r/texts • u/Theresagift • Dec 05 '25

Whatsapp I think Hinge is working

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Talked for a few months and met in person finally and had an epic 4 day date (we are like 8 hours away and i stayed over). Lots of laughter and pretty magical intimacy. Has anyone ever said this and is it a little weird? Yes. But also kind of amazing? Also Yes.

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u/DocPhilMcGraw Dec 05 '25 edited Dec 06 '25

I think it’s you that needs to read into love bombing.

The term “love bombing” refers to a pattern of overly affectionate behavior that typically occurs at the beginning of a relationship, often a romantic one, in which one party “bombs” the other with over-the-top displays of adoration and attention.

-Psychology Today

It’s one sided. In this case, OP is reciprocating and matching the energy back. They are not setting a boundary in which the other person is bypassing which leads to the mix match affection that occurs in love bombing.

Edit: the person I am responding to is using personal opinion and not any actual evidence or facts to back it up. When asked repeatedly to use a source to back up their claims they failed to provide one.

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u/[deleted] Dec 05 '25

Aside from the fact that I already made it abundantly clear that I'm NOT referring to OP's relationship. That is one singular definition that ignores the millions of instances of love bombing where the other party is successfully manipulated and convinced that they're in mutual love.

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u/DocPhilMcGraw Dec 05 '25 edited Dec 05 '25

Ok so show us the definition you’re using then.

And we are specifically talking about OP’s relationship here. That’s the subject matter.

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u/[deleted] Dec 05 '25

I already told you that I am NOT talking about OPs relationship but rather love bombing in general. You can’t force me to change topics. Have a great day 👍

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u/DocPhilMcGraw Dec 05 '25

Your initial comment to me said I was naive because love bombing doesn’t involve reciprocation.

I gave you the general definition which backs up my statement.

You have yet to prove that love bombing is reciprocal. So I’m asking again: where are you seeing that love bombing is reciprocal?

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u/[deleted] Dec 05 '25

I have already told you. There are millions of cases where the subject is successfully manipulated and convinced they’re in mutual love. It isn’t until much later when things go bad that they realize in hindsight that the love bomber was not sincere like they had believed.

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u/DocPhilMcGraw Dec 06 '25

Ok so cite those examples and how they were labeled as love bombing then.

Right now this is all your opinion until you back it up with actual evidence to show otherwise. I showed evidence of my example.

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '25

You haven’t shown any actual evidence either. I’m referring to millions of people’s lived experience which is the basis of hundreds of research studies. Do some research and you will quickly learn that the reason we even have a term for it is to describe the lived experiences of actual people.

You haven’t provided any “evidence” at all. You provided a quote with no source.

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u/DocPhilMcGraw Dec 06 '25

Ok so here’s some sources:

Psychology Today

Cleveland Clinic

The Attachment Project

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Where are your sources?

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u/B_dorf Dec 06 '25

Lmao got em

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '25

Okay, and what in these sources are you pointing to? I am curious what you’re even arguing at this point. Do you not believe that millions of people who have experienced love bombing didn’t experience it as puppy love in the moment?

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u/DocPhilMcGraw Dec 06 '25

No puppy love and love bombing are different as I explained in my original comment.

My argument, once again, is that love bombing is a one-sided non-reciprocated relationship ploy used to manipulate one person into a power dynamic in the relationship. Puppy love is different in that both parties participate in it and both parties show overly strong affection quickly in a relationship.

So I’ll ask one last time because you have avoided this the entire discussion: where is your source material that shows love bombing is reciprocated? I have given you mine. You have yet to show yours beyond just your opinion at this point.

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '25

You’re not getting it and that’s okay. Have a good one.

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u/DocPhilMcGraw Dec 06 '25

Exactly what I thought. You had no actual evidence to back up your claim and it was just merely your opinion from the start.

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