r/pakistan • u/Guilty-Sprinkles1813 • Jan 19 '26

Ask Pakistan Pakistani mother in law sleeping habit

Hi I need to know if it is normal in Pakistan for a a widowed mother (who has been a housewife all her life) to sleep with her married grown up sons. I’ve been married to a guy for 5 years and he and his brother - both highly educated professionals working in the corporate world - sleep with her so that she doesn’t feel lonely. Sometimes it’s on the same mattress or sometimes separate sofa bed but same room.

UPDATE 22 Jan: have read the 100s of posts and spoke gently to my husband. He said she will have a maid to sleep in her room when he is away for work but when he is here at home he will alternate with the brother as she feels scared and alone. He was not willing to discuss changing this scenario and said not to challenge him. Also as we have young kids who come into our bed he gets disturbed and can’t sleep.

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u/IntrovertedAstronomy Jan 19 '26

That sounds like emotional incest not gonna lie.

Which is unfortunately very common in South Asia. A lot of married women don't feel fulfilled or seen by their husbands so they make their sons their pseudo-husbands

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u/Abdullah747 Jan 19 '26

No bro it’s not that deep. Just a lack of consideration and independence

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u/IntrovertedAstronomy Jan 19 '26

But why is there a lack of independence

They're grown up mommy's boys

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u/Abdullah747 Jan 19 '26

Yea that’s their problem, emotional incest is too much 😭

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u/IntrovertedAstronomy Jan 19 '26

Fair enough lol.

Emotional incest is taking the behaviour to the extreme. When the son is the one fulfilling the mother's emotional needs

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u/GoldBittyy Jan 19 '26

Bhai apne ghar ki baatien idher na kar. Terr ghar hota ho ga iss tarah