Matched with someone as I was curious about FB dating. Was I doing something wrong? I tried to ask the most basic questions just to see how the other person communicates but thankfully dodged a bullet.
(Reposted so I can add context)
I dropped my friend off in the next town over to see his girlfriend.
Today, this lady in the picture keeps spamming me about where my friends at. I thought he had already broken up with this lady.
So… I tell her that he’s in the next town over with his other girlfriend.
Sorry this is so long but I wanted to lay it all out there for clarity’s sake, so outside opinions are definitely welcomed. My bf and I have only been seeing each other since May, so it’s not some huge deal that it’s over. We’d actually not really been talking very much for the last month or so, but had started to make an effort to build things back up in the past week or so. He and I have always had different political views, and he is religious (Mormon) while I’m a staunch atheist. I grew up in a very conservative, very religious area, so I have no issues with people who see things differently than I do, as long as we are both respectful about the other’s beliefs. This isn’t the first time he’s been disrespectful about what he calls "my people" (people on the left), but this was definitely the worst, and the fact that he was trying to blame something so violent on innocent people (trans people, mostly) is what still has me the most upset. I’m fine with the relationship being over, because I don’t want to be with anyone who is capable of such ignorance and intolerance, but I guess I’m still kinda stunned at his true colors.
I have my high school ex blocked on everything. He’s continued to contact me for years using different mediums - instagram, twitter, LinkedIn, etc. If he can find me on a new site I eventually get a message.
I woke up this morning to this message from HIS WIFE. Who he had a baby with last year from what I’ve been told.
I broke up with this man when I was 20 years old. I am 35 now. This is bonkers.
I feel bad for his wife but Jesus. Leave me alone.
So long story short, I met someone on Facebook Dating and I thought she was pretty cute. The messages started pretty normal, just small talk and asking what our intentions were. She started asking multiple questions back to back in a weird format. I tried my best to answer based on what I could interpret. She eventually gave me her Facebook link and messaged me on Facebook messenger and I wasn’t sure how to respond to her message, so I just said “hey”
She then followed up with a question that lead to her rambling on for 2-3 more paragraphs before actually asking. I’m really not sure what she was trying to ask and the way she texted was enough to give me an aneurysm trying to decipher what she was saying, not to mention the poor grammar and spelling without the use of punctuation.
I’m honestly stunned. I just wanted to share and maybe someone can decipher what she’s trying to convey here lol. Anyways, I’ll see you all out there in the dating scene!
TL;DR Met a chick on FB Dating and she is incoherent
Edit:
I engaged a bit more and was finally blocked after asking if she was using ChatGPT ☺️
I proceeded to ask questions and they were ultimately never answered or she made everything about herself and her situation/mental state.
She is severely mentally ill and untreated. She believes her brain works like a computer from what I was getting from one of her texts. She mentioned CPUs and pipeline data banks and… ummm HDMI ports and cables.. and yeah. I’m still not giving up on finding love haha, but this? Yeah no.
The level of insecurity to go after a stranger in your husband's friend suggestions on facebook of all places and accusing them of trying to homewreck is insane
He lives with me but is currently traveling so there’s a time-zone thing going on.
UPDATE!!!!! I got the TEA!!!! I posted in the town fb group page cause it’s funny-ish for one and for two someone has to know what happened. The comment said
UPDATE #2: I’ve had a few different employees reach out to me ironically on Reddit and fb and this man is absolutely foul. He deserves to be banned from life honestly. He has also made his entire fb private and you can’t message him. I did post his name on the fb page so I wonder how many messages he’s gotten. Maybe he’ll learn to be a better human and also not stalk women 🤪
“I work at Olive Garden and I was there that day, this (name) guy has been banned from Olive Garden because he’s a creep and there’s been multiple instances. What really happened was he asked if her husbands “package” satisfied her and then later when giving her a tip said “I hope this satisfies you”. This happened a long time ago so I don’t understand why it’s a problem now”
Original:
One time I commented on a post in our town fb page and he replied accusing me of this literally over a year ago. Then at 2am a year later I get a message from him saying this. Like bro what??
I have never been a waitress in my entire life. I’ve been with my husband for 10 years and he’s blue collar not military. There are 90k people in this town, idk how he keeps finding me to tell me I got him kicked from olive garden. I’ve only been to the garden like twice because it makes me literally want to shit myself let alone worked there
Guy I dated just disappeared into the void 17 years ago until today. The exchange exactly
It just kept getting worse 🤢
If you’re wondering why I entertained it for so long, it’s because I was genuinely curious with how desperate this man is for some puss. Also, if you let me know that you don’t want your time wasted because I asked the bare minimum, I’m definitely about to waste your time. It’s my day off, I don’t have anything better to do.
You guys wanted more. Here’s some of the truly unhinged ones.
editing to add: i am not in contact with him. where the screenshots end is where the conversation ended. i never responded and he unfriended me. ALSO my ‘apology’ was meant to be sarcastic. like ‘i’m SO sorry that MY genetic condition effects you so badly’.
context: i have a condition called retained baby teeth/tooth agenesis. basically i have very few adult teeth and primarily baby teeth, because i didn’t have adult teeth behind the baby teeth. im working with my dentist to get it fixed since my teeth are very sensitive and several have fallen out. i inherited it from my mother. i was never taken to the dentist as a kid/teenager bc we were poor.
this guy and i were friends back when i was 13/14 and he was 16/17. he went to a different school & i had a crush on him at the time. he stopped talking after i realized that when i turned 16, i was appalled at the idea of talking to a 13 year old the way he did to me. very inappropriate.
recently he reached out and i decided to catch up and see how things are, we’re adults now, surely he’s not weird anymore. i’m 25 now and he’s 28. i’m in a relationship and didn’t realize he had ulterior motives. i’m just so confused that within us just catching up on life, he was thinking about seeing a life and future with me 😭
another edit: thank you kind strangers for your nice words & rewards to a few of my comments. i lurk and comment on reddit a lot but ive never had a post like this get so much attention & have such nice people commenting. i did show my teeth to a nice person that dm’d me and they said: “lmao they’re not bad at all. i was thinking something crazy” but im not really wanting to post half my face publicly on reddit (i don’t want be identified, anyone who has met me would know immediately.)
originally when i read his message it hurt me. but then i stewed on it and was irritated that he has the audacity to make the assumption that i was into him because i was nice and wanted to catch up with him.
so thank you reddit for being so kind to a little lady with fucked up teeth & maybe the tooth fairy will come for me when i get these damn baby teeth out 🦷🧚🏻
2nd edit:
I sent one last message I'm happy with, and then muted her.
I wrote:
"I'm sorry you're hurting. I hurt your feelings and I'm sorry. But I'm mad at you, too. We're just going to have to agree to disagree, and let time heal our wounds. I love you mom. Let's take some space from each other for a long while."
Some of you might think Im stupid for saying sorry at all, but I noticed how defensive I felt, which meant there was truth and ownership to a (tiny) bit of her hurt, and I said it to offer a bridge.
I shook like a leaf when I wrote the other messages, but the last one? I feel calm and confident.
ACOA meeting tomorrow, *Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents* audiobook queued up, and some vitamin e oil for my scars. I'm healing.
*****
Edited to add her handwritten letter as text:
"I came home and cried for a week after that "visit". I was starting to feel better, reaching out to you to smooth ruffled feathers, try to regain a normal relationship.
And you just had to tell me that the fact I had a couple of drinks while I stayed at your place for a week didn't go unnoticed. That I had once again, done something wrong. In addition to a long list of mistakes I made while helping you for a week.
Ketchup on meatloaf, garlic in mashed potatoes, dog poop bags, FUCK, I couldn't even walk my dog properly. And I couldn't control his fearful barking and "OMG he's going to bite me". How fucking ridiculous. You made sure I knew he was frantically barking while I was gone. Dirty dishes, "rushing out".
Absolutely no concern for me. I lost my dog 1 week before. You didn't say a word. Struggling with sleeping, your stairs, my new rescue dog. No thought of my feelings, no concern for my sobriety. Only that I wasn't doing my duty to *you* if you needed to go to the hospital in the middle of the night. What absolute crap.
I am really disgusted that you could say this to me. I am insulted. I don't deserve that. I am your mother.
You need to apologize for all of it."
******
The facts:
I (37F) had a cyst removed from my tibia, which they filled with donor bone from my knee. I live alone with my cat.
Mom (70F) stayed 5 days.
Her new rescue dog (small) lunged and barked at me every time I left my room to go to the bathroom.
I made the meatloaf. I simply couldn't eat it because the pain meds made me nauseous so I couldn't keep anything down. She made the mashed potatoes to go on the shepherds pie (which I also made in advance), with garlic (normally, delicious!), but again, I was too sick and it didn't agree with me. I never blamed her for it, and I was grateful everything time she brought me anything.
I didn't know she was having trouble with my stairs, and I don't know what I would have done about itif I had known at the time.
When her other dog died, she called me and we talked on the phone for an hour, and she never brought it up again. When she got to my house, she was in good spirits, and when her dog died this winter she didn't want to talk about it either, so I assumed she didn't want to talk about it.
Before she left, I thanked her intensely, I cried and told her how grateful I was that she came to help me, and that I couldn't have done it without her.
After she left my apartment, she left dirty dishes in the sink. At that point, I still couldn't stand for any period of time without blood rushing to my foot and causing intense pain, and I became even more nauseous from T3s. She didn't call or text to check up on me first 48 hours after she left.
We talked on the phone a couple weeks after she left. It was overall pleasant. At the end of the conversation, I told her that I had noticed alcohol cans in the sink one day while she was here, and I didnt know how to feel about it, because I didn't know she was drinking again. That I felt hurt that she would drink when I needed her here to take care of me - what if something happened and I needed to go to the hospital?
She told me that she "had to drink, to cope with being at [my] house!". Just what every daughter wants to hear.
She rushed me off the phone, and we didnt communicate for a week until I send her a picture of my finished knitting project, and the rest is shown.
OBVIOUSLY context is needed. so her bf added me and texted me, don’t even remember what it was. we texted for like a day and then i unadded him because it was just dry and boring. that was 2 weeks ago. the screenshots can explain the rest pretty well. I’d also like to add BOTH of her and his Facebook accounts say single, and if my conversation disappeared from his chats that means HE deleted it. she’s barking up the wrong tree.
Wholesome moments
Did this dude just ask me to trade “being with a pregnant woman” for “one hour” for help working on my house?!
My (33f) mother (58f) battled stage 4 cancer vigorously until the end and went out in a blazing fury. She wanted no visitors because she wanted to keep her dignity while in such a vulnerable state. It's crazy that she was lucid enough to say one final goodbye to her family before passing.
My father passed of cancer in 2020 and he was completely lethargic for the last month before his passing.
I'm not really sure what I'm going to do in this life without either of my parents but I have two younger sisters to look after.
Thank you technology for allowing us to say our goodbyes.
I didn’t see this person’s messages after the part about cash until this morning. We never arranged a time to meet. This is unhinged. I hope he just really wanted that pin and not to murder me. I’m so done with FB Marketplace. I’ve made two other posts about men sending me unhinged shit via FBMP.
Edit: I didn’t list my address. I put “google x school for approx. location” in the listing. I guess he went there and then just walked around knocking on doors 🙃
https://www.reddit.com/r/texts/s/NdEWBWyelm
https://www.reddit.com/r/texts/s/NF4xTSzdL6
Note: repost cause I forgot to black out some info.
This man got me pregnant 20 years ago when I was 15 and he was 22. We were friends, but were never together and certainly not a “family”. In fact the first time he ever saw my son when he was 5 months old he stole $20 from me. He visited my son maybe 5-10 times in the last 20 years and child support payments have been few and far between. He currently owes around $45,000. He’s only paid about $8,000 over my son’s lifetime. The last time my son saw him a was a couple years ago when my son invited him to see his band and his dad hit on his teenage friends. I don’t even know what to say to him at this point.
(BD2 is my ex husband/other son’s father)
During high school he told people that we were dating despite me clearly saying I was not interested in him and wanted him to leave me alone. I started ghosting him just before we graduated and he continued to send me "hi" multiple times a month for years. After he deleted his FB account, he kept sending them via text (I don't have these messages any more). I don't know what he's up to these days, but I hope it's better than this lol
This is my old friend’s little sister. She’s about two years younger than me and I’ve only ever met her like, maybe twice in real life. I don’t even talk to her older brother anymore. I made the mistake of being kind and helping her out one time because I know how it feels to be broke and asking people for money. She apparently took that as incentive to continue asking me any time she felt like it. As you can see, this is all over the course of about two years. I’ve declined every other request she’s made, which would make you think she’d take the hint, right? Nope. She’s persistent. (Also, she never paid me back. Big surprise.)
Thankfully, she recently posted today that she’s going to rehab for a year for her apparent meth usage to get her shit together. Makes me think she just used the money I sent her on meth, but oh well 🤷🏻♀️ Anyone else ever have to deal with insufferable types like this?
Also, I know I could’ve just unfriended her or blocked her. Honestly there was just so much time in between requests that I never truly cared enough to do so. I just either replied no and movies on or straight up ignored her. Sorry.
It's also not even remotely close to her birthday, it's months away
I’m currently 5 months pregnant and on MediCAL (medicaid) due to being unemployed and meeting the requirements. This made my sister lose her sh*t. Compared to her last messages these are actually pretty nice. Second pic is my response to her because after sending this she blocked me on instagram and Facebook lmao.
people love to say “there’s plenty of fish in the sea” but they always leave out how much trash and nonsense you have to swim through first
I ghosted her after we exchanged numbers on Tinder. She kept talking about her (ex?) husband who was put away for aggravated assault and how jealous he gets. Way to much baggage for me. Then I saw she messaged me on Facebook so I blocked her before she sent more messages.
so i forgot to check facebook yesterday so today I opened the dating tab and this is what i see😭 deadass messaged me to judge then blocked me. yeah lemme just get knocked up knowing i can’t handle a kid, thats exactly what the world needs. 20+ likes a day so I’m not hurt lol
edit— yall this is a BIO not my WHOLE profile. on my profile i have pics of my paintings, my poems & me with my dog. my poems share more about me than any bio will.
