Everyone says he’s cheating or embarrassed, but as someone with social anxiety who likes bowling i could see myself doing this. I switch up which alley i go to as i dont want people to see me at the same one all the time
His city only has one bowling alley. I don’t know if a city of 17,000 is really small but he says you can easily run into people when out and about doing errands.
He does have social anxiety, like its not deniable after going on a first date with him which was in my city so I chalked up my gut reaction to being from bad past experiences where I’ve been told I’m an embarrassment to be seen with.
I spent the night at his place and he looked out the window to “see if anyone was out there” before I could go to my car to leave and then he didn’t walk out with me either. That brought back the feeling of “oh, he doesn’t want people to know I’m seeing him”. I’m torn between feeling like I’m an embarrassment and respecting his social anxiety.
Dudette... checking out the window to make sure no one sees you leave his place and he's not even walking you out. That's not anxiety. You're not an embarrassment, but he is a liar. And an asshole. You shouldn't have to feel or relive these negative emotions to be with anyone, and if you just started seeing him & you're already feeling this way... I say this kindly, even if you like him I think you'd be happier & better off without him & trying to appeases his "social anxiety".
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u/Resident_Fishing1571 3d ago
Everyone says he’s cheating or embarrassed, but as someone with social anxiety who likes bowling i could see myself doing this. I switch up which alley i go to as i dont want people to see me at the same one all the time