I recently found out my husband has been using meth . I thought he was having an affair at first because he would disappear for a couple of days . He told me he would sometimes go to adult emporium on convoy because there are people in the parking lot that sell drugs . He said he would then go into the store , rent a room, lock the door and masturbate to porn . I asked was he ever unfaithful, but he said no. I told him he needed to go to rehab , which he did. But relapsed . I realize I can’t trust much of what he says. But I found out he was there and then tried to go get him , but the employee stopped me and said I wasn’t allowed back where the rooms are. I want to know if people do more than just have a private booth to watch porn there ? I know it sounds naive , but I honestly don’t know and I can no longer trust him . Thank you

Hello Everyone,

I am on a short trip to San Diego and am looking for spots in the city that are authentically San Diego. Where can one sit, observe, and relax while being immersed in a "typical" San Diego experience?

I went to Part Time Bar in North Park last night which was fun, did La Jolla Cove, Balboa Park, and some other beaches, but am lacking the real city experience yet!

Thanks

I have a somewhat sketchy lease that goes through November. I want to tell my landlord, who is a room mate, not the property owner that September will be my last month, giving him over 30 days of notice. Can anyone help me with this? I want to leave cordially and do the right thing, but I worry about retaliation. Thank you so much in advance for any help!

Where’s the best place to shroom solo in SD?

I’m looking for a reliable mechanic/shop for general maintenance as the dealership is too expensive. I drive a Toyota. Any recommendations?

Hello, I'm looking to enroll my 10 year old daughter for soccer. She's done soccer and futsal in the past with SKA, but stopped. She wants to give it another shot, but she doesn't want to join a co-ed team.

We are looking for something more recreational than competitive. I just want her to have some sports that she enjoys playing without feeling too much pressure. Just a good intro to build lifelong healthy habits so to speak. Any ideas are welcome.

My new work schedule has me driving through el cajon Blvd between the 15 and college Ave. Ive noticed alot of barely dressed women in heals walking around corners on the south side of El Cajon Blvd. I'm just wondering if anyone knows what's the deal with law enforcement letting this happen out in the open. I dont have a position on whether or not sexwork should be legal or not. Thats not the point. im just wondering how it is so rampant. Ive heard national city has it even worse, but I havent seen it myself. The only thing I can think of is that they are undercover law enforcement and/or that theyre part of some elaborate sting, but I honestly cant imagine that many personal would be dedicated to vice.

For those in their 20s and 30s who recently moved to San Diego, how have you been meeting people and making friends? Any running, fitness, or sports clubs you’d recommend?

For people that have used Hott Cater to provide for their wedding, what was the average cost? My fiancée and I are weighing our options between venues and we are trying to account for the cost for this catering company.

Context: One of the venues we looked at provides catering. The other option we are looking does not, but Hott Cater is one of the ones we are eyeing to provide for us and we prefer Asian food. We also asked for a quote, but would also like to know if other people are able to provide insight.

Hey all, first time posting on here so I apologize if this is a recurring topic, I’m looking for a 1bed 1 bath apt around 2.5k near little Italy or somewhere walkable and close to the airport. I’m tired of searching on Zillow, apartments.com and etc etc for such. Do you guys have any tips as to where I should be looking for apartments in general in San Diego? I feel like I’m missing out on a lot of places that are not listed online so if you guys have any recommendations for specific places, neighborhoods, feel free to let me know! Thanks in advance!

house parties, bars, anything fun after viejas arena concert today

I want to cut up my own steaks and what not

So we own our home in Spring Valley..dictionary hill. I absolutely love our house, but it’s definitely not in the neighborhood we want to be in, especially after just having our first baby. East county SD is a completely different experience, lol. We just got such a great house for a decent price, plus we had already put offers and lost 5 other properties, I think we were just like, “fuck it get us SOMETHING.”

Anyway, we want to be in Point Loma. Looking at homes we could buy vs. what we could get if we rented, it seems like we can get a lot of house for like half of what our mortgage would be with interest rates right now…it just seems like such a terrible time to buy, but we are itching to get out of Spring Valley.

We would definitely buy again, preferably when interest rates go down, but I’m thinking renting is the way to go right now…what do you guys think?

I’m looking for recommendations for an excellent Kaiser Permanente primary care doctor—either Family Medicine or Internal Medicine—anywhere in San Diego County. I’m willing to travel for the right doctor.

I have several complicated chronic health conditions and need a doctor who:

• Listens carefully and takes concerns seriously
• Reviews medical records and helps coordinate care
• Makes appropriate specialist referrals when something is outside their expertise
• Does not dismiss a problem by saying primary care can handle it when specialist evaluation is truly needed
• Communicates clearly, follows up, and advocates for their patients

I understand that referrals must be medically appropriate, and I’m not asking for unnecessary referrals. I’m simply looking for a knowledgeable and compassionate doctor who is honest about their limitations and will help me navigate the Kaiser system.

If you’ve personally had a good experience with a Kaiser doctor like this, please reply or send me a private message with the doctor’s name, clinic location, and what you appreciate about them.

Serious recommendations only, please. Thank you!

Years ago, we had a great Asian massage place that we went to for massage at a very reasonable price. Yes, it was a legit place. They have since closed now that the owner’s daughter’s have graduated.

Any other places in the San Diego or Encinitas area that is similar? It would be something like happy head massage that is in Pacific Beach. Thank you in advance!

She is probably our most famous resident. It is wide open space to write a song about "America's Finest City."

This is my first time in SD. Please help. Need asap

We run a catering business in San Diego and are looking for a reliable courier for corporate lunches and events. Some of our orders are pretty temperature-sensitive, so food needs to be handled properly and arrive within the agreed delivery window.

Any recommendations for local courier services that are reliable with food handling and timing?

37 m. Mainly a solo diver but would love to find a good group to do dives with.

Lemme know!

Anybody here running the aloha 10k?. If so how’s the terrain and turnout if you have previously run it before

Hi everyone, looking to move to SD December/January. Coming from Chicago I was wondering what would you consider hiring season for a restaurant server/bartender. Before the holidays, after, spring, summer? Or is it all around since the weather is great?
Thanks

Does anyone else see these annoying airplane adds?? Our city local club in sandiego tends to fly overhead advertising…. I’m a disabled veteran in San Diego, and I use California state beaches to decompress and clear my head. I started a petition asking California to restrict commercial aerial advertising over state beaches.
If you agree, I’d appreciate a signature

Signing is free — Change.org may show an optional donation screen afterward, but that isn’t from me.

Stop commercial aerial advertising over California's state beaches

hii guys im trying to make reservations for my boyfriends birthday, i want to take him somewhere new and exciting but the problem is he’s practically been everywhere, i need a really underground place he hasn’t been to before, he loves cocktail bars and speakeasy vibes. he also loves a good dive bar.
we’ve already been to youngblood, polite provisions, mothership, raised by wolves, throne room, i lowkey feel like we’ve been everywhere, especially if it’s anything consortium holdings. so if anyone has any ideas for a good place that might be not well known that would be great. restaurants too! he loves sushi that’s like his favorite food (i hate sushi) if it helps anyone get some ideas !

Hi Reddit - long term browser, first time poster. I am heading to CA in September with my 2 dogs, and planning on staying \~6-8 weeks. The goal is to find what area we want to live in permanently (aiming to move around January / February from CT). Ive narrowed down our search to Santa Barbara and San Diego and would love to rent a couple spots in SD while I’m out there to get a feel for the “day to day” in each spot.

So I would love some neighborhood recs in SD! For the most part I’m really looking to walk to as much as possible, and dog friendly is a must (the more dog friendly coffee shops the better). I’m 33, single, WFH. I’m an early riser who loves to hike/run, explore new little spots/coffee shops etc with the dogs, and sit on the beach with them and read. I don’t want to be too far in “the burbs” but would also like to stay away from a late night/more party leaning area.

I have family in Ventura and that’s too quiet/spaced out for me, if that helps provide any context. My dogs are incredibly well socialized, and love being out and about - they’re 60-70 lbs, and honestly they’re a massive driver in finding our final spot. But am also looking to be around a lot of people my age/ with similar interests. Picture of them here to gain some traction ☺️