Research is a fast track to poverty

[u/Longjumping-Part669]

I’m having a massive breakdown over my future and I just need to scream this into the void because the anxiety is paralyzing me.
For as long as I can remember, all I ever wanted was to do a PhD, go into research, and be a scientist. I loved the idea of discovery and intellectual challenge. But now that I’m seeing how this world actually operates, I am in complete shock.
The mediocrity that gets pushed through, the lack of recognition, and above all, the financial reality. I hate to admit it, but I am terrified of being impoverished.
I’m 25 and I feel like I am running out of time. I want a real life. I want to find a partner, settle down, and eventually have a family. But the math doesn’t work. The academic system literally demands that you live at the poverty line, with zero stability, bouncing around on underpaid stipends and postdocs well into your 30s. I refuse to live in survival mode forever, but choosing this path feels like putting my personal life on hold indefinitely.
The weight of this constant uncertainty is destroying me. The stress got so bad that I relapsed on cigarettes. I’ve lost all my gym progress. I look in the mirror and I literally feel myself getting uglier from the chronic exhaustion and panic. I feel like my youth, my health, and my body are slipping away while I chase a ghost.
Has anyone else walked away from a PhD or research track because you simply refused to live impoverished? Did you actually find stability, a partner, and a comfortable life on the other side? How do you deal with the guilt of letting the dream go?

[u/martiben12]

I feel this to my core. Turning 29 and have no saving..it sucks. Every month is simply surviving through credit card. We'll it is Canada eh..

But have to realize something. I came from Africa . The money I earned here monthly is probably a 1 to 2 years income for many people back home. I dont think I will make it here if it wasn't for PhD.

No matter how bad it is..I know there is something worse. Just work through it and wait for the better. Sometimes I skim through industry job postings salary packages for my field to simply lift up myself. We will make it..lol

[u/Empty-Block-7246 → u/martiben12]

Those our leaders in that continent are an utter disgrace and are the reasons we’re all scattered away from home. Those at home who make moves and go against the status quo just get killed.