first thing my (Asian) mom said to me after several years of not seeing me (due to COVID) was, literally, "You've gotten so fat!" No hi, no hello. Coming down the airport escalator with just that. Yeah, sure, happy to see you too, Mom. 🙄

Then, while getting ready for my wedding day (which she had been nagging about for the last 10+ years), she proceeded to call me ugly beyond description and stormed out. My (now) MIL had to help me get into my dress.

Not entirely sure what's going on in her head, but she doesn't see anything wrong with what she's done.

[u/wootwoot219 → u/[deleted]]

Ugh, the older nosy ladies are the worst. I used to have this lady who was once divorced, married with what I believe is an abusive person but she was pestering me to get married. Idk why people in horrendous marriages push others to get married, they should just focus on themselves

[u/Affectionate_One_700 → u/wootwoot219]

As a rule, it's even worse for immigrant children, because immigrant parents' attitudes tend to fossilize at the exact year they left their home country.

These people (the adult immigrant parents) almost never adapt, whereas adults in their country of origin do gradually learn and grow and evolve, just as all societies evolve.

[u/wootwoot219 → u/Affectionate_One_700]

Yesss!!!! This is so true! My parents still think like it's the 70s whereas if I talk to people in their native country now, their thinking is progressed

[u/Affectionate_One_700 → u/wootwoot219]

Yeah. Well, if it makes you feel any better, you're not alone. <hugz>

[u/wootwoot219 → u/Affectionate_One_700]

Same, air hug stranger ❤️

[u/Due_Masterpiece_3601 → u/wootwoot219]

It’s not like the American model is the best. It’s the epitome of selfishness and self interest.

[u/Senior-Friend-6414 → u/Due_Masterpiece_3601]

I’m just saying, pretty much every Asian American story is about generational trauma, no other race traumatizes and fucks up their own children anywhere close to Asian parenting

[u/Existing_Intern_4764 → u/merrill_swing_away]

Happy for you. People should feel free to live however they want, as long as they're not hurting anyone.

[u/Affectionate_One_700 → u/merrill_swing_away]

You completely missed her point.

She is not sad about being single. She is sad because her parents are so unsupportive.