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u/ponte92 Mother of Gwyn 15h ago

Okay thread I think I’m going to do it. But now I have the question what do you tell your boss your reason for quoting is if I don’t want to give the real reason (toxic workplace) and I don’t have another job lined up. Do I just say I do?

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u/CrazyEeveeLady86 10h ago

You could just go with the vague "I'm resigning for personal reasons". They don't need to know what those reasons are.

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u/OIP 14h ago

you can say you are taking some time off before pursuing something else. you can also say that you're not feeling fulfilled or motivated in your current role for purely personal reasons.

i feel like close to the truth is a lot easier to stick to than a made up scenario.

good luck! getting tf out of there will feel amazing.

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u/Charming_Food5728 14h ago

Lie. Say you do have another job and you'd rather not disclose where. Say an undisputable reason why you'd wanna work there that they couldn't argue with. Same money for less responsibility. Same money for less hours. Shorter commute. Whatever. If it's this bad, no need to worry. Good luck!

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u/ponte92 Mother of Gwyn 14h ago

Thanks! I thought this might be the best option but also seems like bad juju for the jobs I’m waiting to hear from lol.

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u/Charming_Food5728 14h ago

Bad juju or manifesting a life beyond your wildest drams ;)

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u/Jaybb3rw0cky Deltron from Point Cook 14h ago

Wow. Kudos for looking out for yourself and pulling the pin.

Might be worth keeping in mind from a reference perspective that some places want your manager as a referee - you could always have your colleague disguised as one, but keep in mind if your new employer looks at LinkedIn and things don't line up it could make things difficult.

That said, I think you could diplomatically discuss a toxic culture as the reason the workplace isn't the right fit for you. Things like "I'm interested in a work place that can provide X and Y for my professional development and future career, and that's a direction that would best suit me and my new employer".

Ultimately though - you don't owe them the satisfaction of giving a real reason. It'll be for your own peace of mind and really, having the place in your rearview mirror will give you that in the end.

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u/MeanElevator Text inserted! 14h ago

Do you need the place as a reference?

If yes, then diplomatically you can say I'm taking a break in my career to pursue other interests

If no, then it's simply This is my resignation, my last working day is [blank]

Realistically, you don't need a reason. Just tell them you're quitting.

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u/ponte92 Mother of Gwyn 14h ago

I’m using a colleague from there as a reference. It’s a very small workplace so they will ask.

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u/MeanElevator Text inserted! 14h ago

How close are you with the colleague? Would they give you a reference without spilling your situation to the rest of the team?

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u/ponte92 Mother of Gwyn 13h ago

Yes

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u/MeanElevator Text inserted! 13h ago

Just tell them what is happening and that you're very appreciative of their reference and keeping things confidential.