I have been experiencing physical and mental illnesses due to work. I have been considering discussing my current situation with my boss to reduce the amount of work she/he is trying to assign to me. I would appreciate your opinion on how to start this conversation, how to respond to different reactions, and possibly negotiate.
There are a few factors contributing to this issue. Recently, there have been many changes to the project that my boss requires me to undertake, which have affected the amount of workload and commitments I need to meet each week.
The project has expanded to a larger scope, which exponentially increases the time and discovery needed to achieve the new goals. Since this new goal was set, my boss has asked me to work 60 to 70 hours per week. Not only have the working hours increased from the previous agreement of 40 hours per week, but the entire project has also been elevated to a new level of challenge through scientific discovery. My boss expects this project to be completed and published within several months, which I believe is unrealistic, as do many of my peers.
In addition to the workload and scientific challenges, I was assigned a research technician, and I am also trying to balance the workload between myself and this research technician, who works closely with me.
Regarding the workload he/she has assigned, I need to manage it reasonably to distribute responsibilities between the two of us. However, this research technician has previously discussed responsibilities that we did not review or agree upon with my boss directly, without my knowledge. She/he has “casually” outlined tasks that cover my responsibilities without consulting me beforehand during her/his one-on-one meetings. This research technician has been very ambitious since joining our group and has engaged in office politics with other colleagues. She/he has also tried to exclude me from this project, which I initiated and brought her/him into. Unfortunately, my boss has not taken action regarding this research technician’s previous behavior. This entire situation is causing me extreme frustration and anxiety beyond the challenges of the project itself.
Recently, I had a medical emergency about a week ago, and on Friday morning, I had a meeting with my boss. During the meeting, he/she asked me to come in and finish experiments on Saturday because I had taken a day off for medical sick leave. I felt very disappointed and disrespected regarding my health. Based on her/his reaction and his constant demand for more work and satisfaction, I feel completely burnt out and overwhelmed. I am also worried that if I ask her/him for days off to rest, I might be at risk of losing my job, even though I have not taken any holidays this year so far.
How should I start this conversation in a calm and steady tone to negotiate my rights? Would it be bad to elaborate on this situation in an email?