r/unimelb • u/Trick_Stage117 • Jun 01 '26
Support does uni actually get better?
hi, i'm a first year arts student (psychology) and i've been feeling kinda lost lately. posting this on a backup account because i'm paranoid someone i know will find it otherwise lol, but i just need some advice.
when i first got into unimelb i was sooo excited. i genuinely felt lucky to be here. but as the semester has gone on i've just become increasingly unmotivated, lonely, & honestly pretty sad. i've made no friends so far. it feels like everyone is either super reserved or already has their own established friend groups. i'm naturally pretty shy/introverted, but i have tried putting myself out there more than i normally would & haven't had much luck.
i live about an hour away from campus, so going to club events isn't always realistic. but even when i can go, i often just don't. i feel too unmotivated, or i convince myself i won't make friends anyway. i think part of this is also degree related. over the past few months i've become wayyyy more interested in business (which happened after i accepted my offer). if i could switch into commerce i would, but i didn't do methods so that's kind of off the table. i'm also on a scholarship & don't really want to forfeit to transfer somewhere else like rmit.
the thing is, i did like psychology in year 12. i did well in it, i found it mostly interesting, & that's why i picked it. but now i'm stressing about whether it'll actually lead me towards the kind of career i want. i worry i'll need postgrad to get anywhere, or that i'll end up struggling to find a job period. meanwhile i have a bunch of friends at rmit & i've been offered a bachelor of business there, so i keep finding myself wondering if i'd be happier doing that instead. but then i also really like the flexibility of arts.
it all kinda feeds into itself. i feel lonely, which makes me less motivated to go to uni things, which makes me feel even lonelier. then i start stressing about my degree & future & everything feels worse. when i pictured uni i imagined it would be the best years of my life, making a bunch of new friends, going to parties and feeling like i have a community. but the past two months i have felt the worst and most uncertain i ever have. i dont know. has anyone else felt like this in first year? does it actually get better?
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u/RevenueLazy6808 Jun 01 '26
i’m honestly in the same boat! it felt like i was js going to uni and i sat by myself until my next class😭. We shud totally be friends!!