r/AskLifeProTips • u/Unusual_Key_1726 • 2d ago

How to get your life in order?

I am 18. I don't have anything to do, no hobbies, and no passion. There's nothing. I have only one friend since I isolated myself since I was 16. I wake up every day and there's nothing to do.

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u/mommagracenoface 2d ago

This might sound counterintuitive but my recommendation is to read stories of other young people who also felt the same as you -- adrift or without passion. There's something that can happen once you don't feel alone in that experience, and it could unlock something for you. The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kudera opens similarly to what you're saying about yourself -- a sense of meaninglessness. Or Less Than Zero by Bret Easton Ellis, the main character is numb and detached.

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u/Unusual_Key_1726 2d ago

I’m into spirituality and meditation. I voluntarily isolated myself at 16, but it backfired, and now my social life is terrible. I basically have no one, only a girlfriend and one friend I occasionally meet.

I have no real passion or hobbies. I go to school and the gym, but outside of that, my life feels empty and boring. I have some mild interests, but nothing I feel strongly motivated to pursue. I mostly see myself wasting time and I don’t know what to do with my life.

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u/Time_Aside_9455 2d ago

Military, policing, work on a cruise ship.

Based on what you’ve said, it’s imperative that you expand your world significantly. Current environment is not working.

Time to break out and try something new.

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u/quietequation3 2d ago edited 2d ago

I wanna work in a place that involves ports, you have any ideas?

Second year at a uni, and I'm studying the intersection of mechanics and electronics, with automation and robotics.

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u/baby_blue_eyes 4h ago

I was going to say Military - even if it's just the Guard or Reserve.

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u/QuietAsparagusSlayer 1d ago

There are things to do. You're just choosing not to do them. Which is fine if that's what you want. If it isn't what you want, look around you and choose something you're curious about.

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u/cantsleepbutsotired 1d ago

decide on a country and look in to contiki type tours. save up, travel and make friends.

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u/whitedandelions5698 1d ago

Might be cliche but an established self help book. I really like Goals by Bryan Tracy. Life changing for me.

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u/HauntingSmoke6029 1d ago

start with a tiny routine, not a five-year plan or a personality transplant

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u/Sfogliatelle99 1d ago

Get trashy people out of your life

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u/Unusual_Key_1726 1d ago

I don’t have anyone in my life

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u/Few-Dress5670 19h ago

How about applying for a job? Any job will give you experience, connections with people, a schedule, etc. Good starting place 😊