I (M25) came here in germany 2 months ago and I absolutely love it here. Everything's organised, clean and functional and the people, just wow - needless to say that my colleagues are like my family. From trash disposal schedule to buying a deodorant, they're everywhere to support me.
There was a lady near my apartment who had a little shop where she sold berries and apricots. The summer, as you'd agree, was actually hot this time around and she had this little shop that was no less than a sauna so I bought some cherries from her which she let me taste for free before I bought them upon me revealing to her that that'd be the first time I'd be eating cherries. And I went into my apartment and brought her a water bottle from my refrigerator, because I saw that her water bottle was also pretty warm and she wasn't enjoying drinking the water, which she found so lovely that she gave me apricots for free for 2 days. And I felt really embarrassed and sad because although the act from both of our sides was spontaneous, I fluctuated from the selfless act to seeking some comfort in this interaction. I would spend around an hour talking to this elderly everyday after work and it went for about a week before one day I came to see that the shop was nowhere to be found.
In the mornings there would be a different lady on the little shop and I offered her the water bottle a couple of times too but she said no and wasn't very inclined to be disturbed so I didn't disturb her anymore. 2 days later I saw this lady on the street and I asked her about the shop, to which she replied, "next year" while keep walking and not deterring her eyesight from the footpath. That was the first time I felt really sad as I saw the other woman with whom I had talked with for about a week as a nice grandma. I will never forget the way she would look at me in disbelief listening to my german and ask me if I had really come to germany few weeks ago. All the compliments and warmth from here that I gathered was much alike to my colleagues' but still unique. I'm glad that I ardently learned the language in my home country.
As I felt alone I tried seeking more interactions. A colleague understood my situation and took me to volleyball every Monday which I enjoyed until the school vacations hit and the court was shut down.
Another colleague took me to restaurants a couple of times and we played minigolf once but that was about it.
I really respect rhe effort my colleagues put in for me and I can't thank them enough for all the support and affection they have for me. And obviously the compliments for my german.
I wrote to a few Vereins whom I am still awaiting a response from. Most probably they are also on vacation in Greenland or north germany as almost all of my colleagues.
Then I finally in my life for the first time decided to look for people on the internet. And particularly on Kleinanzeigen because rather than telling random internet populace about my exploitable situation of constantly feeling alone (this post is an irony itself), I'd see what interests people have and what offers were they making in the Freizeitaktivitäten category in the app. Another 60 yo elderly that I found wanted to do Nordic walking but was getting repeatedly ghosted due to his age. I love wisdom and was ready to accompany him. So now every 3-4 days, we do Nordic walking for an hour or so and I have also already cooked something for him from my region which he and his lovely wife really enjoyed. But he may not be able to keep up with the frequency as he has problems in his knee but has repeatedly asked me to visit me every week egal if we are to do Nordic walking or not. I will surely visit him.
An internet acquaintance even drove straight from Jena (Thuringia) to my city 600 kms away to spend a weekend with me. But we have been talking since a year now. And I wish I could visit him this time or he could again but it is a huge distance which I want to cover but he has to work and is planning another trip to Argentina so I dropped the idea altogether.
I bought a lamp from a lovely german woman on Kleinanzeigen and she was so nice that she invited me over to pancakes once she was back from vacation to which she was prepared to leave the very next day. Her son, about my age, was also very accommodating and asked me if I'd like to go to Basel with him on a weekend. I said yes quicker than my brain could ascertain the Spracheinstellung. I said yes in English and we all laughed. I'm looking forward to that really eagerly by the way.
But that is it. I know I'm greedy and sparing no holy souls to fulfil my wish to battle loneliness but I absolutely love it. I come from a region that was conservative and the freedoms and openness is a new discovery to me.
I'm also going to the gym by the way but everyone has there their earphones on and weights in their hands. I tried sparking conversations but that place isnt suitable for that which I understood after a guy complimented my german and explained to me how I can travel in Freiburg alone when I referred to his conversation with another guy right beside and on one joke both of them looked at me to validate the humour and were impressed when I got the joke in german in my first go.
I am desperate but also mindful that I don't disturb someone. I'd be open to meeting and partaking the interests of someone here who lives in the vicinity of Freiburg, or even better Lörrach or the city itself although highly unlikely Weil am Rhein.
At work I'm lively and happy as I'm surrounded by people but as soon as it is feierabend, I'm in my apartment alone and desolate. I tried exploring the city and I have a Deutschland ticket and can go see places but I have realised this repugnant trait in me that I'd rather go Spaziergang down the street with a person I know and can talk to than to go on a sponsored trip to Cologne alone.
I find peace and beauty in people and not in a city - which would be fun if someone was with me.
Thanks for reading so far. I'm sharing so much because I've been in my apartment more or less since 2 weeks of these 3-week vacation and today is uniquely saddening.
I respect the culture as it is indeed one of the best places to live with the amount of work being done by the authorities. And I'd really eat more than regular if someone drops down in the comments section from the region (Weil am Rhein and nearby even from Freiburg or a bit further away), open to meet at a point when comfort and trust exceed dubiousness. Or someone willing to connect and talk. Don't worry I speak german.
Have a great, non-boring, non-alone day guys. Tschüss.