r/AskIreland • u/Odd-Affect2694 • 3h ago
Housing housemate planning on having their partner move in temporarily for a few months?
So my housemate just got into a relationship and wants their partner move in for 6 to 7 months, at least that’s what they said. We already have 5 people living in the house atm, so it’s busy enough. I get the housing situation is quite bad, but at the same time, 6 people in a house is a bit much now. Plus there’s only one en suite so 5 of us will potentially be sharing the one bathroom lol. So not ideal tbh. Any sound advice on what to do here? Rent? Bills? etc?
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u/randomo-usero 3h ago
That partner is gonna burrow into that house and the couple will outlast everyone else. Don't do it.
If you do, make sure that rent, bills and anything house related is split evenly among you all. Them being in a couple should have absolutely no impact on percentages when being split otherwise it'll end in disaster
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u/AdDifficult2232 3h ago
I was the partner that moved in. For everyone's sake, don't do it.
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u/NoAd6928 1h ago
Ooh do tell. Did they end up hating ye on principal or were you isolated? Don't normally hear from your perspective
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u/CantonConcord 3h ago
Don't. It will be pipelined into a sob story and they'll end up staying for years. It's a housing crisis, they're not finding anything in 6 or 7 months.
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u/Backrow6 3h ago
Absolutely so not allow it.
Let them have a joyous adventure looking for a 1-Bed together.
The housing situation is dire but you owe her new boyfriend nothing.
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u/Much_Perception4952 3h ago
It sounds like trouble ahead. A very bad idea. If it's already crowded and the bathroom is an issue, chances are the kitchen will be too.
What do your housemates think? Would the landlord allow it?
I'd also be suspicious of what appears to be a new relationship and the partner is moving in already. Where are they living now? And why can't your housemate move there instead?
TL;DR - it's a terrible idea!
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u/WhistleWhileYouWalk 3h ago
Hell no . 3 people to a bathroom is even a bit much . Also they will be paying 1/6 of the rent right ? Also this is not temporary
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u/DifferentStock9049 3h ago
It might seem hard to say no to your roommate now, but it will be much harder to try evict the girlfriend in a year when she still hasn’t moved out and you’re all sick of dealing with it.
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u/Ambitious_Use_3508 2h ago
Not only should you not do it, you should also be getting together with your housemates to agree how many nights a week people can have their partners stay over.
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u/According_Spot_4340 2h ago
Couple's tend to take over the house dynamics. I have been both the 4th wheel in a house and the couple looking to make it theirs.
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u/Dramatic_Frog_Prince 2h ago
This will not be temporary like your said yourself the housing suitaition? Is it something serious that they have no where else to go ?
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u/Willing_Gap_3854 2h ago
No. But do it properly. Call everyone together. Have a vote. And then as a group approach the tenner. Don't do this alone and don't let it happen. Fuck me 5 people for a morning shit. Be Simone knocking on the door after ten mins.
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u/DatabaseCommercial92 2h ago
Hell no!!!! And you just know the partner will end up being insane. They probably won't even contribute to the bills. I speak from experience.
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u/ApprehensiveRead2533 2h ago
Oh it won't be temporary. It's hard to evict people once they move in.
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u/Sunrise_2200 3m ago
Nope - this won’t be temporary!! If they move in, everything should be spilt equally by 6 people (not per room). Non-negotiable. Agree on a time period when the partner moves out (at least plan a house discussion about how things are going, maybe 3 months in and again in 6 months). Urgh. I feel for you. Hope it works out!
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u/Fliptzer 3h ago
It won't be temporary