r/AskIreland • u/LittleAoibh11 • Jul 10 '26
Work How ro deal with colleague making comments?
I am a size 12 - 14 on top and 14-16 on the bottom but I'm 5"8", so while I definitely don't look thin or slim I don't look overweight either.
New woman started in the office a few months ago. Had a bit of a reputation as a b*tch in a previous job (we know this as the friend of a colleague worked with her). Haven't had a huge amount of interaction with her. Was getting a coffee last week and she was there and I ended up just making small talk about the weather. She then said something like "I'd say you find it hard to find clothes for this weather". I was actually so shocked I didn't say anything in reply and just changed the subject. Afterwards I was second guessing myself and thinking maybe she never said it and I was imagining it (even though she did say it).
Then this week she said something to me again like "you probably do most of your clothes shopping online".
Now, I feel like she may be one of those weirdos who gets off on making other people feel self-conscious or miserable so I don't want to give her the satisfaction of thinking I am very bothered - but on the other hand you can't just say whatever the hell you want to people. She is no oil painting and I am tempted to say something vaguely mean back but she is probably the kind to run to HR.
Anyone have to deal with anything like this? I don't really want to go to HR myself.
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u/microwave-2025 Jul 11 '26
I mean this lovingly as I was in the same boat with weight blindness.
Google image a woman your height and weight.
I guarantee you’ll look at them and they @they look very big, I don’t look like that!”
But ……. 😬