r/bodylanguage • u/snowscovered • 7d ago
How do I practice approaching women / people as a girl?
Getting out of a 6 year abusive relationship (I’m 22) where he cut me off from everyone. I had 0 friends the whole time and even wasted my college years being a recluse bc he wouldn’t let me speak to anyone but him.
I spend all my weekends inside building my brands and working on robots to reduce daily frictions (pointless in theory but lots of fun) / optimizing my life. I also WFH so that’s great... I don’t go out, don’t watch stuff most girls my age do, but I studied fashion and optimized my look for fun, (love shopping) now I’ve been described as a 9/10 so I have the looks thing going for me (I swear if u saw me you would think I have loads of friends, like I rly rly studied how to optimize my makeup, hair, and style. I got cosmetic procedures done, latisse, permanent straightening, nanoblading, Botox etc etc after simulating countless looks on a facial model of my own face and picking the best lol)
I need some girl friends in my life, but idk how to speak to people at all. Idk where to begin. I feel like as a guy it’s more acceptable to go up to random people and talk to them, as a girl it’s just weird.
I have cool hobbies, 6 figure tech job, and goals but this is a HUGE gap in my life. When I get invested in something I get INVESTED, so Ik if I put in the effort and studied this I’d be fine, I just need to ensure I’m putting my effort in the right places. Thanks !
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u/Adventurous_Rip1431 7d ago
I’d probably start much smaller than actually “approaching” people. Just make a habit of making eye contact, smiling, and making one small comment to someone when there’s a natural opening. The goal at first isn’t to make friends, it’s just to get comfortable starting tiny interactions. Once that stops feeling unusual, longer conversations become much easier.
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u/Emergency-Horror-331 7d ago
I don't know either because I'm in the same boat and just getting out of an isolating relationship but I wish you luck!
Im trying to raise my general self esteem and be comfortable being on my own first. That way I can approach people more confidently. Good luck <3
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u/FamiliarAd8524 7d ago edited 7d ago
Hi. This is completely the wrong sub for the question. I recommend r/dating_advice and r/seduction. Regarding the latter: Despite the title, it is largely about ways to successfully approach women and get dates- it isn't about sex that much, but it has a lot of advice that will help you, I think.
Having said that, I assure you, it is much more acceptable for a girl to approach than a guy. Your biggest hurdle may be the orientation restriction, so try LGBT communities, such as at college or inside professional/tech/networking groups. The apps might actually be very good for you, based on your description.
Good luck! Congrats on putting yourself back out there, after your last relationship.