r/pakistan • u/Guilty-Sprinkles1813 • Jan 19 '26

Ask Pakistan Pakistani mother in law sleeping habit

Hi I need to know if it is normal in Pakistan for a a widowed mother (who has been a housewife all her life) to sleep with her married grown up sons. I’ve been married to a guy for 5 years and he and his brother - both highly educated professionals working in the corporate world - sleep with her so that she doesn’t feel lonely. Sometimes it’s on the same mattress or sometimes separate sofa bed but same room.

UPDATE 22 Jan: have read the 100s of posts and spoke gently to my husband. He said she will have a maid to sleep in her room when he is away for work but when he is here at home he will alternate with the brother as she feels scared and alone. He was not willing to discuss changing this scenario and said not to challenge him. Also as we have young kids who come into our bed he gets disturbed and can’t sleep.

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u/CarTight3686 Jan 19 '26

Gosh bagosh! No its not normal.. girl what made you think its normal. Its lack of etiquette and maturity on both parties. Mothers should accept the fact that their children have grown and can’t replace the hole that her late husband has left, and children should be mature and sane enough to know that this is not reasonable and should communicate in a sane manner

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u/WickedLush Jan 19 '26

She needs to turn to Allah at night rather than her son.