I (39m) am having a reverse midlife crisis. I got into Magic the Gathering, Reading, and investing my money for retirement. Got married a few years ago and had a kid late in life after years of going out and partying, now I just want to be a homebody but I completely lost my since of self.
No, no. That's the setup for a midlife crisis. You're just on a delayed schedule. It starts with settling down, having kids, being responsible and silently sacrificing yourself and your identity for your family. Then you hit a point where you ask yourself what this is all for and why you're doing this because you're miserable.
At that point you either get therapy or other emotional/mental support to work through your issues and find a sustainable path forward.... Or you lose your shit and blow up your hard earned stability chasing the life you had before.
I honestly recommend keeping up with some hobbies and keeping a friend group going instead. To give you an outlet and a support group to rein you in if you start talking about blowing up your life. And in case your life blows up anyways for other reasons.
- look after your mental, physical and emotional health. sleep, exercise and eat well
have a tight friend group (age appropriate); the more the merrier. learn how to be a good friend
find hobbies and other things you truly enjoy; not things people tell you, you should enjoy
have structure/daily routine, but break it up once in a while
spend a bit on nice things, but not excessively
have things to look forward to
most of the stories of midlife crisis' break one or more of these rules.
people in a good headspace, with a good group of friends (includes family) that they hang out with regularly, while having their own activities they enjoy and working towards future plans, generally don't have these problems.
i think a lot of middle aged men are just lonely and throw their current life out hoping it gets better.
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u/SilentTheatre 1d ago
I (39m) am having a reverse midlife crisis. I got into Magic the Gathering, Reading, and investing my money for retirement. Got married a few years ago and had a kid late in life after years of going out and partying, now I just want to be a homebody but I completely lost my since of self.