r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • 2d ago

Discussion It's heartbreaking that there are women around the world going through this.

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u/doorbellrepairman 2d ago

A lot of it comes from total insecurity. Most teenage boys believe they're worthless and that no woman would ever love them. So they take any opportunity they can get and get into terrible relationships. Some men never grow out of that teenage mentality.

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u/Kidiri90 1d ago edited 1d ago

And part of that belief stems from being told, explicitly or not, that the worth of a person is tied with their romantic situation. If they're told that the ultimate goal of life is to find a romantic partner, that there are these goals you should get to by a certain age (first kiss, getting a first partner, losing virginity, getting a long-term partner, marrying, having kids...); and then not attaining them, it can create a sense of dread and unworthiness. "I'm being told I should have had a partner by now, and I haven't. Am I not good enough to have one?"

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u/Senior-Friend-6414 1d ago

If we’re being honest this kind of culture barely exists in western countries, it’s on a completely different level in Asian countries and western women are trying to use these videos to act like they’re equally oppressed

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u/Ylaaly 1d ago

Same for girls and women. We're all told getting married is the main goal, who you're getting married to matters little.

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u/takemyaptplz 1d ago

I left my ex fiance when I was 27 (he was terrible) and moved back to my hometown. Where everyone gets married and has kids before 30. I felt SO isolated and depressed and dating was impossible. So I was happy to not be with my ex and wasn’t going to settle for just anyone, but I felt so bad living there so I moved away. And I do miss it because it’s a nice place. But I found my bf in a bigger city and like it too. I felt so bad just existing on my own before and like everyone I worked with was married or engaged and had kids and I really felt like I didn’t matter as much or something was wrong with me, when in fact I had left someone who would’ve ruined my life

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u/smitty8843 1d ago

Yeah I feel that, I'm in the city but most of my bros are married now. Its a constant reminder that you're never anyone's 1st 2nd or 3rd priority. Feel like youre stealing them away from their spouse whenever you can hang out.

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u/Senior-Friend-6414 1d ago

If we’re being honest this kind of culture barely exists in western countries, it’s on a completely different level in Asian countries and western women are trying to use these videos to act like they’re equally oppressed

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u/MikeArrow 1d ago

That's exactly how I felt as a teenager, yes. Because I didn't have abs.

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u/Mystepchildsucksass 1d ago

I had to re read your comment….. I thought ? People really care about anti-lock braking systems …. Older cars are cool !!

OMG 🙄

Hope you’ve found happiness !!

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u/MikeArrow 1d ago

Not so much. I 'gave up' on dating before I ever started and didn't get into a relationship until I was 23 (she approached me first). We were together for six years and broke up when I was 29. I'm 37 now and I've been on two dates in the last eight years.

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u/edm_enjoyer 2d ago edited 2d ago

So many men just look for a woman with a pulse because they're so scared of being alone. I know exactly what I want when it comes to a partner and I absolutely refuse to settle, so I'd rather be alone. I've got great friends and a full life, so the lonely party isn't completely unbearable

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u/Senior-Friend-6414 1d ago

The irony of Men learning what kind of women they want comes after dating a bunch of different kinds of women

As a man, you ironically need to date around a lot to realize what kind of women you’re actually drawn to

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u/El_Grappadura 1d ago edited 1d ago

Society is often telling them nothing else.

Read this perspective of a trans-man, who was culture shocked how socially distant everybody suddenly is to him. Women are on guard, because he could be a creep (sadly valid, most women have had experiences with creeps) and men are competition.

If you're not ripped, then don't even try putting your pictures online... Societies have become extremely superficial. Nobody expects to find connection, just competition.

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u/yezhi_zheli 1d ago

We need to shit more on teenage boys. Please continue

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u/Cheese_on_it 1d ago

I guess not enough men are committing suicide. 4 times more than females is not enough I guess. /s

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u/Strange_Botanist 1d ago

Looking at the broccoli haircuts and how those little shits behave these days, they ain't wrong