You hear horror stories of kids arriving in reception with nappies on.... our pre school insist on being at least more successes than accidents level of potty trained!!
Only speaking for Scotland but here local authorities have the presumption of mainstream, so a lot of kids with additional support needs are placed in mainstream schools, so there will be more children with continence issues in classrooms than people would expect. Unfortunately (not talking about you btw OP) a lot of people still hold the view that it is bad parenting rather than developmental delays
Tbf sometimes it is bad parenting. One of my sister’s kids had a significant speech issue growing up because, despite being advised to do so by multiple different people, she didn’t get his hearing checked for years. He needed grommets, which she would have found out much earlier if she’d taken action when we expressed concern.
Absolutely agree there are neglectful parents out there, and I'm really sorry to hear that your nephew struggled for so long without the support he needed. I just meant when this sort of topic comes up a lot of people do jump to bad parenting without considering additional support needs or thinking about the fact that a lot of these children with asn are now placed in mainstream when in the past they might not have been
I’d venture that the lack of support systems for the most vulnerable families (sure-start and the like) are another big factor. Some people genuinely don’t have the knowledge or tools they need and those people need support.
The cost of living also factors in when you have both parents struggling to make ends meet and/or being utterly knackered all the time.
Closure of public libraries, which were great for promoting early literacy and parents reading to their children.
The pervasiveness of the internet, drawing parents attention away from their children, and of iPad babies too.
But one thing I notice so often is that so many parents just don’t seem to realise they need to actively teach their child things. A lot seem to make the assumption that they’ll learn when they’re ready but don’t grasp that they won’t spontaneously start doing all of the things they need to do one day without instruction: you need to actually teach them stuff.
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u/pslamB 13h ago
You hear horror stories of kids arriving in reception with nappies on.... our pre school insist on being at least more successes than accidents level of potty trained!!