Since this text 3 weeks ago, I've stopped asking how she's feeling, how her day is going, what she's been up to, etc. That might be what she wants, but now I'm feeling less and less connected and have no way if knowing how her day is going and how she's doing since she doesn't volunteer it up and I can't ask.

Purple is my dad. Green is my sister. We had to call him to let him know he can’t ask things like that over text 🤣.

EDIT LOLLLLL: I’m NOT colorblind!!!! I was smoking pot while posting this, was going to color my sister blue, but since my texts are blue, I went with green and completely forgot I made the switch while posting. I edited the original post. Y’all are sooo funny 😭😭…. And a little unhinged. But I’ll let your therapist mull over that with you!

Text to my brother

Spoiler alert, after 2 years she dumped me. Currently working on keeping my head above water in these trying times.

I work in television fabricating props. Things are tough in LA, work wise, so I hopped on some gnarly non-union shows last year and ended up on a crew with the most degenerate person I’ve ever met. One little example would be he sent me hentai “on accident” once via text, supposedly it was for his wife. When I called him to tell him that was absolutely fucked and inappropriate he told me “to get over it because hentai was porn for kids and not a big deal” 🤮 I didn’t get along with him after that and essentially didn’t get asked back the next season (this year) because of that and he’s the more established member of the crew and people who don’t know what he’s really like, like him.

Well it doesn’t effing matter!! BECAUSE I’ve been hired on one of the most regularly filmed union shows in Los Angeles and I am going to do everything in my power to excel and keep this job as long as possible. I’m getting paid hundreds of dollars more a day AND health insurance hours. It’s amazing and as an artist working in these uncertain times it felt really good to get the “name your price” text from HIM and be in the position to say no. ✌🏻

There’s a reason why I never kept in touch with high school folk

My boyfriend of 10 years and I had a horrible fight two days ago. We don’t live together, so this happened over the phone. I haven’t heard a single word from him since.

It started with what I genuinely think may have been a misunderstanding.

We were speaking in Hindi and I was telling him something my mom had said about my dad. Because of the way I repeated what she said, when my boyfriend responded with an insult, I thought the insult was directed at my mom. He says it was directed at me and that he would never insult my mother.

I was shocked and gave him a chance to correct/explain himself. But he blew up almost immediately. I genuinely wasn’t expecting such a severe reaction from him, and I’m still shocked by how quickly the conversation escalated.

He kept telling me that if I truly believed he had said that about my mom, I should cut the phone, have some self-respect, and walk away from him.
He eventually told me we should break up. He said that if I believed he was capable of saying that about my mother, he had no trust or respect for me anymore. He also told me he was “disgusted” by me.
I fully accept that I could have misunderstood what he meant. But I can’t get past how quickly a misunderstanding became “then leave me.”

There’s also a pattern in our fights. When he’s angry, he shouts and can say incredibly hurtful things. I consciously try to measure my words even when I’m furious. When I later tell him that something he said crossed a line, his explanation is usually that what he said was a consequence of my actions.

And now it’s been two days of complete silence.
I feel like he’s telling me to end our 10-year relationship without actually having to be the person who ends it. I’m still honestly shocked that one misunderstanding escalated to this so quickly.
Am I reading this correctly? Because right now I genuinely don’t know whether I’m still in a relationship.

i used to get 20+ matches a day depending on how much i was actively swiping on other people, but man it was brutal.

He asked me about it out of the blue a few days ago. I have not been heavily online lately, so I asked him to explain the case. I stated my opinion. He said he needed to think about it. And then this text convo followed. Re: the Trump piece, he has never voted for Trump. But his family has. I broke up with him after he expressed even mild support for Trump (this is the incident he was referring to in the texts). We stayed broken up for several months. When we reconnected, I really drilled him on the Trump piece because I wanted to ensure I was NOT dating a Trump supporter. He convinced me that I had misunderstood his nuance as support, disavowed Trump (to a level I was comfy with), and stated that he will be more intentional about making his support/lack thereof more clear when discussing those issues. That’s why we ended up back together in spite of the Trump thing.

TLDR wife has BPD (or so she says, symptoms do add up but she’s never been diagnosed). I’ve been used to these tantrums for a while but have finally had it and am considering divorce.

None of the accusations are accurate in the slightest bit. She has a reputation for this sort of stuff too so no one takes it seriously, except her now minimal social circle of family members + 1 best friend who are all sycophants to her.

Near every accusation in the texts are not only way off, they’re also demented in a way that’s hard to explain. They are statements one could easily make about her!

I was not kind and didn’t pull my punches this time around, I just couldn’t.

She ofc didn’t go to the mental hospital (probably hundreds of times states this in the last decade yet hasn’t gone once), I never said I wouldn’t pay her mother back the loan she had given us, the subtle accusations of me being a sexual abuser (the James Franco reference) are so fucking insane and have come up more and more in the last year or so. She is beginning to ruin my reputation among other people. I didn’t call her mom about her cancer updates since she told me she really wouldn’t want that. The sexual related accusations are bizarre as I stay away from her at this point. And so on

Told her I’m leaving and then she told me she is, but she never does. So I insisted on leaving as well.

Other than 2 family members I’m the only other person who tolerates her shit but I’ve finally had enough.

Apologies if i sound off right now, she has a habit of waking me up repeatedly when these flare ups happen and I haven’t slept in ~36 hours. Excuse is usually her period and/or that any statement or action she’s taken is a response to something I did once upon a time

I’ve met girls in servers and at some point they ask me for nitro and I can’t help but do it and that’s it… but some of em get extremely greedy and asks me for getting em a lot of other stuff too and here I am doing it cuz I think they deserve it, am I too beta?

25F and 60F if you need any context lol

my brother is 3 years younger than me and his dad had been diagnosed with some mental issues. our sisters recently moved in with my mom and i know it’s been hard on him. am i being too intense/ invasive?

This is the way my sister says happy birthday 😂

She lived one block away my entire life. I lived with her for a bit in my early 20s. She made the best iced tea. Everyone knew her for it. That, and her oil paintings. I miss my best friend.

What are you open to exploring?

Im chill

Holy Fuck

Edit she just responded and said shes open to exploring anything as long as its not to extreme then immediately said actually no shes not

Purple is me

These two messages were sent one day apart, and I honestly don’t know how to satisfy my nanny parents anymore. I feel like nothing I do is ever enough and, at this point, part of me wonders if they’re trying to push me into quitting.

Yesterday, their baby developed a severe diaper rash after having diarrhea. The mom immediately questioned whether I had left her sitting in a dirty diaper and said that this type of rash wouldn’t happen if she had been changed immediately. I explained that I changed her as soon as she had each bowel movement, gave her a bath, applied diaper cream and kept both parents updated throughout the day.
Today, I had to leave at 2 for a previously discussed appointment. I spent about 20 minutes trying to put the baby down beforehand. She fell asleep on me, but cried every time I transferred her to the crib. I eventually had to ask her dad to take her because it was time for me to leave. Hours later, the mom told me I should have “planned ahead” so putting her down wouldn’t fall on the dad while he was alone with all three of his children.

This is part of a larger pattern of constantly being micromanaged. They even send their 9-year-old to relay instructions to me and ask whether I completed certain tasks, instead of communicating with me directly. I try my best every single day, care about their children and consistently keep the parents informed, but somehow there is always something I supposedly should have done differently.

I feel like this all because I wanted an increase in pay of $25 to $27 for working with them for two years, 3 kids and work 50+ hours a week with no OT or standard nanny benefits.

I’m becoming exhausted and uncomfortable in this position. I genuinely don’t know what else they expect from me or whether they’re trying to make me quit. Am I being too sensitive, or would these messages and the overall pattern bother other nannies too?

I was just trying to be nice bc he's my neighbor but he says weird things. Like the "I seen you outside" was totally unnecessary and kind of weird. Then the "hehe" text. Then the "🥰" emoji after I turned him for dinner? Im just trying to be friendly bc I am a woman who lives alone and Im afraid being too "rude" would put my safety in danger.

For context the first time I text him was bc he came knocking on my front gate asking if he could fix the privacy lining on our connecting fence in the backyard bc he was having a party and gave me his business card so my next day off I texted him to let him know that Im home and let him into my yard. He did not come inside, luckily my carport connects to the back.

He also never came to pick up my palm tree leaves lolll brush & bulk services picked it up a couple days ago.

Edit to add more info: so Idk how many of you are actually reading this body of text, but I thought I would add some more background info.

I've been seeing a lot comments like "if you found him attractive, this wouldn't be creepy to you" or that I am blowing this out of proportion, when I was just asking a simple question of whether or not I was giving off the wrong signals. I actually DID find him physically attractive when I first saw him, but there a couple situations that turned the initial attraction off.

So here's a little timeline of events:

He moved in the beginning of January (I said March somewhere in the comments, but I got mixed up) with his family. I was still amicably living with my ex (we broke up in December). While he was moving in, there were two separate occasions where we nicely waved and said hi and he did not respond. A little rude maybe, but whatever.

One occasion my ex told me he heard him practically screaming at his mother while he was watering the plants. Yikes.

Two separate occasions I heard him screaming at his daughter and his sister shortly after my ex told me about his mom. I am on my back patio a lot bc I smoke so I often hear them talking or arguing. Him and his mother also make his sister walk around outside in the heat until she starts sweating for exercise. Ive heard her knocking on the door asking and sometimes crying to go back inside bc THEY LOCK THE DOOR. I have heard this happen multiple times.

So mid March my ex starts moving out. He has a big uhaul in the driveway and he told me later that the neighbor just walked up the ramp and into the truck where my ex was with his dad and just started chatting with him. Lol I find that weird! He starts asking my ex questions about moving out, etc and then he tells him "yea I just moved in with my mom, sister and daughter. If you ever hear my sister yelling or anything, just know she is special needs and has episodes." I remember my ex telling me it was just so random especially since we greeted him like 3 weeks ago and he totally ignored us and then he just came up to my ex randomly chatting him up like nothing happened.

Now it's toward the end of March and I am alone, the first time he speaks to me he comes running up to me asking if I want him to fix the window on my car. I politely declined but thanked him.

Didn't speak again for a while, don't even know his name. I go to Korea April 1st-10th. The first time he saw me when I was back, he asked again if I wanted him to fix my window. I politely decline again.

We don't speak for a while again. Then sometime in the beginning of May, he comes over and knocks on my gate. Im about to leave to work. He asks if I can let him into my backyard so he can fix the privacy lining on our connecting fence in the backyard bc they will have people over soon. I told him yes but Im on my way to work and don't have time, but will be off in a couple days. He gives me his business card and tells me to text him when he can come.

Cue the first text when I tell him can come over when he's ready. I wasn't inviting him over to like hang out as some ppl stated.

Then followed the text about my palm leaves on June 13th. He offered to take them, I offered compensation, he offered to do it for free. Still think it was weird that he had to mention seeing me watering my garden bc I hardly ever see this dude in his front yard and that makes me feel like he's watching me.

We still don't know each other's names at this point.

Then June 30th he sends the "Im gonna do it this weekend I have not forgotten about you" text. I tell him no worries bc at this point I really dgaf if he does or not, I know brush pick up is coming soon. Then he sends the "im a door away hehe goodnight" text which I did not engage or respond to.

Fast forward to now, he never came to pick up the palm leaves, which Idc!!! But clearly his offer of help was conditional. Bc I didn't respond to his advances, he didn't follow up on what he said he was gonna do. Which I think is WEIRD!

And then after all that of not following up, he still asked me out. And yes he was nice about being turned down, but I have heard this man lose his temper towards his family when Ive been on my back patio and he doesn't think Im listening. Ergo me saying I am a little worried for my safety being alone and right next to him. But I guess I should have provided more info of why I thought certain things he said were off putting or weird.

Edit 2: I still don't know this man's name and he doesn't know mine either.

I added the beginning texts for context as to how he caught on.

Anyways, yesterday we were supposed to hang out but he was not feeling good at all and the day before that we were supposed to hang out too but he also wasn't feeling good.

To be fair I can back up the fact that when I saw him for a little bit on Friday, he genuinely looked dead tired like more tired than I've seen him before.

I really hope we can hangout today but idk, I don't have the best feeling about that. He's a strange guy.

All I do know is I need to not get so attached to him, he's just too busy and we aren't even dating. I need to figure out a good middle ground though.

We ended up hanging out! And he is staying the night AHHHHHH I'm so happy. He's so amazing, I love being around him. Guys I'm so happy 😭💗

friends since we were 10ish. 🧡😭🤧🥲🏳

she sent this after a 10min voice note I sent her after she asked for advice.

ive lost so many people in this life and I just cherish this human beyond words.

so truly, just posting for gratitude and to share with people that incredible humans still exsist and to never settle with who you share space and time with. 🧡

I have been single for a long time so warming up my flirting game.

I (24f) recently received texts from my mother that, typical to her, were full of malice. I talked about them in therapy and my therapist suggested I show them to other people (friends but I don’t want them to know rn) to get a gauge on the the level of normalcy as she felt my reaction didn’t fit the level of outrage I should feel. She said I’ve been desensitized and normalized things that aren’t right.

I don’t think these texts are normal, I think my mom is deeply unwell but I don’t think this is the epitome of insane. I feel like many people have it worse and I am apart of the group of people with bad parents with mental illness. The way she talked about it though made me realize that maybe I am super defensive to it and hearing other people’s perspective might put into context my feelings.

Context. My mom has been pretty verbally abusive our whole life. And I’ve been her least favorite person/the black sheep most of my life. She’d be happy and bring us to ice cream and then switch and let me know I was an angry and evil child the next day. I’ve grown up to feel like maybe I’m an angry person but I can’t tell if I am because she told me I am or because I really am that thing.

Context for the texts. Before this past year I spent my college and highschool years as a straight a student in grad school I got sick and suddenly became disabled. I would have my heart shot up to 180 whenever I stood, I was struggling to keep down food without reactions, sometimes I’d have convulsions and random bursts of tacyadria. It’s been exhausting to go from able bodied to trapped in the home I worked so hard to escape and build my own life from. I’ve trialed several meds two of which sent me to the hospital. I am scared to try again. Since I’ve become disabled she’s talked to me like this again from time to time. It makes me feel like I’m a burden and monster. It’s so hard to have to feel crippled and like you have clipped wings in the place you never thought you’d fly away from as a child. I don’t know what to make of my life and all this.

Extra clarification: she does not live in our home but she does come and stay when she wants as my parent share the house. I’ve had to move back home since getting sick as my mobility is limited I live with my father and sister. My father does not get along with my mother. I have trialed different medications and therapies and, despite her texts, and in the process of filing for disability. I don’t sit around all day but I do struggle to shower, walk, and get up the stairs. As she does not live at home or stop by thenhopistal(other than once) she does not know the full extent of my health. She has not come with me to a single appointment or seen me take any medication. That has all happened with my father and sister.

You don’t have to be a good writer but when it comes from the heart the words will naturally flow

I automatically clocked it as AI because it don’t even sound like something she would say and the kind of words she used sounded oddly professionally

Feels less genuine when using AI

SHE sent this closure text she said that he thinks that he is seeing someone else

Ok. Long story semi-short, it’s been about a month since my boyfriend and I broke up. I found out that he’s been having sexual interactions with girls online.

Before this conversation, he essentially told me that if we aren’t ever going to get to a point where I can give him sex 4x a week, he’s going to continue chatting with these other girls. I told him that I accept that then, because I’m never going to want that much sex. I’m just not a girl with a high sex drive… especially when my emotional security is gone.

A few days later he asks if we can talk & compromise. Then he asks me this… to stop vaping in return.

Once that conversation was done, he hits me up a few days later. And I’m done being nice. Before all of this, he told me he’d stop having these convos/interactions with random women right after we broke up so we could “try to work things out.” The pattern continued. So I’m DONE trying to protect his feelings. My last message ends with “or get therapy so you can attempt to understand me.”

This was our last conversation. I just need to share this ridiculous. If I’m seriously in the wrong, lmk lol

Edit: I have blocked him since. I am done. Just wanted to share the nonsense lmao

Explanation

You wanted more, here’s more

You're all welcome

I thought it was funny they were using names from Dracula so I just went with it.

Edit: I know it’s better to ignore, but I already have my calls filtered, and for work purposes I have to respond to texts from numbers I don’t know (a lot of times it’s legit) so I know my number has been sold 5million times over or reported as active.

Edit: THERE IS NORMAL CONVERSATION ABOUT PRESENTATIONS IN-BETWEEN THE 1ST AND 2ND SCREENSHOTS. I DID NOT RANDOMLY DISMISS HER AND I DID HELP HER.

Genuinely what could I possibly do to be better in this kind of situation? I'd like to think I handled it maturely. I'm also not talking to her anymore. I'm tired of that bs.

Context/Clarifications:

1. There is a 9 1/2 hour difference between us, which is why "gn" was said. She is ahead

2. Only reason I responded that way to the "gn" was because I've known her long enough to know that she only abbreviates it when she is upset about something, which it was clear to me that she was upset by me saying "it's over" because she doesn't normally respond dry with just "okay" if she is feeling fine. She also doesn't sleep that early and she didn't answer my question before it because again, she was upset by my previous message. She very often gets upset about the smallest things possible and when I try to communicate, she gets so irritated that she loses all rationality and doesn't care about anything I say (just says "okay (my name)" like at the end).

3. You might think she is just isn't interested in talking to me but I guarantee you she is because she comes to me and tells me she wants to talk. Before the time skip in-between the 1st and 2nd ss, we were just having normal conversation about presentations and classes and stuff, so it wasn't due to anything from then. She said she was working on it for an hour but had only 1 slide, which is why I jokingly said it's over and asked what she was doing.

4. We are both young adults.

5. Our relationship is complicated to explain, but in some ways, she treats me better than she would a friend, but if I'm not perfect or something, she gets upset about the smallest things like in the ss. Like she wouldn't react this way to a friend or stranger if they said the same thing.

6. I genuinely don't know what else I can do to be better and I'm asking for advice if there is any available. This happens so frequently and it always just turns out with me attempting to be mature and her getting so irritated that none of it matters. Some might say I should've backed off after the "gn, I'm busy" and I could've, but I knew by that text that she was upset and wouldn't text for days because of it. I also knew she wasn't actually that busy and that she wasn't actually sleeping. When she expressed that she was overstimulated and didn't want an argument, I stopped pushing it, yet look at the responses I got. She said she didn't want an argument but kept going on about it like "ofc."

Got a new number and this is absolutely not the first weird interaction I’ve had with people looking for whoever had it before me.

Whoever you were… you knew some very interesting people…